I think youâre missing the point
@Bagpuss7 is making on this which is that advice from The Rules is encouraging the game playing behaviour we all find frustrating rather than just being honest about what works for you/what your expectations are.
You could reply with, âthanks for the offer, itâs too short notice for me but maybe some other timeâ unless of course you are busy because you want some down time, in which case youâre not following the advice of the counsellor who suggests to routinely say youâre busy if asked after a Wednesday for a Saturday date whether you are or not because you should set a boundary that it isnât showing sufficient thought/interest/planning by doing so.
I completely agree that a weekend doing nothing is actually a weekend doing something - looking after your own health and well-being is important.