I've got a fifth date tonight with the guy I was talking about last week, I'd been thinking I was getting the start of the slow-fade when he'd said he was busy last week and suggested this week instead. Definitely got into an overthinking mood about it. 🥲 But he popped up Monday morning to check-in and suggested today.
Thanks!! Honestly, all I want to do is go round his and not-watch a movie, I'm absolutely flattened this weekHave a fab time! What are you doing for it?
what a lovely dateThanks!! Honestly, all I want to do is go round his and not-watch a movie, I'm absolutely flattened this weekBut haven't suggested that. So we're going to a cute little theatre for a show and food instead
Hey Twini should say, for all my facetiousness, that i’m really feeling my lack of options at the momenti talk a big talk about being happy single, and i mainly am, but i can’t help wondering what’s wrong with me at this point. my mother found a lovely pocket watch of my grandfather’s last week and said to my dad “you can wear it if [lablonde] ever gets married” and then a sad little laugh. i feel for her that a lot of her friends are shopping for their mother of the bride outfits right now and i just can’t give her that experience.
also, if someone knows of a secret club where all the decent men in south wales are hiding themselves then please let me know because, wow.
Nope. Currently chatting tentatively with my ex. He’s confusing me. Quick to respond and is engaged with me. Spoke on and off all day a few days ago, even including some harmless flirting, and his comment implied we will see each other soon. He brought the conversation back to that topic yesterday, when we had a conversation after I messaged him. I’ll try and stay lightly engaged every few days or so, even if it’s me initiating, and make a suggestion to meet at some stage, unless he asks me first, to see how he responds. I know I can’t read into anything or get my hopes upHas anyone been on any dates lately?
We have all been thereI went on one date in Tel Aviv and I was immediately reminded of why I dislike dating. The guy was lovely, but the whole awkwardness/having to discover a new person all over again has made me quite tired. I think I suffer from dating fatigue.
oh belle, i don’t know if that’s entirely fair of him, though i completely understand why you want to keep engaged. are you hoping that he’ll ask to meet? or do you feel like the situation has changed? thinking of youNope. Currently chatting tentatively with my ex. He’s confusing me. Quick to respond and is engaged with me. Spoke on and off all day a few days ago, even including some harmless flirting, and his comment implied we will see each other soon. He brought the conversation back to that topic yesterday, when we had a conversation after I messaged him. I’ll try and stay lightly engaged every few days or so, even if it’s me initiating, and make a suggestion to meet at some stage, unless he asks me first, to see how he responds. I know I can’t read into anything or get my hopes up
Feeling quite disillusioned at the moment to be in such limbo - I’m not looking forward to the dating apps if I do end up back on them
Apparently he's 3 foot 6!This has to be a p**s take?
I can totally relate, I also had a little cry just now.oh belle, i don’t know if that’s entirely fair of him, though i completely understand why you want to keep engaged. are you hoping that he’ll ask to meet? or do you feel like the situation has changed? thinking of you
@whathastheworldcometo - i don’t even know what to say! how dare he thank you for your “great reaction”?! what a piece of work! men were a mistake. i hope you’re okay, that sounds like a situation you’re better off far away from
in answer to your other points: i should say that i have a younger sister who broke up with her long-term boyfriend during the first lockdown. my mother had a very emotional reaction to that as i think she was fully preparing for weddings and babies and so feels a sense of loss for herself. i’m an easier target to be made to feel guilty though as i’m a long-term single (as we’ve discussed!) and the older one, so (although i know she doesn’t mean it) there’s always an air of “well why didn’t YOU give me these things”?! i feel even more of a fool for telling her about the guy last year and seeing how excited she was for me.
at 36 it’s also easy to start falling into “the time is running out!” mindset, all of this seemed so much more easy to deal with in my 20s.
i don’t know, i’m just feeling sorry for myself to the point that i had a little cry earlier (which is ridiculous! crying over dating) but, urgh.
I know, I’m torn between walking away because this isn’t fair, and staying in contact. He never struck me as an arsehole, but people surprise you all the time! I want to be there while he works through things. Most blokes just leave and don’t look back, and certainly don’t engage in any meaningful way like he’s doing after it’s over. So I’m confused, but I know that I can’t just walk. I will need an answer to what this all means at some point soon. I think the main way to weed him out is to message him and eventually ask to meet - then watch his reaction. There’s a fine line between giving someone a chance and try to work on something (knowing he’s got a lot going on), and being strung along, so his reaction should give me an idea of whether I have to move on, and get back on the apps again.oh belle, i don’t know if that’s entirely fair of him, though i completely understand why you want to keep engaged. are you hoping that he’ll ask to meet? or do you feel like the situation has changed? thinking of you
@whathastheworldcometo - i don’t even know what to say! how dare he thank you for your “great reaction”?! what a piece of work! men were a mistake. i hope you’re okay, that sounds like a situation you’re better off far away from
in answer to your other points: i should say that i have a younger sister who broke up with her long-term boyfriend during the first lockdown. my mother had a very emotional reaction to that as i think she was fully preparing for weddings and babies and so feels a sense of loss for herself. i’m an easier target to be made to feel guilty though as i’m a long-term single (as we’ve discussed!) and the older one, so (although i know she doesn’t mean it) there’s always an air of “well why didn’t YOU give me these things”?! i feel even more of a fool for telling her about the guy last year and seeing how excited she was for me.
at 36 it’s also easy to start falling into “the time is running out!” mindset, all of this seemed so much more easy to deal with in my 20s.
i don’t know, i’m just feeling sorry for myself to the point that i had a little cry earlier (which is ridiculous! crying over dating) but, urgh.
Sorry you’re upset. Good to let it out, and I’m sending you a hugI can totally relate, I also had a little cry just now.
Or 3 and a half inches……Apparently he's 3 foot 6!
I am indeedCan I ask is Agent Cooper the poster formerly known as Raymond? I seem to remember she had a German suitor.
Aww glad you're still here.I am indeed
Raymond's Yacht?I am indeed
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