Hello lovely ladies; hope you donāt mind if I derail the thread with an essay for a sec - just need some other peoples opinions on my situation.
(Some of you may remember I posted in one of the earlier threads months ago about how I was an super late to my second date with this one guy and his phone had died and we couldnāt find each other and he got annoyed and left and I was devastated!)
Anyway a month or two after that we rekindled and Iāve been seeing him ever since. We went on our first date when the Eu were on - not sure what month that was though. However I donāt live in London and he does, but weāve been hanging out pretty consistently.
He told me on our second date he was moving to the US in the new year and as a result weāve both kind of ruled out being in a relationship (at the time Iād only been single six months - with my ex for three years and wasnāt fully over him, so having something that I knew was going to be a bit more low-key was exactly what I wanted).
I ended up going on holiday with this guy pretty early on (weād only been on three dates!!) but he was going abroad and his friends had all pulled out one by one for different reasons and he was going to go alone. Last minute he asked if I wanted to come and I thought
duck it why not. We spent a week together and it was loads of fun and pretty romantic.
He was pretty upfront on our first couple of dates that he was seeing other people. I wasnāt because Iād had all apps deleted months before I met him, but the fact he was wasnāt a massive issue for me because of how I was feeling towards my ex etc. After our holiday I got the impression he stopped seeing other people because of how much time we spent together and things he would say - but I never outright asked.
A couple weekends ago he asked if I wanted to hang out with his friends and I spent the weekend with them. I had a great time but the one thing I felt was highlighted was that he actually liked me a lot more/was more serious about me than I thought based on things his friends would sayā¦
We couldnāt see each other the week after that as he was really busy with work.
When heās apologising over text for being busy, he asks me what Iām up to and I tell him my birthday is coming up and Iāve got some fun things planned for that. Now I hadnāt invited him out to celebrate with my friends and I because heād told me prior that he was away that particular weekend watching the rugby. And I had checked with him to make sure. Anyway he reads my text mentioning my birthday and HAS NOT REPLIED SINCE.
Itās been over a week now. Maybe I shouldnāt have, but I messaged him again today because he is notoriously bad with his phone and part of me was hoping maybe heād just got distracted and needed a nudge. This time he hasnāt even read it.
Iām just shocked for him to ghost out of nowhere. Weād been having such a nice time together and the whole time itās been very chill. He normally is quite good with expressing his feelings so Iām surprised if something was wrong he wouldnāt have just told me.
After spending however many months with this guy, going away together, meeting his friends, do I have to really just accept that heād ghost out of nowhere one day?? Has anyone got any theories? I know ghosting is common when someone meets someone else they like better, but he had told me obviously as heās relocating to the US in two months dating new people is a bit odd and a waste of timeā¦so Iām just at a loss as to what has happened here