I can't speak for all men just as you can't speak for all women of course. It is anecdotal but surely we accept that sometimes women end up with shitty men like this. I'm not personally attacking you and I'm not sure why you're offended but let's leave it there and just agree that this guy is a creep as we're definitely on the same side here
Yes I know what you mean about weird head space. Is there a reason (obvs that you’d be willing to share) why your ex can’t have both at the same time? Just a cunt maybe?You've stuck it out longer than me. To be fair I did have a conversation with someone who seemed very nice and sane last night. I'd have liked to have chatted to him a bit more but the app had to go.
I'm in a really weird head space with dating at the moment. I'd originally intended to remain single until my youngest had pretty much finished school. However, I've had some news that makes me feel like I shouldn't wait that long.
The added complication is that my children's father very rarely has all the children together (twice this year) and instead has them one at a time, just for a couple of hours. This means I literally can't arrange to meet up with someone. I had the vague notion that I could book time off to meet up with someone in the day but that's not particularly practical either. I'd also rather use my leave for taking the children away/attending their school stuff etc.
I just feel a bit fed up. Whilst it was my choice not to date then I felt ok. Now it feels a bit more frustrating. Although weirdly I don't know how much I do actually want to date. All very confusing.
I'm not sure, I seem to have alot of teachers and self employed people come up on mine. So maybe that's why it's so quiet? I'm on bumble. Maybe I should try other apps too.
But let's say they meet a new coworker who is perfect for them, what's gonna stop them running away with them if they don't have deeper feeling for their friend-spouse?A few of my friends agreed to having arranged marriages in their late 20s/early 30s and that seems like a better prospect at times, rather than venturing back onto the apps
Damn
(I don't want to slut-shame him, he seems the nicest of the four, but wow! How old is he? Did he say it unprompted?)Do tell…..You would hate how my ex texted me the other day
Installed Feeld this afternoon and it's a refreshing change of pace, might stick to that for a bit!---
I think it depends where you are. Personally I've had most success with Tinder or POF, well, most matches and chats anyway not necessarily successful relationships!
Well done you!I did a thing yesterday, I was bored so went for a meal on my own then went to a bar on my own afterwards and got a guys numberx
My god that man can talk!!
@Hot_Dogs_Or_Toes As a male, what is the best way to approach arranging a FWB situation?!Go get yourself some you lucky thing you hehe
fingers crossed for you... i'm glad you had a nice time.Bloody hell. Why do the cretins have to ruin it for everyone else?
Had a second day date yesterday, little drive in the sun with a coffee. He then came to my place and things happened as I have needs. Haven’t heard from him today and trying not to pay attention to the teensy bit of anxiety I have after being vulnerable with him. He’s been perfectly lovely and consistent in the 2 weeks we’ve been communicating, but they always are before certain events, aren’t they?
I think of these lyrics every time!
Beautifully writtenI feel yousame thing for me.
To be honest, what has really helped me is releasing that I am made this way for a reason. Like yes I might babble, spew out random facts, have the concentration of a fruit fly, be a bit strange (i have been told that), be socially awkward and overthink so much I could use that energy to power my house but those things make up me. if I can live my life thinking “id want to be around me” then there’s no reason why others wouldn’t want to. I’m not perfect obviously, I have shit I need to work on but the only person who I am forced to spend the rest of my life with is me so I might as well like me
I really try to be a good person with a good heart (i don’t always succeed, especially when in control of vehicle although in my defence, other drivers are often wankers) and I think that’s what matters. I know it’s cliche but if someone doesn’t want to be around you, it really is their loss as long as you know who you are at heart
He is giving me absolutely nothing when I speak to him
I know what you mean, especially when you're not expecting to see them on there. I know when I saw my ex on it, even though I was on it too, I felt my heart pound. Its kind of like the final nail in the coffin. Sounds like you've a good family support there and plenty to keep you busy too. You've got this!This is what my mum said to me too. Thing is we didn't want the same things anyway he never met my kid and didn't want them, he didn't want marriage and I'd thought about it sometimes. I'm about to be really busy again with another degree in September and will need to focus on myself and my daughter.
I just honestly believed when he said he wouldn't be looking for anyone else, that i wouldn't see him on tinder you know?, I know I was on there and I'm the one still in love with him, but I think that's different if your the one dumped.
Il go on a date with Mr Dave Grohl this weekend and see how it goes, it doesn't even need to turn into anything.
Thankyou for yours and everyone's kind words
I definitely think there’s something to this, that there are less ‘secure’ attachment style people in the dating market as they tend to settle down together younger, for longer and are happier. Congratulations on your first year together.
Can’t remember if it was you who recommended Luke Hamnet on Instagram, if so thank you for the recommendation.
Same I love it especially with lots of eye contact.
I'm definitely the same here! I do get attached very quickly and then 100% blame my actions or words when it fizzles out or I get ghosted or the feelings aren't reciprocated. It's extremely hard not to take things personally. But I don't believe we need to change that about ourselves either in order to meet our person. Maybe I'm wrong!Are we the same person?
I get overly attached because I'm a heart on my sleeve kind of girl. I remember before my ex I'd gone on a date with a guy, we had such a great time and we'd kissed it was amazing etc then I got home and he ghosted me before I'd even gone in the house from seeing him. I was so upset, I am definitely one for physical attraction and my love language is affection.
Which is why I am upset about my ex too because before the break and the silence we'd had a wonderful day out lots of cuddles and kisses we were talking about seeing each other again and moving our 2 year relationship along, like it makes you think you did something wrong and think about all the things that you did that day.
This is why I am worried about meeting Mr Dave Grohl, I don't want to get attached to him whilst attached to my ex then this guy kiss me and ghost then il have double the heart ache, I mean the guy sent me a photo of a really cute animal earlier it's like he knows the path to my closed off broken heart.
What a c**t how dare he, I'm sorry he did this to you. And I hope you feel better soon sending virtual hugs!
