You’re so right. He doesn’t even deserve the bin. He needs the whole skip@Okeydokey I've just had time to digest your posts. That guy, the lying alkie. Well he doesn't even make loser, plank, creep or prick on my scale. What he is is the UV words. Utterly vile. Nobody would be a thousand per cent better than him. Dump him.
You hit the nail on the head for me. That’s what I literally want to avoid. But if it was me I’d also want to know if my boyfriend was pond scum. And considering I knew nothing until today, I’m not prepared to put up with blame for something I knew nothing about. Ain’t my fault the man is cheating scum. I’ll probably just block and leave it alone. And hope and pray the girlfriend never contacts me randomly on facebook! Pretty sure I didn’t give him my last name anyway@monicalewinsky it’s a tricky one because I’d want to know if I was the girlfriend however you’d have to be prepared for getting blamed/not listened to/getting shit from him or both of them. I would probably just block him or if you wanted to say something to him I’d let him know that you know he has a girlfriend & if he contacts you again you’ll tell her.
The reason doesn't matter, block and ignoreHey lovely ladies, I’m feeling a little sad and yet again disappointed. I’ve been chatting with a really lovely guy, lots in common, good chat, similar history with our exes. We met for a date a couple of weeks ago, just a drink, but it went so well. 3 hours of constant chat, was last ones in the restaurant etc. We both agreed we wanted to meet again, lots of chat for another week and we had a second date last weekend. We played mini golf and had a drink, again was fun, felt comfortable with him, lots of chat and a little kiss which was great. Carried on chatting this week, both said we want to see each other again, liked the kiss etc. We both have kids and he has his for a little over a week next week while his ex has a holiday and I have my kids now, so there was a clash with childcare and we knew we couldn’t have the third date for a couple of weeks. I had a child free night last night and mid week I asked him if he’s free and he said he’s not which was a shame but fine with me. W’ve been chatting a lot, he was out Friday night and was still messaging me, said he really wants to kiss me again and we planned our third date. He wanted me to go to his and he was going to cook, I was excited for this. I didn’t hear much from him yesterday, I checked in with him asking if he’s hungover and had a good night out etc. Knowing he had plans last night I left him alone but I suspected he might be on a date with someone else. He messaged me half hour ago saying this …
“Hey, listen, I don’t think I’m ready to get into anything right now. I don’t want to mess you around or lead you on etc, and I certainly wouldn’t just not say anything. Sorry if this is a bit of a surprise but I need to figure a few things out at the mo.”
Do I believe him? Was he dating someone else the same time as me? Which I know people do but I really thought he was better than that. He seemed like a lovely, old school gent. I just replied back saying wow, that did come as a surprise and I’m disappointed. Told him that I hope he figures out what he needs to. I feel quite sad about this, but I’m annoyed with myself for getting my hopes up.
I give up!
Similar thing happened to me and I conacted the girlfriend. It went down BADLY. She didn't believe me, I was painted as this jealous homewrecker and he lost his shit at me, so many messages and phoning me up going off on one. He was very cruel. He said something like "I can't believe you'd do this to me, my mum has cancer and you're pulling this shit". Like what?? I knew none of this. Not my fault. But I wouldn't do it again. They stayed together for a bit then split anyway.I need to get this out because I feel ASHAMED and like, potentially need some advice.
So I’m now happily in a relationship which is the important part here. My past hoe behaviour, however, is catching up with me
I hooked up with a guy, let’s called him Doctor, back in March. Weird as fuck, liked the whole idea I was a nurse way too much. Never saw him again and I was FINE with that. Messaged me a couple of weeks after, literally wrote boring sexts and that was that. I’ve since met someone who’s not weird or into that shit, and not in healthcare. Best thing I could have ever done.
He messaged again a week ago (after he last messaged in April - like I had forgotten about this man LOL) and something has been unsettling me like who just randomly gets back in touch 5 months later. Like I did my due diligence last time but apparently not enough because DOCTOR HAD A WHOLE ASS LONG TERM GIRLFRIEND. Like when I say years, easily 4+
The disgusted woman in me really thinks I should contact the girlfriend and inform her that Doctor is a waste of space and she can do so much better but equally they don’t live near me, I’m unlikely to ever get surgery at the hospital he works in and he’s very unlikely to fall unconscious and need critical care at the hospital I will be going to work at. So can I just ignore this, let her find out her boyfriend is a twat on her own especially because I don’t need someone domestic shit in my life? It was only ever supposed to be a random hook up anyway?!
Also my friend is also telling me I told you so here and BOY DID SHE TELL ME SO. Doctors, don’t date, hook up or marry them. They’re all arrogant twats.
Oh bless you! Good on you for being brave even though it blew up. It’s her own fault for not listening. Yeah I’m gonna follow everyone’s advice and leave it be. As much as I get the ick over this, I’m not willing to have some random woman go off on me for something I didn’t know about back in March. It is sad though, she actually can do so much better than him because I guarantee I’m not the only one he’s fucked around with.Similar thing happened to me and I conacted the girlfriend. It went down BADLY. She didn't believe me, I was painted as this jealous homewrecker and he lost his shit at me, so many messages and phoning me up going off on one. He was very cruel. He said something like "I can't believe you'd do this to me, my mum has cancer and you're pulling this shit". Like what?? I knew none of this. Not my fault. But I wouldn't do it again. They stayed together for a bit then split anyway.
So... I wouldn't contact her. She will either already have a hunch (or even know) and is choosing to stay with him. She's probably turning a blind eye to it all because she might think having a boyfriend is better than being single. But he'll be going behind her back with other women.
Aha I’m a doctor, so I won’t take that one to heart. But yep the male ones are mainly pricks. One of my old workmates used to take his bloody work ID on nights out to tell girls that. Twat. However, as a girl I always found the opposite with guys; suddenly they became less interested when I told them I was a doctorI need to get this out because I feel ASHAMED and like, potentially need some advice.
So I’m now happily in a relationship which is the important part here. My past hoe behaviour, however, is catching up with me
I hooked up with a guy, let’s called him Doctor, back in March. Weird as fuck, liked the whole idea I was a nurse way too much. Never saw him again and I was FINE with that. Messaged me a couple of weeks after, literally wrote boring sexts and that was that. I’ve since met someone who’s not weird or into that shit, and not in healthcare. Best thing I could have ever done.
He messaged again a week ago (after he last messaged in April - like I had forgotten about this man LOL) and something has been unsettling me like who just randomly gets back in touch 5 months later. Like I did my due diligence last time but apparently not enough because DOCTOR HAD A WHOLE ASS LONG TERM GIRLFRIEND. Like when I say years, easily 4+
The disgusted woman in me really thinks I should contact the girlfriend and inform her that Doctor is a waste of space and she can do so much better but equally they don’t live near me, I’m unlikely to ever get surgery at the hospital he works in and he’s very unlikely to fall unconscious and need critical care at the hospital I will be going to work at. So can I just ignore this, let her find out her boyfriend is a twat on her own especially because I don’t need someone domestic shit in my life? It was only ever supposed to be a random hook up anyway?!
Also my friend is also telling me I told you so here and BOY DID SHE TELL ME SO. Doctors, don’t date, hook up or marry them. They’re all arrogant twats.
I'm going to be odd one out here but I think you should tell her. I personally, after being on both ends of this situation, think women deserve to know sooner rather than later. No it's not fair that it falls on you and of course you are free to block and ignore and move on! However, in response to other people talking about how her reaction will be anger - of course it will be! It's much easier to put all of her anger and pain onto an unknown face than someone she thought loved her. But her response is not about you, it's about him just as is your reasoning for telling her is. He made his bed let him lay in it! He must have consequences but imo it's about women protecting each other. IMO you choose what to do with the info, handle it with grace with only caring intentions and the rest is not your responsibility.I need to get this out because I feel ASHAMED and like, potentially need some advice.
So I’m now happily in a relationship which is the important part here. My past hoe behaviour, however, is catching up with me
I hooked up with a guy, let’s called him Doctor, back in March. Weird as fuck, liked the whole idea I was a nurse way too much. Never saw him again and I was FINE with that. Messaged me a couple of weeks after, literally wrote boring sexts and that was that. I’ve since met someone who’s not weird or into that shit, and not in healthcare. Best thing I could have ever done.
He messaged again a week ago (after he last messaged in April - like I had forgotten about this man LOL) and something has been unsettling me like who just randomly gets back in touch 5 months later. Like I did my due diligence last time but apparently not enough because DOCTOR HAD A WHOLE ASS LONG TERM GIRLFRIEND. Like when I say years, easily 4+
The disgusted woman in me really thinks I should contact the girlfriend and inform her that Doctor is a waste of space and she can do so much better but equally they don’t live near me, I’m unlikely to ever get surgery at the hospital he works in and he’s very unlikely to fall unconscious and need critical care at the hospital I will be going to work at. So can I just ignore this, let her find out her boyfriend is a twat on her own especially because I don’t need someone domestic shit in my life? It was only ever supposed to be a random hook up anyway?!
Also my friend is also telling me I told you so here and BOY DID SHE TELL ME SO. Doctors, don’t date, hook up or marry them. They’re all arrogant twats.
Oh it’s almost exclusively the male doctors. What makes it worse is this one went to a private school AND one of the Rahhhh med schools. I betrayed my council estate roots, the shame.Aha I’m a doctor, so I won’t take that one to heart. But yep the male ones are mainly pricks. One of my old workmates used to take his bloody work ID on nights out to tell girls that. Twat. However, as a girl I always found the opposite with guys; suddenly they became less interested when I told them I was a doctor
I would not bother telling his gf. She’ll find out about his ways and may even already know. There’s no point you getting involved esp when you’re in a good relationship. They usually get caught out anyway!
Yeah they’re such bellends. Most of them aren’t even fit. But the ‘power’ really goes to their heads and half of them aren’t even that good at the job. You’re not that special, mate. I would NEVER date another doctor. Lol. Obviously I feel VERY strongly about thisOh it’s almost exclusively the male doctors. What makes it worse is this one went to a private school AND one of the Rahhhh med schools. I betrayed my council estate roots, the shame.
The ID thing doesn’t surprise me in the least! Doctor also felt very much like that and liked lording it about.
I’m glad everyone has validated my “stay out of it” feelings with the sensible advice about this
I feel the same way about teachers, used to lording it over pupils all day then bring the same attitude home. Not a fan.Yeah they’re such bellends. Most of them aren’t even fit. But the ‘power’ really goes to their heads and half of them aren’t even that good at the job. You’re not that special, mate. I would NEVER date another doctor. Lol. Obviously I feel VERY strongly about this
Can confirm the majority are.Doctors, don’t date, hook up or marry them. They’re all arrogant twats.
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