Jesus I hope I didn’t sound like a martyr Mammy I certainly don’t mean to! Am feeling pure sorry for myself because I’m feeling fluey and shite. But to the person above who hopes to maintain her sense of self after the baba arrives I would say you absolutely can and should! I go on dinner dates with my husband albeit not once a week, have lunch with friends and get out for exercise on my own (when I am not as big as a beached walrus and full of sciatica ) and I think it’s so important. But Grace does all that when her kids aren’t in school and Creche and it’s a constant cycle of it. She really does seem to avoid parenting at all costs and uses her mental health issues (I’m saying that with major sarcasm) to avoid being a grown up. And that ape she’s engaged to allows it. Beggars belief really!