on a side note: an update on my MIL…
they administered last rites today and took out her breathing tube and shut down the machines. She’s breathing on her own but they don’t know for how long. She briefly opened her eyes and acknowledged that my wife and her brother were in the room. Palliative care was called earlier a plan is in place but she’s too weak to be moved to hospice.
keep my wife and her brother in your
as my MIL transitions to the next life.
Oh,
@derr1117 I was really hoping that after her surgery Mutti would improve and it's so sad to read this news today.
For those of us who have lived this experience with one or both of our parents, we know and understand what everyone is going thru and wow, there is nothing that anyone can say to make this experience any easier. It is something that once experienced will change people forever. So much so, that just reading your words takes me back to both my mother and father's deaths and what I was feeling/experiencing during their final 24 hours.
There is something equally gut-wrenching but beautiful about holding our parents when they leave this world. The final 24 hours with both of my parents consisted of a one-sided conversation, where I talked, (or my brothers did) told them stories of their lives, reminded them of how much their children loved them, read to both of them, and thanked them for being the best mom/dad/teacher/friend a person could ask for. On some level, I'm certain both of them heard those words. I would like to believe that they left this world feeling the love and support from my brothers and I as we held them, and they took their final breaths.
They were both there for the three of us when we came into this world, and being there for them was necessary, and heartbreaking, and also brought closure in an odd way. It was an honor to be there for them both during their passing.
If you don't know what to say or do, simply give her a hug, tell her you love her, and ask her what you can do to help her.
It will mean so much to her, it will make all the difference in the world, I promise you that.
I wish I could have sent this to you in a PM or on or FB or somewhere, other than clogging this thread, but I don't have that option or know how to find it, without looking like a Whimsical stalker
...so I hope this long post this is ok on here.
Sending big Whimsical hugs and positive vibes your way.
xoxo