What a prick! How did you get on with your interview?
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Playing power games.
That's amazing. You completely changed what you're doing. I'm 40 and still don't know what I want to be
Taking early retirement soon so can do something I'm passionate about but don't even know where to start 
My office job was as a railway/property/highway legal advisor so it was a pretty big change! Not knowing where to start might not be a bad thing, means you’ll be open to stuff you might never have thought of!That's amazing. You completely changed what you're doing. I'm 40 and still don't know what I want to be
Volunteering is always an option to find things you enjoy/have an interest in without the difficulty of it being your career kind of thing!That's amazing. You completely changed what you're doing. I'm 40 and still don't know what I want to be
Yes it went OK. Good practice even if I don't get it!
Yep, absolutely hate it 
I've made the decision to resign today.
Had a good chat with my mum last night about it all. Felt good to get it off my chest.
What I've described on here has only really been a small part of the issues I've had at work. Personally I believe I've been a hard worker, got on well with people etc but the problems with my manager have just become unbearable.
I have savings I can live off until I'm working again and to be honest I'd happily take anything just to be earning again.
I also have the horrific fear he will fire me so I want to get in there first, especially as it'll be easier to explain to new employers. I've only been there under a year so technically I can be let go without reason (as long as it's not discrimination).
Just want to say thank you to everyone on here. My mental health is shot at the moment but it's been good to use this place as a sounding board.
Had a good chat with my mum last night about it all. Felt good to get it off my chest.
What I've described on here has only really been a small part of the issues I've had at work. Personally I believe I've been a hard worker, got on well with people etc but the problems with my manager have just become unbearable.
I have savings I can live off until I'm working again and to be honest I'd happily take anything just to be earning again.
I also have the horrific fear he will fire me so I want to get in there first, especially as it'll be easier to explain to new employers. I've only been there under a year so technically I can be let go without reason (as long as it's not discrimination).
Just want to say thank you to everyone on here. My mental health is shot at the moment but it's been good to use this place as a sounding board.
100% you have made the best decision. Your mental health comes first and I think your old manager was an absolute dick - I bet he wasnt even going to fire you, it was all a control thing for him, to have you sweating and trigger anxiety. What a sad little man. I hope you manage to build your self confidence - you're amazing. Don't let that waste of air "man" make you think any different!
Thank you
The good thing is that I've taken control.
The past week or two has been awful worrying about whether I'd still have a job. He definitely has been playing games and it's most definitely a control thing on his side.
I'm proud of myself for not putting up with it anymore
Having one of those days in work where I just feel so depressed and unmotivated. I changed career in the past 12 months to suit childcare needs and the environment I work in is so much nicer now …. But I struggle to feel connected to the work I do, I find it so boring and only challenging in volume.
I suppose this is a lifelong problem of mine - bored after 5 mins. it’s just odd because I feel bored but also under pressure.
I’m mid way through a phd - the subject area being linked to my previous career & I do not wish to go back into that field.
I’m mid 30’s with a handful of qualifications, plenty of baggage and I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up.l
(sorry just ranting)
I suppose this is a lifelong problem of mine - bored after 5 mins. it’s just odd because I feel bored but also under pressure.
I’m mid way through a phd - the subject area being linked to my previous career & I do not wish to go back into that field.
I’m mid 30’s with a handful of qualifications, plenty of baggage and I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up.l
(sorry just ranting)
I would hate it too and if I was ever considered for a management position it would be one of my 'againsts' when debating if I wanted the role. Whilst I can sympathise on a human level, staff management is in their job spec and pay grade. I can't get away with not doing jobs which are my responsibilty because it's uncomfortable, just got to be professional and get them done.Some managers are cowards and shy away from difficult conversations. I get that, I would hate such conversations as well and I've heard that in the recent Tech layoffs some managers were actually relieved to simply let things run forward, because they weren't the bad guy delivering the news, it came from much higher up. Maybe your manager is someone like that that refuses to have such talks and simply waits out a nasty situation until the employee decides to act on it.
HR should be the place for these concerns, but it sounds like the also mightn't be the most helpful here
I don't know what I want and I'm a similar age, don't worry, I reckon it's more common than we think
Big hugs! Hope you walk away today feeling relieved.
Good job on taking back control over the situation. You have to prioritize your health.
try to get to resign officially with the manager before he deems he has time for you just to show him that in the end, it's your time and you showing up or not, so you have control.
Is this a generational thing? 21 yr old at work is messaging all day on her phone at work. Turn to ask her to do something and she’s messaging. She comes back from 1hr lunch break, sits down and starts messaging. Do some frigging work!
Resignation in thank god!
He did take it OK and seemed as if he was half expecting it anyway.
What has annoyed me is that after he sent me written confirmation of the details we discussed in the call we had, cc'ing in the senior managers in my dept but he has completely made it look like he wasn't the problem at all. In fact he's made it out in the email as if he's done everything by the book and has made it out as if he offered unlimited support etc etc. He also accused me of not responding to emails in a timely fashion
This was definitely not the case. Obviously he's wrote all that to "look good" in front of the senior management team of my department.
At least only a month to go anyway!
He did take it OK and seemed as if he was half expecting it anyway.
What has annoyed me is that after he sent me written confirmation of the details we discussed in the call we had, cc'ing in the senior managers in my dept but he has completely made it look like he wasn't the problem at all. In fact he's made it out in the email as if he's done everything by the book and has made it out as if he offered unlimited support etc etc. He also accused me of not responding to emails in a timely fashion
This was definitely not the case. Obviously he's wrote all that to "look good" in front of the senior management team of my department.
At least only a month to go anyway!
He honestly sounds like an asshole, good job getting rid of him. One month is "doable" I guess, I found when I resigned I kind of faded from a lot of people's radar, so I was left mostly in peace. It's pretty boring, but a lot better than having such a controlling person breathing down your neck.Resignation in thank god!
He did take it OK and seemed as if he was half expecting it anyway.
What has annoyed me is that after he sent me written confirmation of the details we discussed in the call we had, cc'ing in the senior managers in my dept but he has completely made it look like he wasn't the problem at all. In fact he's made it out in the email as if he's done everything by the book and has made it out as if he offered unlimited support etc etc. He also accused me of not responding to emails in a timely fashion
This was definitely not the case. Obviously he's wrote all that to "look good" in front of the senior management team of my department.
At least only a month to go anyway!
Sorry to hear so many are having a miserable time 
I continue to be actively excluded and kept at arm's length on things I need to be involved with. I was head hunted in to bring a very specific specialist skill in to the organisation I work for but no one wants to engage with me. It's super frustrating and demoralising. I've WFH today just to escape the boredom and loneliness of sitting in the office being ignored even though we're supposed to be in 4 days a week (I normally WFH on a Friday).
I continue to be actively excluded and kept at arm's length on things I need to be involved with. I was head hunted in to bring a very specific specialist skill in to the organisation I work for but no one wants to engage with me. It's super frustrating and demoralising. I've WFH today just to escape the boredom and loneliness of sitting in the office being ignored even though we're supposed to be in 4 days a week (I normally WFH on a Friday).100% is! We have assistants at work, usually university graduates etc, and they’re all snowflakes! They give us instructions on what they are and aren’t willing to do (wtf) and if you ask them to do something very urgent, they’ll go missing on teams for hours, then when you ask again they say oh I forgot. None of them want to do any work!
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