Hi Belle, I have kept up with your situation but never felt it my place to comment as it would be a little hypocritical of me (and everyone else does it so eloquently) but then again, I have been exactly where you are. As LaBlonde said, I’d be intrigued to know what your ideal outcome is from this situation. You’re giving this man a lot of credit and I’d hate to think of your good nature being taken advantage of.
If, for example, he sorts out the messy situation with the ex wife and all she is wanting, puts it in a box and moves on, do you think you could be truly happy and content with him? Would you ever truly be able to relax and be sure that he is 100% done with the aftermath of his marriage ending?
You are clearly astutely aware of the situation and I’m not disputing that. You definitely have your head screwed in and see things for what they are. I just wonder ultimately whether this could ever end in you being really truly happy and content with this man, in any way.
I’ve been there with the trying to be supportive of the messy break up, who’s entitled to what chat. I spent days listening to him reel off how much she was taking him for a ride, how much it was unfair and I, the same as you, thought “wow this woman is taking the absolute piss here,” but in hindsight, it’s all one perspective.
The hardest thing I ever did was cut all contact with someone I was mad about, even though I could have probably continued with them as they wanted to have their cake and eat it, to keep all their options open, I guess. If you really did close the door on this man and walk away for good, do you think he would come after you (maybe not now but in the future?)
Again just echoing what everyone has said, you have a good heart and we want the best for you