I agree with the others
@Carapop I had one person like this who I called out on this nonsense (he didn’t like that) before cutting contact. Even then, he did everything he could to keep in contact with me for months despite blocking everything. I’ve since found out that he has a well publicised history of this. Because it wasn’t me, it was the chance of any woman. (This also goes back to my nice guy vs good man theory. Nice guys will tell you they’re one of the good ones, while not getting it at all. Good men show you)
If he happens to be bald, French and 5’8” - run!
I don’t like men who tell me who I am without actually knowing me/getting to know me, it’s like being commanded to perform. And I don’t like men exercising some kind of claim on me either.
It doesn’t even matter if you’ve read what his plans are wrong. The fact that you’re even worried about that is awful. His behaviour has led to that conclusion. There’s a reason we’re told to follow our instincts and I don’t think this is about you self sabotaging.
And to be brutally honest, if anyone told me I was his perfect woman from a few well chosen photos and a few text messages, I wouldn’t be flattered, I’d think he wasn’t very bright and certainly had no emotional maturity.
If you want to meet him, exercise caution. But don’t stop talking to other people etc. I suspect someone else will soon make you realise that his intensity is off.