I really can’t stand the phrase “hard to get”. It is not a thing. Women don’t play “hard to get”, they’re just not interested. I really don’t get why anyone plays games or tactics with dating. You’re into it or you’re not, simple as that
A small amount adds to the fun. Someone offering themselves on a plate is usually why people aren’t interested.I really can’t stand the phrase “hard to get”. It is not a thing. Women don’t play “hard to get”, they’re just not interested. I really don’t get why anyone plays games or tactics with dating. You’re into it or you’re not, simple as that
Im not offering myself on a plate, I just don’t see the point in playing games. It’s extremely childish.A small amount adds to the fun. Someone offering themselves on a plate is usually why people aren’t interested.
I think the original message could have easily been misunderstood. I think playing hard to get, is playing mind games, and I agree that it is childish, but I've also been put off by people who "offer themselves on a plate" - as in, come on way too strong way too quick and start planning our future together before we've even metIm not offering myself on a plate, I just don’t see the point in playing games. It’s extremely childish.
Can you tell the men that??I just don’t see the point in playing games. It’s extremely childish.
Oh right yeah I don’t mean people who want to get married after two messages. I just mean being upfront and to the point no messing anyone around.I think the original message could have easily been misunderstood. I think playing hard to get, is playing mind games, and I agree that it is childish, but I've also been put off by people who "offer themselves on a plate" - as in, come on way too strong way too quick and start planning our future together before we've even met
I've been told before to be wary of people who are full on very quickly, as they just tend to love bomb and then ghost, and I've experienced that. Now I'm always suspicious of someone who appears very keen from the start as I'm assuming it isn't genuine!dating is HARD.
Completely agree with you, honesty is always the best policy, upfront and honest doesn't mean straight in there measuring them up for the wedding outfit! Just straightforward upfront expectations instead of fannying aboutOh right yeah I don’t mean people who want to get married after two messages. I just mean being upfront and to the point no messing anyone around.
It’s not playing games, it’s having fun and a bit of banter. It’s not really that deep, i wouldn’t talk to them if I wasn’t interested and I only want to sit on their face.Im not offering myself on a plate, I just don’t see the point in playing games. It’s extremely childish.
Just to add I'm not there telling the poor guy I want his commitment after 2 dates, more that I'm interested and just being a bit blunt with it.I've read about this, I think it's called "truth bombing". As a result of the pandemic people are less inclined to play hard to get and they're truth bombing instead (thank you DM)
@Clickbait this was amazing!This made me laugh - the fit of rage thing - and I think we’ve all been guilty of some hasty deletion. If you only WhatsApp’d it might not help, but you could check the text numbers on your phone bill. It’s how I’ve retrieved a number before (same number on more than one occasion) - turns out this guy was a lying, cheating arsehole with a gf in a different country so not worth my effort. Hope your guy is though.
Also, for those of you who were feeling annoyed at fuck boys, feeling messed around or ghosted, I’ve written up a story that I remembered when a FB memory popped up this morning. It’s in the petty things you’ve done section as it’s petty AF and didn’t want to derail, but have a read if you want a laugh, or you want to be frightened by how much time and planning I was willing to put into some revenge on a time waster.
Just go for itI have a dilemma.. I saw a boy I dated a few years ago on Bumble, he moved away but I assume he has moved back. I paid for bumble premium (£15 for a weeks worth omg) to see if he had liked me and he had. I can’t decide if I should like him back or not - I think will but just need some encouragement! I’m worried he’s swiped by accident or something haha. And then what should my opening line be!?
We had a lot of fun together but it didn’t end that well, he moved away, we argued and I accused him of messaging other girls (lol a bit psycho) but I know now we probably both had a lot of feelings we weren’t able to articulate.. We were quite young at the time.
Just do it, what's the worst that could happen?I have a dilemma.. I saw a boy I dated a few years ago on Bumble, he moved away but I assume he has moved back. I paid for bumble premium (£15 for a weeks worth omg) to see if he had liked me and he had. I can’t decide if I should like him back or not - I think will but just need some encouragement! I’m worried he’s swiped by accident or something haha. And then what should my opening line be!?
We had a lot of fun together but it didn’t end that well, he moved away, we argued and I accused him of messaging other girls (lol a bit psycho) but I know now we probably both had a lot of feelings we weren’t able to articulate.. We were quite young at the time.
Babe, you paid 15 quid to see if he liked you or not....I think we all know where this is goingI have a dilemma.. I saw a boy I dated a few years ago on Bumble, he moved away but I assume he has moved back. I paid for bumble premium (£15 for a weeks worth omg) to see if he had liked me and he had. I can’t decide if I should like him back or not - I think will but just need some encouragement! I’m worried he’s swiped by accident or something haha. And then what should my opening line be!?
We had a lot of fun together but it didn’t end that well, he moved away, we argued and I accused him of messaging other girls (lol a bit psycho) but I know now we probably both had a lot of feelings we weren’t able to articulate.. We were quite young at the time.
I hate the way they're all acting like this is a new thing. Everyone has preferences for physical features and its been a common thing about height for years/foreverFuck me! I know we've discussed it before but if I see another effing profile with, "6ft because apparently that matters", then I'm going to go postal and smash a brick through my own window!
Do it!!I have a dilemma.. I saw a boy I dated a few years ago on Bumble, he moved away but I assume he has moved back. I paid for bumble premium (£15 for a weeks worth omg) to see if he had liked me and he had. I can’t decide if I should like him back or not - I think will but just need some encouragement! I’m worried he’s swiped by accident or something haha. And then what should my opening line be!?
We had a lot of fun together but it didn’t end that well, he moved away, we argued and I accused him of messaging other girls (lol a bit psycho) but I know now we probably both had a lot of feelings we weren’t able to articulate.. We were quite young at the time.
That and "I have a daughter who is my world" why do you HAVE to say they are your world?? Obviously you love your kids. Even worse when they say "I have a daughter but you won't be her mum, she already has one" OK Kev, I don't wanna be a mum to your little bratFuck me! I know we've discussed it before but if I see another effing profile with, "6ft because apparently that matters", then I'm going to go postal and smash a brick through my own window!
YESSS! This “they will always come first” yeah I get that but it’s so off putting that they straight away putting you as second best, like I don’t want to be second best at all but us girls understand you have other priority’s in ya life.Do it!!
That and "I have a daughter who is my world" why do you HAVE to say they are your world?? Obviously you love your kids. Even worse when they say "I have a daughter but you won't be her mum, she already has one" OK Kev, I don't wanna be a mum to your little brat
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