I’m religious with a small ‘R.’ I really believe this.. It doesn’t feel better until you’re way past it but eventually you’ll see the pattern
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I’m religious with a small ‘R.’ I really believe this.. It doesn’t feel better until you’re way past it but eventually you’ll see the pattern
I had a friend from school who stayed with me when I was at uni first year and she was so extroverted she was going to clubs by herself! I’m actually an extrovert I’ve realised, I the sense that once I’m comfortable w/u I don’t shut up, and I love going out, but it’s just that I’m not good at connecting with and mingling with ppl to begin withI would go for something like thatI went to an event once and I remember a really extroverted girl having a ball. I felt so out of my element. One guy approached and it put the fear of God in me — his job was as a private investigator. He told me all about the equipment he uses to eavesdrop on people
Never, ever again.
Bahaha I’m the opposite. If I’m talking I’m also doing a mental scan to make sure that I’m not having a psychotic break because I can be very reserved.
Have you thought of joining a book club?
I walked away from some people. They inferred that as they had more friends (I suppose on facebook or something) they are better than me.
Just remember, Hitler had a lot more friends than them, and you could infer that that more friends you have, the bigger the hole you are.....
Just remember, Hitler had a lot more friends than them, and you could infer that that more friends you have, the bigger the hole you are.....
I’d rather have a few good friends than huge amounts of pointless people.. They aren’t real friends when the tit hits the fan.
Thinking of everyone on this thread tonight no matter who or where you may be spending it, I know it can be hard for some to end the year on your own as this lonewolf has done so many times, May the new year be prosperous for you all 
I’m 29 and haven’t got any friends. People at work are colleagues and the only person I’m ‘closeish’ too over the last couple of years is my husband’s friends wife.
I feel lonely at times and wish I had a small group of close friends since school/college/uni or whatever, but I don’t.
I spend all my time with my husband, which I’m not complaining about! I’m also close to my parents.
It would just be nice to have 1 friend I really ‘connect’ with
You aren’t the only one it seems
I feel lonely at times and wish I had a small group of close friends since school/college/uni or whatever, but I don’t.
I spend all my time with my husband, which I’m not complaining about! I’m also close to my parents.
It would just be nice to have 1 friend I really ‘connect’ with
You aren’t the only one it seems
I could've written this word for word about myself!!I’m 29 and haven’t got any friends. People at work are colleagues and the only person I’m ‘closeish’ too over the last couple of years is my husband’s friends wife.
I feel lonely at times and wish I had a small group of close friends since school/college/uni or whatever, but I don’t.
I spend all my time with my husband, which I’m not complaining about! I’m also close to my parents.
It would just be nice to have 1 friend I really ‘connect’ with
You aren’t the only one it seems
Ah, glad I’m not the only one
It feels everyone my age has lots of friends who they’ve known for years!
I had a couple of close friends at primary and secondary school but we soon went our separate ways.
I have one friend who has 2 very very close friends that she has had for years and I am so jealous of it. I've another friend that is part of a very large group of friends, half of them she doesn't get on with, but still has to keep up the pretence. That I am not so jealous of! On the outset you would say oh my God a massive group of friends ye are all so close but in reality there's a lot of bitchiness, going behind people's backs, etc!Ah, glad I’m not the only one
It feels everyone my age has lots of friends who they’ve known for years!
I had a couple of close friends at primary and secondary school but we soon went our separate ways.
ETA when I say "I have a friend", I mean people from work that I talk to at lunch
Haha, I know what you mean with the people you talk to at lunchI have one friend who has 2 very very close friends that she has had for years and I am so jealous of it. I've another friend that is part of a very large group of friends, half of them she doesn't get on with, but still has to keep up the pretence. That I am not so jealous of! On the outset you would say oh my God a massive group of friends ye are all so close but in reality there's a lot of bitchiness, going behind people's backs, etc!
ETA when I say "I have a friend", I mean people from work that I talk to at lunch
it feels like I’m friends with them but I’m really not! As soon as 5:30pm hits, I don’t hear from them.You’re totally right with the bitchiness…that’s one thing I like with being on my own - there are no arguments or people talking behind your back. I had enough of that at school
…So I guess there are good and bad parts of being lonely haha
I have no friends and that’s the way I like it but I feel like people in my life try to make me think that I should have friends ,would be better off with friends ,should socialise etc .
I really really hate socialising and I’m genuinely happy just being on my own .I’ve got social anxiety and tbh my 3 kids and my partner are more than enough interaction for me .At the end of the day I just cherish 5 mins to myself ,I would hate to have to spend it on maintaining a friendship .I’ve said to my partner before that I have no friends and he’s like aww course you do .But I’m not saying it out of pity or becuase I feel sad about it .I actually think I may be autistic but that’s a whole other topic.
Anyway my point is why do people think I’m in the wrong because I don’t want to socialise and I don’t like being around people ? Is it that hard to believe that I genuinely just feel happier and less stressed without having friendships
I really really hate socialising and I’m genuinely happy just being on my own .I’ve got social anxiety and tbh my 3 kids and my partner are more than enough interaction for me .At the end of the day I just cherish 5 mins to myself ,I would hate to have to spend it on maintaining a friendship .I’ve said to my partner before that I have no friends and he’s like aww course you do .But I’m not saying it out of pity or becuase I feel sad about it .I actually think I may be autistic but that’s a whole other topic.
Anyway my point is why do people think I’m in the wrong because I don’t want to socialise and I don’t like being around people ? Is it that hard to believe that I genuinely just feel happier and less stressed without having friendships
I understand the wanting time to yourself. I crave solitude too.
I’m really struggling becuase since we moved my partners family keep coming over unnecessarily and Unannounced and I just hate it .It’s always at really random times ,like I’ll just be sat in my pyjamas on an evening and they show up.Plus how do you deal with it when you have children who naturally will want to socialise too.I don’t want them to be like me and I had friends when I was a child ,I want them to make their own choices but I find it so bloody hard to have to interact with the other mums .Man it’s hard !
That would drive me absolutely insane too. It's one of the things that puts me off moving in with someone. I'm such a control freak over my space.
I often get jealous of people who have huge friendship groups, or groups who they always seem to be out and about with, but then I remind myself that although on social media they may seem like a really happy group, chances are they're all bitching about one another and it's not all as rosy as it seems.You’re totally right with the bitchiness…that’s one thing I like with being on my own - there are no arguments or people talking behind your back. I had enough of that at school
…So I guess there are good and bad parts of being lonely haha
Although it is lonely having little to no friends, sometimes I think it's the best way to be as it just weeds out all the unnecessary drama!
Oh believe me ,if I could turn back time I would
I am the exact same! I have like one internet friend that I found on a game called Habbo (lol if you remember that game!) I’m 19, I was badly bullied throughout middle school up until year 9 in which I became home-schooled so since then I’ve never really found any friends and have been a loner, it’s horrible honestly. Seeing everyone out having fun having drinks together & stuff .. and I’m just sat at home with my dog with nobody to speak to everyday or make ‘fun’ plans with, it really gets me down. So glad I found tattle I never knew we had threads for these kinds of topics <3
What do you do now?? If you are 19, do you work? Go to Uni??
Hi, I am really glad to have found this thread. My brother passed away suddenly last year which has broken my heart. The dis-interest of some so- called friends, apart from the odd insincere Facebook message, some not even containing words just emojis, has been awful. People I have known for several years just seemed to go running for the hills at the first sign of me needing support. I'm quite a strong, independent person usually and think they just didn't know how to handle me being vulnerable, as these people have used me as sounding board / shoulder to cry on whenever they've needed with little or no thanks.
Anyway, the whole experience of losing a loved one has forced me to have a serious word with myself and think about what my brother would say. He'd tell them all to do one, so that's what I've done. I feel lighter as no longer concerned with these people, removed them from social media and now fully focused on positive things in my life and my family as we are still grieving. I've learnt the hard way not to invest in people if they don't invest in you. I can appreciate now that life is fragile. My advice to all of you is to stop worrying and give your attention to things and people you love. Energy flows where attention goes. These large groups of mates a poster above referred to probably all witch about each other anyway, posing for a picture together does not equal sold friendships. I wish I could be all of your friends as you all sound alright to me.
Anyway, the whole experience of losing a loved one has forced me to have a serious word with myself and think about what my brother would say. He'd tell them all to do one, so that's what I've done. I feel lighter as no longer concerned with these people, removed them from social media and now fully focused on positive things in my life and my family as we are still grieving. I've learnt the hard way not to invest in people if they don't invest in you. I can appreciate now that life is fragile. My advice to all of you is to stop worrying and give your attention to things and people you love. Energy flows where attention goes. These large groups of mates a poster above referred to probably all witch about each other anyway, posing for a picture together does not equal sold friendships. I wish I could be all of your friends as you all sound alright to me
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