we stayed in glasgow but did day trips to edinburgh and to loch ness and inverness. really beautiful and the people were all so friendly.Oooh where did you go?! That sounds amazingand you've come home to the sun which makes it easier x
This is something I’ve noticed a lot recently. I’ve been on dates with 4 people this year (some more than others) and out of them I would say only one showed genuine interest and asked me about my life - and these are the dates I enjoyed the most - because inherently, we like talking about ourselves!
+1, this is something I noticed a lot too when dating. I don’t know if they’re genuinely not interested in knowing a thing about us or they’re nervous and are happy to let us do all the talking…but it’s a definite thing in modern dating. There’s loads of memes about it so we’re not alone
I know I was shocked he even messaged but why message after we haven't spoken to say I can't speak for a few weeks lol
My honest opinion? He’s got someone else on the go and has put you in a holding pattern. He sounds like an utter tosser and I hope you’re ok. Good on you for not replying.
Could be nerves. I’ve had better second dates with plenty of guys and I’d try and be open minded if you otherwise liked him. I’d go on a second date. If the same thing happens, I think that’s your answer.
xthank you for this. It’s just so weird isn’t it because to me it just comes naturally & it’s polite… but then I know some people can find social situations a little awkward & maybe need to feel a bit more comfortable. Let’s face it, it’s comfortable talking about yourself isn’t it. I’m like you in the fact that Iwant to conversation to flow so I would just ask stuff but maybe I’ll try take a step back next time & see if he does ask a bit more.
Same thing has happened to more than once, one guy used his connections in the police to get my address and show up at my house. I don’t know where they have learnt this is cute but as a woman it is terrifying.One of my worst nightmares regarding dating has just come true. A guy who had seen my profile on Bumble used the information to find me and sent me a message via Facebook. It is really creepy! He asked me for legal advice and offered to take me out in order to 'compensate' me. When I asked him how he found me he said he was scrolling through his friend list. However, we are NOT friends on Facebook, but he does live nearby. So at first I thought he could have found me through LinkedIn, but nope it was through bumble. I'm honestly a bit shaken up by it! I'm definitely removing all traceable information from dating apps, which is kind of hard because I have a very unique name which makes it super easy to find me.
yes the ex who doesn’t want anything is the same age as me… and is actually the only guy i’ve ever gone for my age. lesson learnt. going forward it’ll be bare minimum 26/27 really. this current guy is nearly 35 and i’m 24 in two weeks. this is probably the oldest i’ve ever done, precious max was 30 although i was like 20 then lol (please no one come for me cba being compared to gemma / davide)!! i’m just thinking i’m a lot more likely to have kids when i want if i go for someone older as our timelines will sync up better8.5 is a very precise attractiveness measurement and i love it
dealbreakers and things that are important to you definitely need to be brought up early, especially given how much both the things you’ve mentioned mean to you. but you are only 23 (said from my grand old age) - in my experience of early 20s guys they just aren’t thinking about this stuff yet, what age bracket are you looking at? it might be worth going a tiny bit older for the mortgage and kids point. and also maybe lowering the attractiveness gage to an 8
a nickname is a great idea - i have a fairly unique name too, especially for where i’m from, so i either use a variation of it that i don’t use anywhere else or just the first initial. i don’t want anyone trying to find me!
i don’t know if men think this is cute behaviour or something, it’s so possessive from the start.exactly! i think we all do a sneaky facebook and instagram check if we can but there’s a difference between viewing information that person has consented to being in the public domain and actively snooping for further details. it’s absolutely trying to infiltrate or gain some kind of leverage and it makes me very uneasy.
Shaggy new job?! Good luck with the move.
I think I was meant to write settle into my new job
clearly the dry spell is getting to me
I know only too well the gut wrenching moment when you see them online, not read your message, been left on blue ticks - you will drive yourself mad. 
