In agreement with what you’ve said. I used to work with a chap who as soon as his youngest son was at university, he and his wife sold their house and moved abroadI had a discussion recently and said I would rather regret not having children, than regret having them.
I'm only in my 30s, but if I get older and suddenly decide I do want kids, then I can always look into adoption/fostering or live a child free life with some regret.
If I have kids and hate it, then I've got 18 years of raising a child to do, whether I want to or not. Those kids will undoubtedly pick up on my regret and resentment, which really isn't fair.
Always the parents for me. Kids and their behaviour are always a product of their parents ability to discipline. I really don't know where it all went wrong. It's my generation that seem to have messed up their kids... What was so bad about our parents parenting styles that makes people not want to parent in the same way?!I was in a packed restaurant last night waiting for a table and in walked a family with about 6 kids, half of them toddler age. The kids were running wild, running up and down the restaurant corridors (where waiters were walking with heavy plates and hot food!) and the parents were just encouraging them and throwing them on their shoulders getting them even more hyper. I didn't know who to be more annoyed by, the kids or the stupid parents for reproducing 6 times and not implementing any discipline
My mum did the after school shift at a playcare thing, and it was really clear in terms and conditions that the kids would only be given a small snack. Loads of parents kicked off about their kids being hungry at home in the evening... My mum was forever explaining that they only got given a snack and not a full meal. I think once she even said 'yes you do still need to actually feed your child when they're back with you for the evening'.My mum ran a church playgroup for years - it was £1 a session, parents had to volunteer to do one session per term, milk and snacks provided. Carers allowed to say no and gently discipline kids if they misbehaved/ hurt each other. Opening times 9-12pm on the dot. Playgroup was sold by the church. Became playcare. Open 8am - 6pm parents often late and didn’t care it spoilt the carers evenings as they were paying £24 per day. They got breakfast and tea, homework done in groups , carers not allowed to say no as the parents paid their wages. My mum left with I’ll health within 6 months. Parents didn’t do anything with their kids and when they were with them wanted to be the Disney adult, fun etc.
Both stories sound very familiar to me and are part of the reason why I got out of childcare altogether!My mum did the after school shift at a playcare thing, and it was really clear in terms and conditions that the kids would only be given a small snack. Loads of parents kicked off about their kids being hungry at home in the evening... My mum was forever explaining that they only got given a snack and not a full meal. I think once she even said 'yes you do still need to actually feed your child when they're back with you for the evening'.
I like kids but I couldn’t work with them because of their parents. In the last few days on social media/forums I’ve seen people saying teachers/schools should;Both stories sound very familiar to me and are part of the reason why I got out of childcare altogether!
...my sister is a teacher, primary and everything you've written here has happened in her school and more...also as funding short a lot of kids with SEN kept in a class now too...she loves her job, is the kind of teacher you'd want your kids to have, but she is scunnered by it...I like kids but I couldn’t work with them because of their parents. In the last few days on social media/forums I’ve seen people saying teachers/schools should;
brush kids teeth in the morning so they learn how to do it
Teach kids to tie shoelaces and do it for them until they can
Zip kids coats up if they haven’t done it
Stop kids using their phones at school
Remind kids to drink
I’ve also seen parents using words like ‘confront’ and ‘storming’ when talking about going to speak to teachers and of course the standard ‘my X wouldn’t do that’ when they’ve been told off or given detention.
Alternatively I’ve seen teachers posting for advice after being hit, having a chair thrown at them and being sexually assaulted by a child.
Between the actually bad kids, the parents, the shot pay and the workload, I’m genuinely surprised there are actually any teachers left. I believe if there was a big recruitment push by a huge company/industry who basically said ‘hey teachers, you have the skills we need, come here’, they would all leave, because I also see a lot of posts like ‘I’m a teacher and what to leave teaching completely but what can I do?’.
Same - I’m the last person who should be home schooling, but I also wouldn’t even want to send my a cat into a school these days with all the behaviour issues and lack of funding etcYeah I imagine teaching is a bloody hard job but the education system is also a reason I don’t really want kids (among many!)
The education system is suffering due to poor govt decisions and child literacy etc is falling and in general schooling doesn’t seem the same as when I was younger.
call me a cynic but I don’t really see it getting better any time soon
You should go on dragons den with that ideaI had a funny dream recently where I had kids and they were overwhelming, so I packed them up to take them to the kids hotel to get a break.
Then I realised kids hotels don't exist and woke up.
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