I know as a parent, even when diagnosed, I would NEVER change my child with autism for the world. I don't want to cure them either. They are who they are. It's not been easy, BUT I love how their brain works. I was having a conversation with them earlier today and the way they responded, I had to stop and think about it. Sometimes it's hard to see the world from their point of view, but at other times it makes me expand on my own thinking and how I see the world. My child has intelligence that I could never fathom, but still will act under their age. Just last night they were watching Blue's Clues while reading a textbook about the Periodic Table of Elements, randomly getting excited over facts in the book. Even if my child was lower functioning I still wouldn't want to change them. I know it's not my choice, but I do have friends with kids all over the spectrum. I wouldn't change them either. They all have their own personality, even if they are 19 years old but mentally act like a 5/6 year old, or a 4 year old that is just learning to walk. I love them and cheer them on the same as my NT child. It's like a person is a Linix living in a iSO world. Should we cure the Linix because it operates differently?
ASD is similar to Down's Syndrome in my opinion... There is no cure. There is a vast verity of varying intellects. There are some people that just have Down's. But there are also some that have ASD, IDD, and other things affecting them. The biggest difference is people with Down's have their "look" where ASD look "normal." They both are happy a lot of the time, but not saying they can't have or show other emotions.
In Abbie's case I feel P hasn't fully come to terms that Abbie has ASD and IDD. I also think A loves to use the autism to get attention for himself. He not only exploits her but autism as well. Them being in a restaurant and Abbie starts yelling and making large stims, someone says something or looks, will confront to "bring awareness" all while using autism as an excuse, when they brought her to an inappropriate restaurant/environment for her needs. I've wondered why they don't have her in things like Special Olympics. I know she does Surfers with Autism, but other than that and JSA... It's all about making her do things in an NT world the doesn't understand or seem to enjoy.
I know my child would go into sensory overload at some of the places they take Abbie, and my child can verbally say "Mom, I'm having a hard time." At Sea World last year we brought a stroller, noise canceling headphones, an iPad, and sensory toys for my child. We had a towel for the child to cover them-self in the stroller with what tools they needed when they were struggling. The child had asked to go to Sea World and we had talked about how busy and loud it would be, but still wanted to go. We got there at opening (10 am) and left at 9pm, they asked to stay for the dance party. They only used the stroller 2 times, one was to leave the park because they were so tired. With the proper supports the child had a blast, and has been talking about going back next this year. They keep asking to go to Universal to Harry Potter World, that is going to take a lot of preparing and figuring out coping skills, and what supports we need to bring/use.