Does anyone hate their job? #2

[Hope96]

Old thread: https://tattle.life/threads/does-anyone-hate-their-job.14624/

I am on special leave at the moment and absolutely not looking forward to returning but I haven't got a clue about my return date so I've blocked work out of my mind for the time being.

 

[101d]

Got my counter offer! 1k more than the other place! Which is a 6k total pay rise for me. Not as many benefits but my fear of changing jobs means I'll bloody take it!!!

 

[Codiaeum]

Congrats, @101d! And kudos to you for asking, that played out very well for you and 6k is a lot.

 

[Jaceydooley]

Love my job, HATE the management! No empathy or support and you’d think my place of work would be somewhere empathy should be given on tap

 

[User_name_100]

Feeling a bit anxious so just writing my thoughts down.

I am on annual leave for a week & decided to check my work emails (I know, I know ) and I wish I didn't now. I've got about 50 all from different people asking for updates for this & that.

A report was due for today, due to my crazy workload I quickly finished it up two days ago and sent it for review to a senior staff member who is working and I've not had a response. Now I've got another department demanding to know where it is. This is all whilst I'm on leave and the majority of managers who can sign work off are all off too.

Just feel horribly anxious about next Monday now and the return to work. I'm currently in Scotland on holiday with family & I can't relax. I've told myself I'm not going to look at emails anymore as it'll just ruin my trip.

My position is fairly junior too yet the expectations seem so high.

 

[Codiaeum]

Feeling a bit anxious so just writing my thoughts down.

I am on annual leave for a week & decided to check my work emails (I know, I know ) and I wish I didn't now. I've got about 50 all from different people asking for updates for this & that.

A report was due for today, due to my crazy workload I quickly finished it up two days ago and sent it for review to a senior staff member who is working and I've not had a response. Now I've got another department demanding to know where it is. This is all whilst I'm on leave and the majority of managers who can sign work off are all off too.

Just feel horribly anxious about next Monday now and the return to work. I'm currently in Scotland on holiday with family & I can't relax. I've told myself I'm not going to look at emails anymore as it'll just ruin my trip.

My position is fairly junior too yet the expectations seem so high.

I know the guilty feeling of checking while off and then the ensuing guilt of seeing people asking you for something. Don't check again and please don't feel guilty. You have done what you could do while working, now you have a well-deserved time off. The people asking you for updates are grown adults that will realize you're off right now and can find another person if pressing. If you have set an auto-responder, they might have seen already and simply wrote to you to be "on your radar" when you get back and actually don't even expect a fast response, even if it may seem that way right now.
Don't stress too much about Monday. Yes, there'll be a backlog of emails to wade through, but if anybody wants something asap, tell them you just came back from vacation and need a few hours to sort through it and prioritize, meanwhile if really urgent, they should go to the manager until you're settled back in. Most people seem to be okay with that answer.

 

[Scar14]

Love my job, HATE the management! No empathy or support and you’d think my place of work would be somewhere empathy should be given on tap

Do you work in healthcare by any chance?

 

[JustRelax]

At a point in my life where I honestly don't know what to do. I'm a teacher and have always wanted to be a teacher and I've been teaching the last seven years and now......the last thing I want to do is teach. I am so over it. But that's what I'm qualified to do.

Even if I went back to school, I still have no idea what I want to do. I'm really struggling right now.

 

[Some People!]

I don't hate my job wholesale, but I really, really hate this time of year.
Summer should have been quiet at work, but it wasn't this year - I didn't manage to take any AL at all - and I've just been hurtling towards the busiest point of the year with no opportunity to take any AL or pause until the Xmas break (which isn't really a break for a mum/ partner, lbr). I could take some time off in early January...

I'm really not cut out for some key aspects of my role, and I really feel it at this time of year.

Anyone else in HE?

 

[User_name_100]

I know the guilty feeling of checking while off and then the ensuing guilt of seeing people asking you for something. Don't check again and please don't feel guilty. You have done what you could do while working, now you have a well-deserved time off. The people asking you for updates are grown adults that will realize you're off right now and can find another person if pressing. If you have set an auto-responder, they might have seen already and simply wrote to you to be "on your radar" when you get back and actually don't even expect a fast response, even if it may seem that way right now.
Don't stress too much about Monday. Yes, there'll be a backlog of emails to wade through, but if anybody wants something asap, tell them you just came back from vacation and need a few hours to sort through it and prioritize, meanwhile if really urgent, they should go to the manager until you're settled back in. Most people seem to be okay with that answer.

Thanks so much for this.

It's so hard not to feel guilty, I'm trying my absolute best and still I feel they're piling more and more work on me. I've tried to note I need more support but I feel they just brush it off every time.

I was talking to my partner about it all yesterday. I get paid just above minimum wage as a salary and work typical office hours. I feel I have to work extra in the evenings, weekends and now during annual leave just to keep my head above water with minimal training. I honestly don't think this job is worth it and I am going to have a play around with my CV later. It's made me feel better saying that out loud - it's been a few months but I am realising this job isn't for me. I shouldn't have to be on anti anxiety/depression medication after only a few months of this.

 

[emmer_moans]

I don't hate my job wholesale, but I really, really hate this time of year.
Summer should have been quiet at work, but it wasn't this year - I didn't manage to take any AL at all - and I've just been hurtling towards the busiest point of the year with no opportunity to take any AL or pause until the Xmas break (which isn't really a break for a mum/ partner, lbr). I could take some time off in early January...

I'm really not cut out for some key aspects of my role, and I really feel it at this time of year.

Anyone else in HE?

Yes. September and October is the worst in HE. Then suddenly it's December and the calendar year is over. My least favourite time of year. March is the best time for annual leave in my role

Thanks so much for this.

It's so hard not to feel guilty, I'm trying my absolute best and still I feel they're piling more and more work on me. I've tried to note I need more support but I feel they just brush it off every time.

I was talking to my partner about it all yesterday. I get paid just above minimum wage as a salary and work typical office hours. I feel I have to work extra in the evenings, weekends and now during annual leave just to keep my head above water with minimal training. I honestly don't think this job is worth it and I am going to have a play around with my CV later. It's made me feel better saying that out loud - it's been a few months but I am realising this job isn't for me. I shouldn't have to be on anti anxiety/depression medication after only a few months of this.

If you give an extra inch they will take a mile. Sounds like you might be doing the work of two people. It's definitely not worth the stress.

 

[Some People!]

Yes. September and October is the worst in HE. Then suddenly it's December and the calendar year is over. My least favourite time of year. March is the best time for annual leave in my role

It's truly the worst - the nights draw in, the temperature drops, the students come back, and the stress levels rise. And stay there! The peak for me is mid-September to early December, its just balls-to-the-wall one thing after another.

Bright side: I'm still thankful 3 AY's later that I'm no longer involved in exam boards

 

[Reverend]

I don't hate my job wholesale, but I really, really hate this time of year.
Summer should have been quiet at work, but it wasn't this year - I didn't manage to take any AL at all - and I've just been hurtling towards the busiest point of the year with no opportunity to take any AL or pause until the Xmas break (which isn't really a break for a mum/ partner, lbr). I could take some time off in early January...

I'm really not cut out for some key aspects of my role, and I really feel it at this time of year.

Anyone else in HE?

Yes, at my previous place I ended up with loads of leave to use as I was the only one without kids, so I was the last in the queue to get holiday.

HE is a place where there is constant change only because it's a substitute for actual achievement.

 

[Some People!]

Yes, at my previous place I ended up with loads of leave to use as I was the only one without kids, so I was the last in the queue to get holiday.

Hate this for you, and it's BS that your institution has crap priorities like this.

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HE is a place where there is constant change only because it's a substitute for actual achievement.
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I literally gasped The brutal truth.

 

[Jaceydooley]

Do you work in healthcare by any chance?

How did you guess

 

[thenoodle]

I’m on annual leave but so stressed about work. I made a reversible error last week which affected a coworker and I know from past experience he’ll now be telling everyone I ducked up and I already know he’s spoken to a senior manager about it. I’m so close to getting another position in the company but there’s possibility I could be investigated for what I did so now I’m worried it will stop me moving on from this toxic workplace. I want to go off sick with mental health and have felt like this for a while but that will definately stop me moving

 

[Sunflower91]

I’m on annual leave but so stressed about work. I made a reversible error last week which affected a coworker and I know from past experience he’ll now be telling everyone I ducked up and I already know he’s spoken to a senior manager about it. I’m so close to getting another position in the company but there’s possibility I could be investigated for what I did so now I’m worried it will stop me moving on from this toxic workplace. I want to go off sick with mental health and have felt like this for a while but that will definately stop me moving

Good management and good colleagues know that mistakes happen. No one is perfect or gets things right 100% of the time. Like you said, it was reversible. But I get it. Some places are so toxic it’s like they expect you to build a time machine to have never made a mistake and say you’ll never ever make a mistake ever again. It’s not realistic and it just adds unnecessary pressure.

Put you first, if you’re not in a good place right now- take the time you need. You’re replaceable to companies but you’re not replaceable to you, your family and your friends. You’re a person not an employee number. If this means you don’t get another position in the company, then maybe this company isn’t right for you? And I know that brings its own anxieties but I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and I’ve no doubt that there’s a company out there that would be glad to have someone who clearly cares about what they do, and will look after you.

 

[Pinhead Larry]

I told my manager I'd need a reference and I was going to hand my notice in about 2/3 weeks ago, to give her extra notice on top of the month stated in my contract. She is awful to work for for context, one of my main reasons for leaving.

Ever since I officially handed my notice in yesterday she has been making sly remarks and its making me so annoyed. I am not rising to it but Christ.
Today she has told everyone in the office it'll be hard to find someone good who'll take my salary because it is so low/ (It's not, I'm the 3rd best paid after her and another guy.)
She's also always said how I was the best candidate by a mile for the role and bla bla bla and now it's oooh well you almost didn't get the job because this other girl was soooo good I'm gonna ring her and see if she wants it, crack on and ring her but why does everything have to be one person pitted against another?!

She's also shown me the job advert and it is so unfair on whoever applies for and gets that role because its simply a lie. There is nothing to do here and the role is boring and requires no skill but she has worded it like it is super complex and important. She said she just googled, found similar job adverts elsewhere and copied them.

I know this won't be my issue by the end of the month but I am sat here so annoyed by how weird and underhand she is being.

 

[sleepingsatellite]

Hi! It’s been a while since I posted as I was actually going through a situation and wanted to update. I had to take sick leave a few months ago and I now have a condition which is likely to fall under the Equality Act. I was so mad at myself for letting work get the better of me but for it to lead to a long term condition was the proper kick up the backside I needed to demand change at work and not settle. I’ve had to jump through quite a few corporate hoops to make it happen, but I’m in a better work situation than previously. I’m looking forward to starting new but you’d better believe I’ll be working no more than I’m contracted to - those ‘quiet quitting’ pieces flying around have been useful for understanding what it means to be doing your job within normal expectations. My condition also means my health remains the main focus of my life and determines how well I do in all aspects so there’s no room for neglecting it any further. I mean it!

I told my manager I'd need a reference and I was going to hand my notice in about 2/3 weeks ago, to give her extra notice on top of the month stated in my contract. She is awful to work for for context, one of my main reasons for leaving.

Ever since I officially handed my notice in yesterday she has been making sly remarks and its making me so annoyed. I am not rising to it but Christ.
Today she has told everyone in the office it'll be hard to find someone good who'll take my salary because it is so low/ (It's not, I'm the 3rd best paid after her and another guy.)
She's also always said how I was the best candidate by a mile for the role and bla bla bla and now it's oooh well you almost didn't get the job because this other girl was soooo good I'm gonna ring her and see if she wants it, crack on and ring her but why does everything have to be one person pitted against another?!

She's also shown me the job advert and it is so unfair on whoever applies for and gets that role because its simply a lie. There is nothing to do here and the role is boring and requires no skill but she has worded it like it is super complex and important. She said she just googled, found similar job adverts elsewhere and copied them.

I know this won't be my issue by the end of the month but I am sat here so annoyed by how weird and underhand she is being.

Sounds like you are well rid of her. Do you have a long notice period? Don’t let her get under your skin because you’ve won already

 

[Pinhead Larry]

Hi! It’s been a while since I posted as I was actually going through a situation and wanted to update. I had to take sick leave a few months ago and I now have a condition which is likely to fall under the Equality Act. I was so mad at myself for letting work get the better of me but for it to lead to a long term condition was the proper kick up the backside I needed to demand change at work and not settle. I’ve had to jump through quite a few corporate hoops to make it happen, but I’m in a better work situation than previously. I’m looking forward to starting new but you’d better believe I’ll be working no more than I’m contracted to - those ‘quiet quitting’ pieces flying around have been useful for understanding what it means to be doing your job within normal expectations. My condition also means my health remains the main focus of my life and determines how well I do in all aspects so there’s no room for neglecting it any further. I mean it!


Sounds like you are well rid of her. Do you have a long notice period? Don’t let her get under your skin because you’ve won already

In a way I feel like I've won with the notice period situation too I've got 12-21st September off to go on holiday, I'm in hospital 22nd September, then my final day here is 30th September. Technically only 9 days left after today

I'm glad to see you've made a healthier change in your role too!