Fathering Autism #28 Wet dog smells and laundry in a pile. Nose rubs & pool baths. Oh so vile!

[derr1117]

I watched that part and yes, definitely made me laugh too!! Also, that he is seeing and acknowledging that he is gaining weight... That right there is what I call “transferred weight.” I have personally seen it a lot in our special needs community, when one spouse cleans up their eating or does WLS, the pounds go right on to the spouse...

so that’s where my wife’s weight loss is going? Right to my stomach and ass

 

[Stripe69]

Tonight's vlog 10.6.20

Yes for once I agree with Arsewipe. You need to get off your fat arse and do something. Lazy or what.

 

[Maidengirl]

 

[Punchface]

Cause shorter hair looks “special needs”, isn’t that what they’ve said in the past?

 

[Bransmom27]

Like who is this lady Samantha!

 

[Maidengirl]

Cause shorter hair looks “special needs”, isn’t that what they’ve said in the past?

Yup!

 

[RocketQueen]

Abbie walks like she's 90 years old. She only moves fast if she thinks a treat is involved...then she's Flo Jo. It would really help her if they made her walk, but it's more fun for the vlog to push her on the trike.

Asa looks better with the beard.

Again...P is crammed into a shirt that's to small, and Isaiah just had to wrap Abbie up and torment her.

Typical day.

 

[Gina]

Was she not buckled in the cart? It’s so sad she doesn’t even know how to move fast when it’s raining. Oh and P is giving him big time attitude. Trouble in paradise ? Oh nvm they are the authority on marriage. . My husband and I just celebrated 18 yrs on Sunday and I can’t imagine spending all day everyday with him Now add in a special needs child and nope we’d be divorced or he’d be missing What diagnosis do you think she has besides Autism and Developmental delay ? I have my opinion but I will leave to myself and yrs I have a social work degree and I do know some things.

 

[Stripe69]

Cause shorter hair looks “special needs”, isn’t that what they’ve said in the past?

Well she is special needs and to be honest I think she has lost any cuteness she had

 

[Gina]

Was she not buckled in the cart? It’s so sad she doesn’t even know how to move fast when it’s raining. Oh and P is giving him big time attitude. Trouble in paradise ? Oh nvm they are the authority on marriage. . My husband and I just celebrated 18 yrs on Sunday and I can’t imagine spending all day everyday with him Now add in a special needs child and nope we’d be divorced or he’d be missing What diagnosis do you think she has besides Autism and Developmental delay ? I have my opinion but I will leave to myself and yrs I have a social work degree and I do know some things.

Sorry I rewatched it I see the seatbelt now.

 

[Noir Fan]

View attachment 151221Someone needs to tell Assa to learn how to spell.. Seriously, how does one not know the difference of “of” and “off”?!?

I noticed that right away when I got the email of the vlog. Oy!

 

[Sam-I-Am]

Was she not buckled in the cart? It’s so sad she doesn’t even know how to move fast when it’s raining. Oh and P is giving him big time attitude. Trouble in paradise ? Oh nvm they are the authority on marriage. . My husband and I just celebrated 18 yrs on Sunday and I can’t imagine spending all day everyday with him Now add in a special needs child and nope we’d be divorced or he’d be missing What diagnosis do you think she has besides Autism and Developmental delay ? I have my opinion but I will leave to myself and yrs I have a social work degree and I do know some things.

I thought the same thing. My husband just spent multiple weeks home, due to being furloughed and we were all glad to get the phone call for him to go back to work...
We have been married for 17 years (18 year soon) but I thought my training in Criminal Justice was going to have to be used soon, on where and how to hide a dead body, if he didn’t get back to work soon!!!
Love him to death but he leaves for 5-7 days at a time and I love the distance that comes with it too..

 

[allthatnutters23]

I'm sorry but there is absolutely no way she is an 18/20 on her bottom half. No Ma'am. Someone mentioned lane bryant sizing is different and it must be because even "100" pounds down.. she is not an 18/20.

I know clothing sizes depend a lot on the company/retailer. I know my size varies a lot depending where I buy from. But, I still have a hard time believing she would be a 14 on top and 18/20 on bottom at even other plus size retailers.

God shoot me down for this but I gained 100lbs after my youngest regressed and had health issues... same year my husband got diagnosed with medical stuff so I stress eat and am a "pigcilla"

I am 5'6 260lbs and a size 22 sometimes 24 on bottoms and a 3x on top. I *think* I look smaller than P but who knows. At 200lbs I was a size 18. 165 a size 12....... I'm sorry I can't imagine her being an 18. When I was 140lbs I was a size 6/8. and a size medium.

 

[WowMeowMeowWow]

Cause shorter hair looks “special needs”, isn’t that what they’ve said in the past?

Yes! Like the honking and tantrums doesn’t look and sound like special needs. They are so ridiculous.

 

[allthatnutters23]

Okay so before I say what I'm thinking, I want to let you know that this isnt an attack and not just directed at you

I really struggle with anything that hints that abbies issues may stem from birth. It very well could be true, we dont know, but I worry that it comes across as blaming mom. When it comes to special needs, moms are often blamed. I *think* I remember P saying both kids were delivered via C section, and at least here in canada, that needs to be an emergency of some kind.

Both my kids are special needs. When I got pregnant the first time at 27, I was 95lbs (5'3"), so obviously underweight. I was told i would need to gain more weight than the average person, and i did try. However, i didnt gain what they wanted.

When he was diagnosed, these were the questions i was asked: how much weight did you gain? Did you know not gaining enough while pregnant increases the risk factor for autism? How was birth? (He ended up being a forceps delivery, as he was backward, and he pooped in there). Did you take your vitamins? Did you fall, or drop him once he was home? Was he breastfed? On and on and on.

My second is also autistic. I got the same treatment, with the addition of "why would you have a second when you knew the dx of the first?". Questions of my weight, my hormone levels, if I played with them enough when they were little.

It's so discouraging. While I think that P wasnt very involved, that isnt true for a lot of us. I gave my life over for these little guys, breastfed each of them 3 years each and even delayed their shots a little and yet here we are.

I know this is long and I hope I didnt sound like I'm attacking at all. I know of so many women in my autism circles and they all get asked about birth and pregnancy and never is dad asked. My husband is autistic. Maybe it isnt me, you know?? Maybe it just is.

I think its natural to wonder, esp as P wont talk about it, but maybe she is sensitive to it. I know I am, and I am very tired of feeling blamed for it. (My second also ended up being an emergency, as my placenta abrupted, I bled out, and he was five weeks early)

Are their issues related to birth? Maybe. But I really think it's just the way the brain is wired.

I'd love to hear what others here- particularly moms of special needs kids think. Does it bother you? Do you feel blamed in some way? Maybe that's why there's so much focus on Isaiah- maybe it helps with inner guilt? I wouldnt know, I dont have an NT kid.

All the best, hoping this comes off the very gentle way I'm intending it to be!

For what it is worth my first I gained "toomuch" and he was a NICU they said all the same tit and on top of that blamed his prematurity. Second gained the right amount but he was a large baby and they now blame that. We mothers already blame ourselves and specialistsdo not help. I was told I allowed my younger to play too much on his own bc his brother had so many therapies they needed me in for.

 

[Punchface]

Yes! Like the honking and tantrums doesn’t look and sound like special needs. They are so ridiculous.

I think it’s partly because Cilla is forever mourning the little daughter she didn’t get (but Asa did... ). Girls are “supposed” to have long hair that you can plait and curl and put pretty clips in, and if Abbie has got long hair at least she’s some of the way there to being the ~dream daughter~. I dunno, that’s just my take on it

 

[derr1117]

Was she not buckled in the cart? It’s so sad she doesn’t even know how to move fast when it’s raining. Oh and P is giving him big time attitude. Trouble in paradise ? Oh nvm they are the authority on marriage. . My husband and I just celebrated 18 yrs on Sunday and I can’t imagine spending all day everyday with him Now add in a special needs child and nope we’d be divorced or he’d be missing What diagnosis do you think she has besides Autism and Developmental delay ? I have my opinion but I will leave to myself and yrs I have a social work degree and I do know some things.

When my wife an I first got together, I had been living alone for 11 yrs while wifey lived with her mother. I told wifey that if we moved in together I would still need my alone time. 12 yrs later and we are still very happy and I get my alone time

 

[therealamylynn]

That's just weird.

Weather forecast, cloudy with a chance of chaos.

 

[RocketQueen]

Oh yeah, did anyone else catch Asa mentioning that P is a "real YT" now because she got approached by the Fit Fab Fun people?
Such an influencer!
We'll see that # soon.

 

[WowMeowMeowWow]

I think it’s partly because Cilla is forever mourning the little daughter she didn’t get (but Asa did... ). Girls are “supposed” to have long hair that you can plait and curl and put pretty clips in, and if Abbie has got long hair at least she’s some of the way there to being the ~dream daughter~. I dunno, that’s just my take on it

I agree that ’s desire for a “ normal” girl is the reason for the long hair. I hate that for Abbie. I feel like after awhile she would become annoyed with stringy hair hanging in her face all the time, and she has no way of expressing that if it does bother her.