Sorry I've never posted in here before but I really am stuck as to what to do with my love life right now. I'm not over my ex and he would be with me if I made the decision. But the reason I feel we can't is that we fight all the time. They've often got really bad. We're both hot heads. He can also be incredibly stubborn and sometimes I feel im having to justify why I feel how I do about stuff that doesn't even concern him. He would gladly tell me I was wrong about something that happened before I even met him, for example, even though he wasn't there and it's you know.. actually my life we're talking about lol. He's also pretty jealous. If i want to see friends over him for example I'll often be told im "not prioritising him".
BUT I've tried dating. I've gotten nowhere. What I really want is it
all - i want someone that's funny, smart, attractive, good chemistry, makes me feel safe... what I'm wondering is... is this not realistic? Im 31 btw.
Basically as much as I still love my ex and we have fun and im still attracted to him, I know I'd be having to settle for someone that's got issues that could negatively impact me potentially a fair bit. And we've burned all our bridges with our friends and family on both sides so there would be a lot of work to do in reintroducing each other into our lives. Some friends/family will potentially not want to see us together at all. I just want a relationship i can be proud of, where i dont need to feel bad for seeing them or bringing them to family gatherings or to the pub with friends! But am I just letting what other people think cloud my judgement here?
A lot of people say "don't settle". But then sometimes you hear horror stories or that people are truly disillusioned and think that there's no half decent men left never mind the full package.
I need to make a decision because ive been treading water for far too long. I need to either just really try with him again, or rip the band aid and finally try dating without using him as a safety net, and see what else is out there but risk losing him.
This was a bit of a whirlwind post but any advice truly appreciated