A few of my pals have had this issue with men changing their mind after dating for a bit and deciding they are "not sure what I want". If he is being lovely thats nice, i think after a few months of dating it is acceptable to ask the "what are we" question, just to see where it is going and if he sees a future with you etc because otherwise are yo both wasting your time?Guys, been online dating for almost 1.5 years now. Just before lockdown I got to about 3 months with someone I liked but he dumped me.
Then met someone else. He’s (so far) what I’ve been looking for. He’s had 3 meltdowns now where he’s turned round and said he’s not sure what he wants blah blah blah. The first two were early on (tbh I didn’t care as it was so early and I just expect the worst now) and then the third one was after about 2.5 months of dating (This really upset me). he didn’t dump me but said he needed time to work out what he wants and requested space. He proceeded to message me the most he’s ever done and we met up the following week and something had definitely changed in him and he’s been lovely. It’s been about another month but not seen him for almost 3 weeks due to overlapping travels. Been messaging daily though.
Ive not come this far with online dating. Ive stopped dating others as I want to focus on him and it didn’t feel right. We haven’t had a conversation About our status and where we are going. If I’m being honest, I’m scared to bring it up Due to his meltdowns and also in my gut I feel it’s too early to have the convo. But I’ve missed him so much and I feel I need to bring it up. I don’t want to coast along aimlessly. Any help with the next steps?
i can feel he really likes me. he met my brother recently at a party and was lovely. in my gut I know any reservations he has are to do with commitment and not because he’s not into me.
sorry for typos And rambly post. I’m on my iPad and hard to type!