Dating after lockdown #21 More red flags than Pamplona, we don’t wanna know about your boner.

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At the end of another thread and not much has changed has it? How bloody depressing 😐 I am still on Bumble but go a week or so without checking in. Refuse to pay so can’t see if anyone decent has liked me. Got a lot going on at home so not focusing on it right now, it’s really liberating!
From seeing what you lovely lot are going through it’s no big loss, same idiots seem to be out there. Thought I’d cheer you up with a couple of pics of what’s on offer in my town:
Where do you live? Lapland? 🤣
 
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@prinnygrace Yes that's tough. I guess it's just one of those wait & see but get on with your life in the meantime type things. 😑 Good luck with your move and new life though. 👍


Haha I feel cheated. You said a couple of pictures. ,🤓


Haha I feel cheated. You said a couple of pictures. ,🤓

Oops broadband glitch
There was another one where a guy was with his mum & she looked like Camilla Parker Bowles 🤣
 
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I've been pottering around at home, just so happy to not have Covid! @LaBlonde hope you're improving a bit 🤞and I've been pondering on how I doubt I could cope with another in my life.
For example, I loathe the heat, so what if I was with someone who was all "C'mon let's hit the road, go to Brighton, sit with hoards on the beach & queue for hours to get home again. C'mon it'll be fun!)
Or he's a quiet chap, doesn't say much & spends hours gaming, sneaks off to the bathroom to look at porn 😑. Or would we be cuddled up gazing into each other's eyes. 💏 Maybe he'd be in the garden or horrors glued to the TV watching football. Maybe he'd be one of those guys who's awful at cooking, breaks everything he touches and can't assemble a drill.
I can't be around anyone for more than a few hours so maybe I'm better off single, alone with my imagination, pottering and musing on life. It's really not so bad being single and it's wonderful to not have Covid! 🙂

There was another one where a guy was with his mum & she looked like Camilla Parker Bowles 🤣
It's so weird. I saw one on POF who's profile picture was of a young girl with him (assuming it was his teenage daughter) arms around each other. I thought how weird! Or it was some girl at the pub. I always laugh at the ones with a crowd of women around them.
 
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i read this late last night but am finally able to get my thoughts together to reply to you 💙

i too am a thirty-something (a little older than you though!) who has never been in love and never had a “proper” relationship. this never really bothered me because i kinda understood why - i’m shy, like my own company, don’t make much of an effort to talk to men because a lot of them irritate me (🤣) but in some egotistical way i always thought “oh when i start really trying it’ll be fine” and have found that is absolutely not the case.

it’s really hard to deal with sometimes because, like you, most of my friends are in long-term relationships or easily and happily dating and getting loads of interest on apps and such, and it sometimes feels like i’m looking through a window into a room where everyone else is having a great time and in love and i’m outside under a raincloud or something.

on the flip side, i know that it’s a dangerous thing to start associating self-worth with romantic interest. it is also true, as @Sprottish says, that love can happen at any time, at any point in life. love can also come from anywhere, and i would rather be happy with my friends than unhappy in a relationship. self-love is the most important thing because your most important relationship is the one you will have with yourself.

however, i do also feel very bitter and why can’t that happen to me instead sometimes 🤣

i’m sorry that guy treated you like that but i am also proud (and you should be too!) of your reaction to it. you seem like an awesome person and it’s absolutely his loss. life is too short for mediocre men.
life is too short for mediocre men. Thread title suggestion
 
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At a bbq yesterday some of my friends were having a swipe on Tinder for a laugh and I couldn’t believe how bad it’s got since I was last on there.

There was a handful of men with ‘I’m in a relationship but curious to see who else is out there’ bios. I have no faith left in men 😂
 
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At a bbq yesterday some of my friends were having a swipe on Tinder for a laugh and I couldn’t believe how bad it’s got since I was last on there.

There was a handful of men with ‘I’m in a relationship but curious to see who else is out there’ bios. I have no faith left in men 😂
Yep, it’s a tit show! As well as the men who are not single, the inappropriate messages keep coming too. Someone distinctly average-looking messaged me not long ago and said “your* really pretty. Fancy hooking up sometime?” Seriously, that’s how you want to shoot your shot with me? Not even an offer of coffee first?! 🤣

*yes, he got it wrong. It’s you’re, you numpty!
 
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How about "We should have gone to Lapland" for thread title?
There's a very good thread on MN about no longer finding men attractive. A few mothers of sons getting aereated but overall I'm with them on the disillusionment.
 
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It’s an actual cesspit. I swear I have PTSD from dating apps. Then you watch Love Island and see guys (little boys) getting rewarded for being absolute menaces (I know it’s only a heavily produced tv programme but it seeps into society/culture).

My daughter is only 4 but I do worry for what she’ll have to deal with it if and when she dates.
 
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Yep, it’s a tit show! As well as the men who are not single, the inappropriate messages keep coming too. Someone distinctly average-looking messaged me not long ago and said “your* really pretty. Fancy hooking up sometime?” Seriously, that’s how you want to shoot your shot with me? Not even an offer of coffee first?! 🤣

*yes, he got it wrong. It’s you’re, you numpty!
They're so deluded aren't they Belle? It's laughable really.
 
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Yep, it’s a tit show! As well as the men who are not single, the inappropriate messages keep coming too. Someone distinctly average-looking messaged me not long ago and said “your* really pretty. Fancy hooking up sometime?” Seriously, that’s how you want to shoot your shot with me? Not even an offer of coffee first?! 🤣

*yes, he got it wrong. It’s you’re, you numpty!
Can we have that as a thread title 🥰
 
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Can I have a reality check please? Met a guy when walking my dog. I know neither his age nor if he's single. We had two nice chats, that's it. But my brain is doing that stupid thing where it's creating all kinds of scenarios where I see myself already on the way to the altar.

Doesn't help that I watched Heartstopper on Netflix yesterday which was super cute but made me long for this crazy feeling of being in love...
 
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Can I have a reality check please? Met a guy when walking my dog. I know neither his age nor if he's single. We had two nice chats, that's it. But my brain is doing that stupid thing where it's creating all kinds of scenarios where I see myself already on the way to the altar.

Doesn't help that I watched Heartstopper on Netflix yesterday which was super cute but made me long for this crazy feeling of being in love...
A little bit of daydreaming shouldn't be a problem at all, as long as you're realistic and realize that it's nothing more than that. However, if you keep running into this person, keep chatting to them! Who knows where it could lead! 😁
 
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It’s an actual cesspit. I swear I have PTSD from dating apps. Then you watch Love Island and see guys (little boys) getting rewarded for being absolute menaces (I know it’s only a heavily produced tv programme but it seeps into society/culture).

My daughter is only 4 but I do worry for what she’ll have to deal with it if and when she dates.
Teach her to have insanely high standards.
Mine is 13 this summer and I’m half impressed half horrified at how brutal she is when it comes to teenage boys 😅
 
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Teach her to have insanely high standards.
Mine is 13 this summer and I’m half impressed half horrified at how brutal she is when it comes to teenage boys 😅
I WISH I had the audacity of my goddaughter. She recently broke up with a boy (both 14) because she said he had a funny smell. She literally said: "You smell like cheese. I do not want a boyfriend who smells like cheese. I want to break up, cheese boy." 😂
 
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At a bbq yesterday some of my friends were having a swipe on Tinder for a laugh and I couldn’t believe how bad it’s got since I was last on there.

There was a handful of men with ‘I’m in a relationship but curious to see who else is out there’ bios. I have no faith left in men 😂
Seems to be either one of the two for me:
-Wet lettuces
-Fuckboys (which I feel I’ve developed a sixth sense for identifying now)
 
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