Dating after lockdown #23 Can you HTML though?

[Bianca Del Rio]

*deletes dating apps*
What a shower of tit. Hounding me for nudes.. Men saying they have girlfriends. Men crying about how bad their lives are, one was ‘married and bored’. duck that.

Oh Goddddd I’m off the apps at the moment because I’m up to my neck in work to the detriment of literally everything else in my life, but I know I’m going to have to go back on there at some point.

I’m dreading having to wade through this clusterfuck of desperation and sex-pestery from distinctly mediocre men who have nothing to bring to the table but a wardrobe full of snide Balenciaga t-shirts and profile pictures that were taken when David Cameron was Prime Minister. bleeping shoot me.

 

[whathastheworldcometo]

I also considered started dating again now that summer is over, but I don't want to go on the apps.

Instead I looked at a dating website, a niche one, I registered, looked at the men in my region and age group and then.... deleted my account without even posting a photo.

Really... what has the world come to??? What did I do to deserve this?? Where have all the decent men gone?

 

[Sandor]

Can you ladies bring me back down to earth with some rational thinking please?

I’m overthinking everything with a new person. Like yesterday I was popping down to the shop, I didn’t notice him but apparently he was the other side of the road, because he told me after crossing and following me into the shop just to say hi. I’m not the kind of person that would do that unless it was an immediate family member so now I’m like is that a good sign? A neutral sign?

I really like him, we’re getting on really well, seem to be entirely on the same wavelength and level of calm throughout life, so why am I like this over seemingly innocuous things!!

 

[MsCurly]

Not one of my ex boyfriend reaching out to me with a message "RIP the Queen, my condolences" despite the fact that:
a. We haven't talked in over 3 years.
b. I am Dutch and we have our own Monarchy: the house of Oranje Nassau
c. He is American and was always violently republican and very anti-monarchy.

And I haven't even mentioned that he tried to chat me up straight after sending over his condolences. What are these men thinking?

Can you ladies bring me back down to earth with some rational thinking please?

I’m overthinking everything with a new person. Like yesterday I was popping down to the shop, I didn’t notice him but apparently he was the other side of the road, because he told me after crossing and following me into the shop just to say hi. I’m not the kind of person that would do that unless it was an immediate family member so now I’m like is that a good sign? A neutral sign?

I really like him, we’re getting on really well, seem to be entirely on the same wavelength and level of calm throughout life, so why am I like this over seemingly innocuous things!!

It seems like you are self-sabotaging! Take it easy, take a few deep breaths and think about why you are doing this to yourself. Are you worried about something? Are you concerned you might not be deserving of a loving relationship? Is it something else entirely? Explore those feelings.

In regards to him following you into the shop, I am not sure what to make of it. I think it really depends on the type of person he is as well. If he's super social and very friendly that might be a normal thing... but I'm a massive introvert so I wouldn't know how to judge that.

 

[Thank(space)you]

Can you ladies bring me back down to earth with some rational thinking please?

I’m overthinking everything with a new person. Like yesterday I was popping down to the shop, I didn’t notice him but apparently he was the other side of the road, because he told me after crossing and following me into the shop just to say hi. I’m not the kind of person that would do that unless it was an immediate family member so now I’m like is that a good sign? A neutral sign?

I really like him, we’re getting on really well, seem to be entirely on the same wavelength and level of calm throughout life, so why am I like this over seemingly innocuous things!!

I'd cautiously see it as a good thing - much better than avoiding you. But I'd be aware of it also, don't want a stalker!

 

[Branched]

Hello!! You’ve come to the right place lol. Sorry about your ex but glad you’ve decided to take steps to move on, that’s a great start!

Dating apps are… well pretty awful a lot of the time. Having said that almost everyone here has probably met at least several nice men on them and some even long term relationships. What I would suggest ultimately is to not take anything too personally, particularly anything that feels like a rejection, because unfortunately that’s very much common place on apps. Ghosting, slow fades, no follow through, random blocks are all a part of the process. If you don’t experience any of those then I’d be asking questions!

Take some fun natural photos of yourself out and about, nothing too filtered, write a few interesting things about yourself and just see how it goes. As for the tonne of gorgeous girls, I can tell you (from male friends on the apps/my bf) that a LOT of them are heavily filtered, not real, looking for a sugar daddy and/or escorts. So don’t let that concern you. I think men get targeted in a lot of different ways on the apps that women don’t.

Just see it as a fun adventure or a jaunt to a busy bar where there might some hot guys who you might chat to and meet up or some you never see again, some you wish to steer clear of etc etc. JUST DO NOT TAKE ANYTHING TOO PERSONALLY! And let the games begin! X

This is all super helpful advice - thank you so much! Definitely need to get in the mindset of 'it wasn't a good match' rather than 'they hate me I must be so awful/weird/boring'.

Nervous but kind of excited to start this journey - watch me back here in a few weeks complaining that men are tit though

 

[EddyDarling]

Oh Goddddd I’m off the apps at the moment because I’m up to my neck in work to the detriment of literally everything else in my life, but I know I’m going to have to go back on there at some point.

I’m dreading having to wade through this clusterfuck of desperation and sex-pestery from distinctly mediocre men who have nothing to bring to the table but a wardrobe full of snide Balenciaga t-shirts and profile pictures that were taken when David Cameron was Prime Minister. bleeping shoot me.

If I ever see men in Balenciaga I immediately think of the Paul Olima tiktoks

 

[SpindleWhorl]

I'm feeling bored and lonely this Friday night so having an F buddy come round in a minute

 

[candyland_]

I’m struggling tonight too.. Someone I know wants to take me on a date Monday night but I’m not ready.

 

[Losa53]

I'm feeling bored and lonely this Friday night so having an F buddy come round in a minute

Enjoy it

 

[xcyber]

I'm feeling bored and lonely this Friday night so having an F buddy come round in a minute

Get yours, sugar!

 

[SpindleWhorl]

Get yours, sugar!

Thanks, he's just left, got my sweet nectar x

 

[Kimmylookatme]

Thanks, he's just left, got my sweet nectar x

Love this sorta update

 

[Snackella]

God, why are guys so .. dumb sometimes? I've been chatting to this guy for a couple of weeks, we're both in agreement that we want something casual so we've discussed what kind of things we like in bed etc. We're supposed to meet up tonight and we were just having a chat about that and suddenly he just says "With enough lube I'll slip something in your a".

INSTANT turn off wtf my dude??

 

[SpindleWhorl]

God, why are guys so .. dumb sometimes? I've been chatting to this guy for a couple of weeks, we're both in agreement that we want something casual so we've discussed what kind of things we like in bed etc. We're supposed to meet up tonight and we were just having a chat about that and suddenly he just says "With enough lube I'll slip something in your a".

INSTANT turn off wtf my dude??

TBF I quite like it up the bum sometimes, have you ever tried it?

 

[Snackella]

TBF I quite like it up the bum sometimes, have you ever tried it?

I haven't, and I generally live with the idea that I'll try most things at least once, but this is a man I haven't even met before? I've told him I'd need to meet him a few times before anything like that could happen

 

[Sprezza]

This thread makes me feel like a right prude sometimes

 

[Snackella]

This thread makes me feel like a right prude sometimes

You shouldn't, we all have different needs and wants when it comes to sex

 

[Losa53]

So it's date night!!!
Been at work since 6am and should be finished at 6pm unless the wheels off the wagon fall off.
We meeting around 7:30 only for some food so will dress casual
Very nervous as they never work out for me

 

[suzuka__]

I had an exciting date for today. We agreed to meet halfway between our towns. He was late and I assumed there was an issue with trains, but it turns out he had slept over and didn't show up. I have no comment, will try to laugh it off with myself