Girls are notorious for wanting BIG parties at that age...I know im Gina Rinehart etc (lol) but girls i know have limo rides to the city, go to sushi train then little gift bags! if you're not shelling out money for a venue, restaurant or activity or gift bags (which she isn't) , at least spend the money on food!! Sure, have those honey joys and fairy bread (we haven't had this since my boys were around 6) for your midnight snacks, but let the girls choose their own Grilld Burgers/salads and chips and buy some plain cupcakes and let them ice them with cool lollies and icing, don't need another massive cake! all the cheap processed food for dinner she is making is gross..thank god I only have boys, who couldn't care less!