I wouldn't stop talking to one just because you meet the other. Ultimately it's all personal preference and what you're comfortable with, there are no hard and fast rules.
Text ALLLLLLLL the men. At least one will inevitably be a turd when you finally meet. If they ask, just say youāre talking to a couple of other guys: if this makes them jealous theyāre a crank and you know to steer clear.
They'll be talking to every woman they come across! Keep talking to both - people can get super flaky and disappear on you, or turn out to be assholes, so you don't want to put all your eggs in one basket.
I love her too! I go at least once a week and spent Monday afternoon in the Bold Street one!
The dating app scene has almost completely demolished 'courting' - it's normal to be speaking to and meeting multiple people at once, but obviously you don't have to do this if you're not comfortable with it. I'd suggest trying to arrange meeting them both for a drink (separately!) and going from there. You don't want to cut one off because you think you prefer the other and then have no chemistry in real life with the online-preferable man, if that makes sense.
Also very much this
I was really shocked - men were liking my profile before I had added a word about me or even posted a picture - I could have been anyone or anything!! I like older men so said 10 years which would take me to mid 50s. I am not joking I had 70 year olds liking me! The blokes I am talking to were the ones that I approached them. My detective skills have allowed me to hunt them down on social media / linkedin and it looks like they say who they are. Conversation of 'how was your day' is always tricky in T3 of a pandemic! No one is really getting up to much!!
Omg YES I love stuff like this, I wish we could collectively swipe for you!! Firstly duck those grandads, theyāre chancing it they probably have their age range set to 18+ and will swipe until someone matches them. Chuck the randy bastards in the bin and do not let them discourage you - the audacity! 100% talk to multiple men at once as there will be lots of time wasters or people just looking to shag, so youāve gotta run candidates co currently! Also itās about you finding what you like so youāve got to truly compare everyone thatās out there!
Thank youOmg YES I love stuff like this, I wish we could collectively swipe for you!! Firstly duck those grandads, theyāre chancing it they probably have their age range set to 18+ and will swipe until someone matches them. Chuck the randy bastards in the bin and do not let them discourage you - the audacity! 100% talk to multiple men at once as there will be lots of time wasters or people just looking to shag, so youāve gotta run candidates co currently! Also itās about you finding what you like so youāve got to truly compare everyone thatās out there!
There will be far wiser advice in these threads for you for people currently active in the dating market, but one thing I used to let happen to me (stupidly!) was - and I hope this doesnāt sound like a neckbeard moaning about being friend zoned cos itās not - I think a lot of men go on there lonely and just want to feel attention without ever being fully invested in the process of dating? Especially with apps itās so easy to instantly get that attention hit... Like theyāll shag a few people and chat to a few people because both make them feel good at the time. If youāre happy to chat with no expectations then fine but just be aware that lots of talk for extended periods =/= heāll be brill? He may just be using you to feel better and imo itās draining emotional Labour, maybe Iām a head but I donāt do pro bono chat with blokes I donāt want male friends sorry sweeties
This is really useful. I think my problem is that I dont know what I want. I'll experiment and report back on the process. Even talking to two blokes by text is draining as my memory is awful since the lockdown and I cant remember what Ive told one or the other - I should keep a log!
Look up negging, there will be a lot of that. Also remember itās a womanās market, men are desperate and will send anything in an attempt to elicit a response as itās an in! Block anything sleazy, itāll get worse I used to get sent messages about BDSM (Iām not a goth or anything??) or asked if Iād sell pics of my feet (was so skint I was tempted).Thank you
If all goes well I am speaking to them both on the phone at the weekend as I want to move on from texts to test if I like them. Aww you've all been lovely thank you. I nearly didnt talk to anyone as when I looked at my messages the next day I had some awful ones from men accusing my account being fake and one man calling me a golddigger as I didnt look my age (I do, I am very average looking but had out a nice photo of me on there as thats the point isnt it?).
Someone I know šŗļø got paid by an onliner. A policeman, infact. He wanted to be degraded, he would do anything she asked. Anything! She never had to do or show anything to/of herself. Easy money
Very relevant to online dating convo. Pretty sure I was messaging the one on the far right at the start of lockdown.This is not my effort
) I never want to think about second rows of teeth again tho NGLOoh don't look at me, I saw a window of non-lockdown opportunity, swiped a few times on Tinder, and lucked out that I didn't get a gargoyle. That D seems a long time ago now...
. But yes, work those numbers honey. 5) Too many emojis - what are you, thirteen?30 yr old me with no wisdom teeth: Iām so smart, Iāve already evolved!
Second this to @DustyeLovely to read the solidarity in here. It was a sad day for Fraus when the F&D and MT had to split but itās great to see the things youāve been thinking are actually thought by others! And @Dustye please donāt ever double think how you refer to your other half I wish you didnāt feel that way
