I’ve spent three days overthinking this and I have finally decided that you are the only ones who will be able to give me some solid advice on the matter…
OH & I have just moved in to a house and his parents have asked if there is anything they could get us for the new house, for Christmas. I told OH that vouchers would be good as we are pretty much set with everything at the moment.
OH then tells MIL that we would like a new microwave (ours is a gifted second hand one that is quite small and I have been moaning about because there is only a dial timer so I cannot set 30 secs etc for something and have to keep timing with my phone). I said to OH, we should send some we like over as ideas? He explained, that’s not how things work in their family, we aren’t demanding a product we want and we should be grateful for the gift. (I am also very particular about things being a certain way, matching aesthetic, being good value for money etc & OH knows this) so I shut up and didn’t say anything further on the matter.
Christmas Day arrives and we open our new microwave, 17 litres (smaller than current one and you have to turn a plate sideways to fit it in!!), with dial timer (exactly same as current one) and only 700W (less than current one).
Now I am really not trying to be ungrateful but it’s literally 1. What we already owned (except shitter) and worked perfectly fine until we could afford one we wanted and 2. The complete opposite of everything I would want from a microwave!
What do I do? OH even said when we got home, oh I didn’t realise they still did dial timers, I said yep how ironic the thing we hated we’ve got again! I don’t want MIL to have just wasted money on something but equally I just want to go out and buy the bloody microwave I want!! It’s not like we can hide it either, she will know if I get a different one and OH would not be happy as I would be seen as most ungrateful. MIL is very sensitive but part of me wants to ask her to return it and get her wasted money back.
Send help!
ETA: I am aware there are worse things happening in the world
OH & I have just moved in to a house and his parents have asked if there is anything they could get us for the new house, for Christmas. I told OH that vouchers would be good as we are pretty much set with everything at the moment.
OH then tells MIL that we would like a new microwave (ours is a gifted second hand one that is quite small and I have been moaning about because there is only a dial timer so I cannot set 30 secs etc for something and have to keep timing with my phone). I said to OH, we should send some we like over as ideas? He explained, that’s not how things work in their family, we aren’t demanding a product we want and we should be grateful for the gift. (I am also very particular about things being a certain way, matching aesthetic, being good value for money etc & OH knows this) so I shut up and didn’t say anything further on the matter.
Christmas Day arrives and we open our new microwave, 17 litres (smaller than current one and you have to turn a plate sideways to fit it in!!), with dial timer (exactly same as current one) and only 700W (less than current one).
Now I am really not trying to be ungrateful but it’s literally 1. What we already owned (except shitter) and worked perfectly fine until we could afford one we wanted and 2. The complete opposite of everything I would want from a microwave!
What do I do? OH even said when we got home, oh I didn’t realise they still did dial timers, I said yep how ironic the thing we hated we’ve got again! I don’t want MIL to have just wasted money on something but equally I just want to go out and buy the bloody microwave I want!! It’s not like we can hide it either, she will know if I get a different one and OH would not be happy as I would be seen as most ungrateful. MIL is very sensitive but part of me wants to ask her to return it and get her wasted money back.
Send help!
ETA: I am aware there are worse things happening in the world
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