Faces By Grace #8 Didn’t you know she’s the next Oprah? All she needs now is a Gifted bra

[Airy-fairy]

I can understand her getting anxious at being called out. I think if anyone was being criticised alot it would manifest in some way. So her anxiety is probably situational. She's anxious when she's in a rut and being criticised for laziness and half assery.

I think most people here are secretly rooting for her - a lot of people here who followed her years ago and enjoyed her content when she kept busy. If she addressed some of thr legitimate concerns and properly looked after herself and applied herself to her job and stopped lieing and took some accountability I think she'd get a lot of support.

Not getting at you, but seriously.
How could you support her when she is a bare faced liar?
She gets anxiety, and goes upstairs to meditate, but she's really deleting comments from her page.
Then she posts she's editing on her pc at 6am, is reading her book in the car...before her therapist?
Nobody can flick from one thing to another when you're in the depths of anxiety. Reading a book, an exciting one at that, well, it isn't possible. It's physically not possible.
How can people relate to that or support that?

 

[Get off my chest]

I can understand her getting anxious at being called out. I think if anyone was being criticised alot it would manifest in some way. So her anxiety is probably situational. She's anxious when she's in a rut and being criticised for laziness and half assery.

I think most people here are secretly rooting for her - a lot of people here who followed her years ago and enjoyed her content when she kept busy. If she addressed some of thr legitimate concerns and properly looked after herself and applied herself to her job and stopped lieing and took some accountability I think she'd get a lot of support.

As a long time follower and supporter of grace .. I bought the selection box she brought out... I bought stuff on her swipe ups... I stood up for her for years on forums.. I was super nice and supportive .. and then I asked her a genuine question about a legitimate concern ... amd guess what .. she deleted and blocked me

... no reply.. no answer... no explanation... after all the years I support her and that what I got...

So from my perspective.. no I certainly am not rooting for her.
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[Madamex]

As a long time follower and supporter of grace .. I bought the selection box she brought out... I bought stuff on her swipe ups... I stood up for her for years on forums.. I was super nice and supportive .. and then I asked her a genuine question about a legitimate concern ... amd guess what .. she deleted and blocked me

... no reply.. no answer... no explanation... after all the years I support her and that what I got...

So from my perspective.. no I certainly am not rooting for her.
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I'm not rooting for her either.

 

[MarieLou]

So 7pm she had to go lie down and meditate? Was that not the same time that she was deleting comments?!? I’m sure she has anxiety and was in a panic last night when people started questioning her but she was flat out deleting any questions on the competition

Good old Alexa just told me that at 16 hours ago was 6.39pm... so grace had to go lie down and delete comments and rage to herself that she was being called out again

I don’t doubt she had that feeling in her chest, I get it when I’m nervous too!

 

[Quackers]

Is grace limiting her viewers to stories. I’ve two accounts and couldn’t see any of butter story or kindle etc. Was confused seeing the chat here. Checked with my other account and there it is in that one. Would ya have the energy like to me at that craic.

 

[Jackjack38]

This is my take on things, she cannot handle any stress whatsoever!! She is unable to adult.
She started all this stuff off along time ago, as something fun, a hobby and she could probably say what she wanted and chat away and nothing was ever analyzed too much because it was all just abit of fluff.
Now it's a business, it's her livelihood whether she wants it to be or not. She rakes in money, gifts, freebies etc etc and so with all that comes accountability.
If I walk into a shop and buy something the shop has a responsibility to be above board with advertising and all that , so does Grace. She is selling herself, she is recommending products, products that people will spend their hard earned cash on and so she needs to be seen to be forthright and honest. She needs to give proper reviews or tutorials. She's being paid too.
I'm just not sure she gets this, people have a right to comment and pull her up on things. It's about being transparent to her followers or customers really.
She comes across as totally clueless to this, that comments that don't rave about whatever she's on about are somehow seen as just nasty trolls trying to take her down when in fact she is a business and people have a right to question her.
She chats about things that make me wonder if she still sees her page as just a pastime or like she's chatting to friends . Like talking about her thrush, nobody and I mean nobody needs to hear about that except maybe her G.P.
I feel like she really isn't cut out for the Insta game but she's abit stuck now. We all like honesty and some realness (as in life isn't picture perfect all the time) from people we follow but with Grace there's too little honesty and way too much realness/moaning.
Sorry this is way longer than I planned!!!

 

[I drink & I know things]

She’s ‘so educated on her anxiety’ suffering 15 years but has zero grasp on it. And the tool she uses is the calming app. that therapist hasn’t taught her any tools to use, CBT, mindfulness, given her access to private exercises online etc. The mind boggles

 

[EmmaAmy]

She’s ‘so educated on her anxiety’ suffering 15 years but has zero grasp on it. And the tool she uses is the calming app. that therapist hasn’t taught her any tools to use, CBT, mindfulness, given her access to private exercises online etc. The mind boggles

I was thinking that as well about the app, after all the years of therapy and thousands of euro spent she's using an App??! Would the therapist not have given her coping mechanisms?

 

[Kilingtime]

I was thinking that as well about the app, after all the years of therapy and thousands of euro spent she's using an App??! Would the therapist not have given her coping mechanisms?

My teen has been having counselling for 3yrs now- 2 of which have been pretty intensive CBT learning anxiety coping skills. She was advised to utilise the apps if necessary as well which she does sometimes, but there are other coping skills she utilises more successfully.

I find it VERY hard to believe Grace has been having therapy for FIFTEEN years and not been taught these skills.
IMO this 'anxiety' she has manifested is a total bluff job, pulled out whenever she's called out on shady crap but it leaves her looking stupid as the stuff she says is literally pulled from anxiety/cbt websites, and in the next breath she's off out for dinner & drinks, or a day long photoshoot/shopping spree.
It makes me pretty angry when she does this after having witnessed my child having anxiety attacks which leave her curled in a ball unable to move and utterly drained.
And I KNOW they affect different people differently in terms of severity and how they are able to cope, but she just doesn't come across as genuine.
My SIL also suffers, but as a mum of 3 and a full time nurse, she also has it in the back of her mind that she HAS to manage them somehow. There's no way she'd be napping at all hours and leaving my brother to run the house alone. She too has undergone therapy and is on meds to manage her condition.
It's a part of their lives and they're both learning to cope and live their lives the way they should be able to.
Grace seems to be spoilt rotten and have no inclination to 'get better'.

 

[Boredofinfluencergram]

Exactly!! She’s a bleeping mother of two, she would want to seriously cop on to herself sitting around editing snaps about 10 mins before she put up a video that there was no editing of body shape and we all saw her real size! She’s fooling no one with more than 2 brain cells anyway

Exactly. Nobody cares what size she is or what she weighs. People are healthy at all different sizes with different shaped bodies. Once someone is happy in themselves then what size they are is irrelevant. What I do care about is using her weight as content, claiming to lose weight when in fact she’s editing pictures or posing a certain way to make herself look slimmer. Also saying she’s losing weight when she’s clearly not sticking to a healthy eating or exercise guideline. Come on and be bleeping honest. If the weights not moving, there’s no shame in it. Instead she shites on about having take aways multiple times a week and claims she’s losing weight but she’s actually editing her pictures or posing cleverly. That is so so dangerous. For her and anyone watching her stories.

 

[notionseleven]

Not getting at you, but seriously.
How could you support her when she is a bare faced liar?
She gets anxiety, and goes upstairs to meditate, but she's really deleting comments from her page.
Then she posts she's editing on her pc at 6am, is reading her book in the car...before her therapist?
Nobody can flick from one thing to another when you're in the depths of anxiety. Reading a book, an exciting one at that, well, it isn't possible. It's physically not possible.
How can people relate to that or support that?

I just think she's lost at the moment. And actually since she had kids she's been so different. I'm not defending grace or any of the shady or deceitful tit she has done. Saying I'm rooting for her is maybe a bit much, but a small part of me has this niggle that I hope she listens to the criticism and helps herself in an actual useful way and uses her platform in a more honest way. And I think if she did there would be a few people on here who would be happy for her if she did. I won't hold m breath though.

Our feelings about her are rooted in our own experiences too. I never bought anything from her or supported her in a big way so that obviously colours my view. I also had mild panic attacks and anxiety which was related to a job i hated so was very much situational. My panic attacks were mild and short lived (like a few minutes). I'd feel a bit on edge the rest of the day but could socialise and eat and go about the rest of m day as normal. In the moment I felt like I was dying but within a short time period I'd be a fully functioning human again. I don't think some commenters sweeping statements about how x or y couldn't be a sign of anxiety are helpful - anxiety manifests in SO many different ways. I don't know if she's faking it - her dishonesty about other stuff obvious undermines everything she says. But I personally don't like comments about what anxiety defo is or defo isn't. There are literally hundreds of combinations of symptoms and presentations. I just think it's useful to remind ourselves of that.

My teen has been having counselling for 3yrs now- 2 of which have been pretty intensive CBT learning anxiety coping skills. She was advised to utilise the apps if necessary as well which she does sometimes, but there are other coping skills she utilises more successfully.

I find it VERY hard to believe Grace has been having therapy for FIFTEEN years and not been taught these skills.
IMO this 'anxiety' she has manifested is a total bluff job, pulled out whenever she's called out on shady crap but it leaves her looking stupid as the stuff she says is literally pulled from anxiety/cbt websites, and in the next breath she's off out for dinner & drinks, or a day long photoshoot/shopping spree.
It makes me pretty angry when she does this after having witnessed my child having anxiety attacks which leave her curled in a ball unable to move and utterly drained.
And I KNOW they affect different people differently in terms of severity and how they are able to cope, but she just doesn't come across as genuine.
My SIL also suffers, but as a mum of 3 and a full time nurse, she also has it in the back of her mind that she HAS to manage them somehow. There's no way she'd be napping at all hours and leaving my brother to run the house alone. She too has undergone therapy and is on meds to manage her condition.
It's a part of their lives and they're both learning to cope and live their lives the way they should be able to.
Grace seems to be spoilt rotten and have no inclination to 'get better'.

Well this is it - grace has privilege and is spoilt rotten. She doesn't bother trying because she doesn't really need to. She doesn't need to go out the door 5 days a week to work at a job to pay the mortgage. And she could go to therapy for 50 years and not change - as you say they teach you the skills and you practice them and work hard to reap the life long benefits

 

[AoifeD29]

I have been following Grace since she was pregnant with Sienna and living in her mams house. I always liked her and when I was on maternity leave and following slimming world plans she was always the first one I would watch, back in the snapchat days.
I have been watching Grace though through one eye the past few months. I definitely don't click into her as much as I used to and this is the reason why... I find a lot of her content very upsetting for me. She reminds me of me after I had my last baby. No motivation, lack of desire to get stuff done, feelings of hopelessness, severe anxiety, taking any sort of criticism to heart and thus in turn feeling awful and anxious. I had no get up and go and has all these great plans but nothing ever came of them because I hadn't the get up and go to do it. I was diagnosed with PND and PTSD when my youngest was 10 months old. she is now 4. I am now on medication, have counselling, CBT but most importantly my diet and exercise has changed for the better. My days are planned out and I keep structure in my life. I work full time, have kids, a very supportive husband and bills to pay! I know that if I even deviate off track with structure I can feel my anxiety come back. Watching Grace at the moment gives me a knot in my stomach and I don't mean that in a horrible sense. I just wish I could reach out to her and shake her. She needs to come off Instagram and take time to find balance in her life again. She is juggling all these balls in the air and she is completely lost. She has 2 beautiful children and Chris appears to adore her. If nothing else she should be trying to get in a better head space for them.

 

[notionseleven]

I have been following Grace since she was pregnant with Sienna and living in her mams house. I always liked her and when I was on maternity leave and following slimming world plans she was always the first one I would watch, back in the snapchat days.
I have been watching Grace though through one eye the past few months. I definitely don't click into her as much as I used to and this is the reason why... I find a lot of her content very upsetting for me. She reminds me of me after I had my last baby. No motivation, lack of desire to get stuff done, feelings of hopelessness, severe anxiety, taking any sort of criticism to heart and thus in turn feeling awful and anxious. I had no get up and go and has all these great plans but nothing ever came of them because I hadn't the get up and go to do it. I was diagnosed with PND and PTSD when my youngest was 10 months old. she is now 4. I am now on medication, have counselling, CBT but most importantly my diet and exercise has changed for the better. My days are planned out and I keep structure in my life. I work full time, have kids, a very supportive husband and bills to pay! I know that if I even deviate off track with structure I can feel my anxiety come back. Watching Grace at the moment gives me a knot in my stomach and I don't mean that in a horrible sense. I just wish I could reach out to her and shake her. She needs to come off Instagram and take time to find balance in her life again. She is juggling all these balls in the air and she is completely lost. She has 2 beautiful children and Chris appears to adore her. If nothing else she should be trying to get in a better head space for them.

It sounds like you've done so well girl!
You've worked hard and you know your triggers and management strategies.
This is why I worry about grace - I feel like there's only so long before she glosses over these issues before there's some kind of big mental break.

 

[Boredofinfluencergram]

Well this is it - grace has privilege and is spoilt rotten. She doesn't bother trying because she doesn't really need to. She doesn't need to go out the door 5 days a week to work at a job to pay the mortgage. And she could go to therapy for 50 years and not change - as you say they teach you the skills and you practice them and work hard to reap the life long benefits
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you hit the nail on the head here. She has the privilege to wallow in it and doesn’t even see that. That’s what grates on most people. They have crippling anxiety and depression but they still have to get up every morning and get to work/mind kids etc etc. It must be infuriating to watch someone in such a privileged position (with family/partner support, no job commitments) wallow and not help themselves and go round and round in the same incense/meditation/nap/therapy circle. She needs structure in her day and purpose and sitting around creating content and talking into her phone is not giving her that. She needs to reassess and I say that coming from a place of concern for her. She needs time off and time out.

 

[Get off my chest]

Well this is it - grace has privilege and is spoilt rotten. She doesn't bother trying because she doesn't really need to. She doesn't need to go out the door 5 days a week to work at a job to pay the mortgage. And she could go to therapy for 50 years and not change - as you say they teach you the skills and you practice them and work hard to reap the life long benefits

you hit the nail on the head here. She has the privilege to wallow in it and doesn’t even see that. That’s what grates on most people. They have crippling anxiety and depression but they still have to get up every morning and get to work/mind kids etc etc. It must be infuriating to watch someone in such a privileged position (with family/partner support, no job commitments) wallow and not help themselves and go round and round in the same incense/meditation/nap/therapy circle. She needs structure in her day and purpose and sitting around creating content and talking into her phone is not giving her that. She needs to reassess and I say that coming from a place of concern for her. She needs time off and time out.
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And then you hit the nail on the head also..

She has the privilege to wallow in it and be spoiled.. and yes it infuriates me as I have no family etc.. I work... single mam.. crippled with anxiety and severe depression .. but you go to therapy . Listen .. and work at it.. it's hard bloody work... you dont want to do it... you dont want to work . You dont want to cook .. but... you have to... you have no choice but to get up and fight ...

And then theres grace ... who wallows in the poor me.. 15 years... Australia.. kips made me dinner ..I needed me time .. everyone mind me and my kids...

 

[Jellybb]

you hit the nail on the head here. She has the privilege to wallow in it and doesn’t even see that. That’s what grates on most people. They have crippling anxiety and depression but they still have to get up every morning and get to work/mind kids etc etc. It must be infuriating to watch someone in such a privileged position (with family/partner support, no job commitments) wallow and not help themselves and go round and round in the same incense/meditation/nap/therapy circle. She needs structure in her day and purpose and sitting around creating content and talking into her phone is not giving her that. She needs to reassess and I say that coming from a place of concern for her. She needs time off and time out.

And then you hit the nail on the head also..

She has the privilege to wallow in it and be spoiled.. and yes it infuriates me as I have no family etc.. I work... single mam.. crippled with anxiety and severe depression .. but you go to therapy . Listen .. and work at it.. it's hard bloody work... you dont want to do it... you dont want to work . You dont want to cook .. but... you have to... you have no choice but to get up and fight ...

And then theres grace ... who wallows in the poor me.. 15 years... Australia.. kips made me dinner ..I needed me time .. everyone mind me and my kids...
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What’s the Australia thing? I only started watching this mess again due to the boredom of furlough

 

[Jackjack38]

As my Mam would always say, she's mollycoddled.
I do get what someone mentioned earlier, about losing yourself alittle after kids. I know I did, you forget the person you were before or maybe it's that you don't forget and long to be them again. I know my shape changed too after kids and I still struggle to dress my new body shape and get quiet down about it but if Grace is upfront about her body maybe that would help alot more women post babies!!

 

[Get off my chest]

And then you hit the nail on the head also..

She has the privilege to wallow in it and be spoiled.. and yes it infuriates me as I have no family etc.. I work... single mam.. crippled with anxiety and severe depression .. but you go to therapy . Listen .. and work at it.. it's hard bloody work... you dont want to do it... you dont want to work . You dont want to cook .. but... you have to... you have no choice but to get up and fight ...

And then theres grace ... who wallows in the poor me.. 15 years... Australia.. kips made me dinner ..I needed me time .. everyone mind me and my kids...

What’s the Australia thing? I only started watching this mess again due to the boredom of furlough
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She refers back to Australia when her anxiety was so bad .. x

 

[Airy-fairy]

There's no denying her MH is affecting her.
Using anxiety as a get out card for every time she tricks people or she feels lazy is where most have an issue.
I think she perhaps has always been untruthful, a grabber, and an attention seeking girl. But it wasn't until she got anxiety, that she realised she could duck accountability. She could hide behind that smoke screen and have a lie down or meditate while Cris does her burger, but instead is deviously deleting critics from the gram.
We all understand pnd, anxiety, weight gain etc.
It's her being a sneaky wagon is what people have issues with.
Going through many years of my husband having PTSD, depression, suicidal thoughts and attemps, being in st.pats for months on end while I had 4 kids to mind, there is no way her family are sitting and watching this week after week and doing nothing about it. There's no way she could have the dark days she says she has, and seeing a therapist for years and him not looking at her behaviour on the gram, that he would leave her 'suffer' like this. There's NO WAY a medical professional, family member, friend or partner would leave her like this and not be concerned and admit her to hospital. The very least she'd be told to get off social media. There's something not right about this situation.

 

[Kilingtime]

It's her being a sneaky wagon is what people have issues with.
Going through many years of my husband having PTSD, depression, suicidal thoughts and attemps, being in st.pats for months on end while I had 4 kids to mind, there is no way her family are sitting and watching this week after week and doing nothing about it. There's no way she could have the dark days she says she has, and seeing a therapist for years and him not looking at her behaviour on the gram, that he would leave her 'suffer' like this. There's NO WAY a medical professional, family member, friend or partner would leave her like this and not be concerned and admit her to hospital. The very least she'd be told to get off social media. There's something not right about this situation.

I agree. That's what makes it so unbelievable. I hope your Husband is feeling stronger now? It's not easy watching someone suffer and not knowing how to help them.