I'm really sorry but this whole thing has absolutely baffled me.Yeah exactly, but I’m worried he is starting to get a little bored. We don’t really do a lot of different things And obvs haven’t been able to go on a proper holiday for nearly 2 years which would break up the monotony slightly. I mean i do suggest different things to do but I can’t drive so it would always be him driving and he drives all week for work so by the time the weekend comes he’s not up for it
So he potentially wants kids cause he's bored cause you guys don't do a lot of different things, but even if you had kids you probably couldn't do those things anyway as it'd be kid orientated things which could be even more boring (soft play and attraction farms are boring, and they're full of screaming kids), and he's still going to have drive on the weekend with the kids even though he's not up for driving now it's just the two of you?
And even if you did have kids... he'd not be doing much of the heavy lifting given his job? So you'd probably be left doing it all? Not to mention, life with kids is probably more boring. It's Groundhog Day filled with school runs, packed lunches, washing etc. No spontaneous holidays or days out. Holidays that revolve around kids and keeping them entertained while you have very little fun cause you're watching the kids and making sure they've got suncream on and they don't drown.
ETA: this isn't me trying to put you off. I just don't understand the ridiculousness of the bored statement.
I'd rather be bored without kids and be able to book a week off work and jump on a plane, go to spa, go on a day trip mid week than be bored with kids and be stuck on a school schedule or because nap time is at 11:30I had a coworker say that to me once ‘won’t you be bored without kids?’. Whenever I’m feeling a bit bored, I never think ‘oh man i wish a child to look after right now!’.
And tbh I think even if people do have children because of boredom, boring just takes on a new meaning as you adapt and it becomes your new normal. When you’ve come home from work and you’ve gotta bathe the kids, cook their dinner, help them with their homework, take them to clubs, tidy up after them etc…