I literally want to jump through the screen and give Abbie the biggest hug and tell her that it will be okay, when I see her sitting on the bar stool, with her head in her hands... Then I would literally go into a verbal disagreement with Asa and get her out of the house, while it is being done.
I don't see how Asa can stand there and talk, with Abbie looking so defeated and upset. Her body language definitely gives off the "duck off Dad and leave me out of it" posture.
Oh and back to the ABA and therapist thing. Asa is stepping around it saying "our ABA therapist agreed to come and help with the respite workers and will meet with any of the therapist, to go over any issues that Abbie is having and help settle any issues. This could definitely be happening but it isn't a whole session and is usually just a quick phone call, email, and can be used in lieu of parent meeting (usually, there is 10-15 minutes billed into each session, for paperwork and parental time). If it is billed together though, that is a huge no-no (usually one would agree to not bill, while the other one did).
Florida runs like NC though and even if my respite worker tried to bill over an appointment with doctor, therapist, hospital (yes, they even look there), it will kick back the respite workers hours and deny payment. Too many denials and it is flagged for possible fraud.
Sadly, with Medicaid, there is so many cases and never enough workers to properly investigate issues like this, unless the computer system picks it up.