I don’t know the ins and outs of the visa process in the US, but it is very complicated and you don’t want to mess around with it. I know people who overstayed 1J visas for a few days and they’re banned from the US for the rest of their lives!
They would pick up on her coming and going all the time.
Also, does James actually want her to move there? I really don’t think he does. To me it seems like she’s putting her life on hold waiting for him to throw her a bone. It’s quite sad to be honest.
I don’t understand why she sold her house? She could have lived there. She’s very strange. But as someone said, mean with her money to a fault. And then waiting for James. She’ll regret it!