Hi guys , I’m new to this thread so not sure if this is the right place for me to vent but I need some advice
So I’m 25 and my older sister is 29 soon to be 30 in a few months and recently she keeps telling me how old I am , like in every conversation we have she’ll be like “ well your age group are really old “ we were even watching love island the other day and she was like “ it just shows everyone’s age “ and i asked her what does she mean and she said “ because people who are 25 and 26 are soooo old . And I’m just so confused. I don’t know if she’s reflecting her issues on me because she is upset about turning 30 ( even though that’s actually really young and I told her that ) she also always says that she looks younger than me and that people always think she’s 23 ( they don’t at all btw ) today she randomly in our conversation started to tell me that she thinks to the public I look about 26 / 27 when I didn’t actually ask. Oh but funny to the public for herself she said she thinks she looks 20-23 . It sounds childish but that’s not even half of what I have to deal with. sometimes I wonder if she’s jealous of me but I don’t want to be that person that’s like “ oh this persons jealous of me “ but sometimes it really feels that way. I need to know if I’m just overthinking things
No, in my opinion you are not overthinking it.
It definitely sounds like she is panicking over hitting the 'big' 30.
Next time she brings up the age thing, in whatever way, just laugh and say, "Honestly X, you need to get over the age thing. Soon you'll be be 30 and then after that I'll be 26 and that's just life sweetie (or whatever endearment you would normally use for her)." If you laugh it off by facing the thing head on she should back off. She wants reassurance that you can't give, which is sad, but taunting you is unfair.
First time popping in here. Seems like my “in real life” friends (which are all around the country, so they don’t feel so “in real life” these days...) all have heavier burdens to bear, so I can’t bother them.
I’m just so worn down from daily life lately! Working full time, 40 minute commute, work is a bit stressful lately,haven’t been feeling great. I get home, walk the dog and manage to have toast or a meal replacement drink. Feel sick when I try to eat real food. Laundry’s piled on the bed and I just push it over, dishes piling up. Already on anti depressants, that’s keeping the worst of it away I think (that and my long walks with my dog). I’m only 30 but I can’t imagine finding the energy to do anything besides the bare minimum I’m doing now!
Advice for getting out of a rut?
Set yourself a tiny goal each day. Or every other day. Or even once a week.
Today I will clear those dishes.
or Today I will do just one load of laundry.
or Today I will eat a light meal and I
won't let it upset my tummy.
Been there and honestly, watching the things around you go to pot only makes your mind set worse. I found that seeing small tasks completed helped me feel "Well I'm not as useless as I thought. " .... and they build up until eventually you've caught up and got a sort of routine. It might take ages but it's a goal.
It's this fucking covid crap. Everything is messed up, especially our heads. You truly aren't alone, honestly. Good for you recognising the rut, that alone is a positive.
I'm so glad you have a dog. Cuddles and petting and walks are all good therapy. And music. Seriously, make a play list of your favourite bouncy songs, put your head phones on and just get lost in the moment. I really found music great for getting through my head fog and giving me just a tiny teeny spark of "Yes!" and a smile.
Try not to think of your friends' burdens. Focus on you. Just you.
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