Has anyone had problems with men wanting children when you don't?
Sort of - I've told my boyfriend I don't want kids and he said he might in the future/when we're more financially stable.Has anyone had problems with men wanting children when you don't?
I have with an ex. He really was the love of my life but when he turned 40 he suddenly announced he wanted children and he knew it had always been a deal breaker for me. We were never going to agree and it was just causing so many issues that I left 3 months later. I still miss him very much despite being married to someone else now.Has anyone had problems with men wanting children when you don't?
That’s terribly sad but good for you for sticking to your gunsI have with an ex. He really was the love of my life but when he turned 40 he suddenly announced he wanted children and he knew it had always been a deal breaker for me. We were never going to agree and it was just causing so many issues that I left 3 months later. I still miss him very much despite being married to someone else now.
Oh my heart. You stayed true to yourself.I have with an ex. He really was the love of my life but when he turned 40 he suddenly announced he wanted children and he knew it had always been a deal breaker for me. We were never going to agree and it was just causing so many issues that I left 3 months later. I still miss him very much despite being married to someone else now.
That must have been so hard, but you stayed 100% to your desires.I have with an ex. He really was the love of my life but when he turned 40 he suddenly announced he wanted children and he knew it had always been a deal breaker for me. We were never going to agree and it was just causing so many issues that I left 3 months later. I still miss him very much despite being married to someone else now.
And even the most hands on dad's don't seem to do as much as mum's (based on people I know, I know it won't be true for everyone). All of my friends who have kids, they always want their mum when they're upset/going to bed etc so even when the dad is willing to take over the child often won't settle unless their mum is there.Men don't have to go through carrying a baby/childbirth, it's easy for them
Punch a hole their ball and yeet it back, you can blame thorns in the bushesThanks for the ideas! I hate confrontation, but I've got the mums number so might text her next time they do it.
Last week they played rounders in the garden and the mum said 'make sure the ball doesn't go over the fence' and one of them cheekily said back 'I can't make any promises'. They're entitled little twerps.
We have a dog. The kids next door are always losing balls etc over the fence. If we spot them before she does we throw them back, if she gets them before us then it’s not our fault.Punch a hole their ball and yeet it back, you can blame thorns in the bushes
What a weird attitude. It comes across as though she isn’t happy with his decision/situation and telling herself/you that he’s ’beating’ you is to make herself feel better.I spoke with my sister yesterday who's son is expecting a child (aged 16 but that's besides the point!). She laughed and said to me (in my 30s) "He's having a child before you have yours!! My son is beating you! "
HOWWWW many times can I say to her I Don't Want Children before she believes me?? She's one of those people who thinks I'll "grow out of it" or change my mind when I "find the right person". It's insulting, frankly. My choices are valid and I couldn't think of anything worse than having a child taking up all my time, money, energy, mental strength. Also he's not "beating me" because life isn't a race with milestones you must complete. This kid and his gf are both 16 with no education and no future. I'm fine hun!
Then she says "you're always on holiday!!" YES! Because I don't have kids to pay for and I'm HAPPY!!!!! Arggggghhhhhhhh
She's wanted me to have a kid ever since she got pregnant tbh - I think like so many Mums they want others to join them so they're not alone in their misery. It's all jealousy!What a weird attitude. It comes across as though she isn’t happy with his decision/situation and telling herself/you that he’s ’beating’ you is to make herself feel better.