TwooTwooTwitTwitTwoo
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I just wanted to send you some kind words and say I was thinking of you. I've supported a family member through a significant mental health episode/breakdown and it was incredibly difficult.I'm struggling, really struggling.
My mum is in the throes of a breakdown and / or psychotic depression and I'm finding it hard to cope.
She has struggled with her mental health for a long time but in recent months it has deteriorated, exacerbated a month ago by a situation with my sister and her children. My mum has found this whole thing hard to deal with and spiralled into a deep depression.
We had regular visits form the local crisis team (she came to stay with us) and she said all the right things about how she wanted to move on, felt like she had accepted things etc etc.... however it was all a front and she did nothing to do the CBT offered or any of the anxiety management techniques. Instead she has festered and ruminated over everything, which has led to the current situation.
Over the weekend she has developed delusional behaviour, is convinced I'm making telephone calls about her and is accusing my children of stealing bags of 2p coins. This is not like my mum at all.
She left our home in a fit of anger and walked to a shop to get a taxi. I called the crisis team who visited her at home. When is poke to them they were concerned at how her behaviour was almost staged, like she was masking how she was feeling. It was all very bizarre,
I'm now awaiting a call to see where we go from here, an admission is looking likely but I know she won't go voluntarily.
I'm so worried and frightened for her. I've never seen her like this and I'm so angry at my sister and her children for causing this. My sister has effectively washed her hands of everything leaving me to cope and I can't.
I have looked after her in my home for 4 weeks, have reassured her, cared for her, listened to all of her tearful outbursts along with trying to navigate the legal issues that have arisen with my sister. I am now essential the punch bag, I am the target for her irrational thoughts and she is constantly angry with me.
I love her so much but she can't see the harm she is causing, I know it's because she is so unwell but I'm frightened that she won't get better..
Thank you if you made it all the way through this, I have no-one to turn to. My husband is amazing but her can't grasp mental health issues and is upset to see the harm this has caused to me and our children.
You're already doing all the right things. All you can do is be there for her, reassure her and keep pushing for her to get help.
Try and find a little bit of time for yourself somehow too, although again that can be hard. I found I lived on adrenaline through the worst of it x