Sorry but I find it hard to believe anyone actually loves labourWhoooo caressss
Sorry but I find it hard to believe anyone actually loves labourWhoooo caressss
I'm totally with you on that. These days, people can't be ignorant of the genetic link with autism. A few of us already said what you have about not wanting to pass on conditions to a child or just to have to raise a child with disabilities.A guy at work was talking the other day about how his autism had basically ruined his life but he has gone on to have 3 severely autistic children - all diagnosed very young so it's not like they didn't know. Wouldn't you just stop after the first? Or second? Or not risk it in the first place... I'm baffled.
I know a family who’s one child attended a branch of one of my hobbies last year. Child is non verbal/ only verbal cues are screaming shouting etc, it was described by the parents CARER as asd, parents have never worked, in their late 40s (I guess) and have 8 kids from mid 20s to very young. No social skills to be seen anywhere except in the very eldest who was taken under the wing of another child’s parent whilst at high school and has battled to make a life for themselves. Mother claims to have xyz which is clearly just passed onto the kidsI'm totally with you on that. These days, people can't be ignorant of the genetic link with autism. A few of us already said what you have about not wanting to pass on conditions to a child or just to have to raise a child with disabilities.
Good luck with the interview today my love.Totally agree with these comments - there was an article the other day about a woman who had been sterilised at a fairly young age due to her being 100% sure she didn't want kids. There were so many responses (often from women!) saying that it's a good job someone so stupid can no longer procreate, that she was messing with our biological destiny, etc. etc. etc.
I've got a job interview today (NHS) and one of the interesting things that stuck out for me on their CQC report was the fact that amongst their staff support networks/groups they have Childfree by Choice. I'll certainly be joining once if I get the job.
Another thing to add which I'm aware may make me sound horrendously cruel but I'll say it... one of the reasons I don't want children is because I have ASD and some mental health issues, I was undiagnosed for a lot of years but regardless it has caused me many issues over the course of my life - and I couldn't cope with a child being the same. A guy at work was talking the other day about how his autism had basically ruined his life but he has gone on to have 3 severely autistic children - all diagnosed very young so it's not like they didn't know. Wouldn't you just stop after the first? Or second? Or not risk it in the first place... I'm baffled.
And somehow that's ok, but not having kids isn't? I'll never understand this logic.Good luck with the interview today my love.
Following on from your comment regarding the colleague with the autistic children…
someone I went to school with had 6 kids by 30, all to the same mother etc but they were told 3 kids ago to stop having them as every time they were born with more and more issues.
They didnt stop. It’s like they’re addicted to having kids.
Anyway, the other day a video was posted on Facebook ‘announcing’ one of their children’s diagnosis. It was weird. It was almost done in the style of a TikTok gender reveal. It’s not the happy flex they think it is. This child has a life affecting syndrome.
I agree so much with this statement. My friends, neighbours, people I went to school with, collegues it’s ALL they ever talk about. All everyone around here does is do the school run and go to the supermarket, back and forth. My friends never go anywhere or do anything, it’s all just kids, this kids that. The people they were don’t even exist anymore. It makes me feel so claustrophobic. An annual trip to Peppa Pig world is their ultimate life goal now And I know it’s money limitations too but don’t they ever want to discover who they really are as an individual, have some great experiences and just LIVE?! I. JUST. DONT.GET.IT!Like do people lose their identity after having kids? They stop being their own person and just exist to bore us about their offspring
I am convinced it's because they are jealous. So many people have kids because they think they have to, because they got married and it's the next step, because of outside pressures. I think they get triggered thinking of the life they could have had if they had made different decisions, and people like us are a reminder of that.for some reason they think it's a personal attack
Oh definitely! They try and smile through their centre parcs and butlins holidays but we all know they'd love to travel like childfree people doI am convinced it's because they are jealous.
It's not even the travel. Like they literally never get to just sit at home and it's quiet. I could never give up my peace and quiet. I need that to survive!Oh definitely! They try and smile through their centre parcs and butlins holidays but we all know they'd love to travel like childfree people do
It’s bad enough with the dog being needy sometimes. Let alone a child.It's not even the travel. Like they literally never get to just sit at home and it's quiet. I could never give up my peace and quiet. I need that to survive!
I was thinking about this last week. I'm an introvert, and I NEED my quiet alone time. My husband was away and I had about five days of solitude, with my cats, and it was absolute bliss. I can't imagine constantly having someone around.It's not even the travel. Like they literally never get to just sit at home and it's quiet. I could never give up my peace and quiet. I need that to survive!
Totally agree with these comments - there was an article the other day about a woman who had been sterilised at a fairly young age due to her being 100% sure she didn't want kids. There were so many responses (often from women!) saying that it's a good job someone so stupid can no longer procreate, that she was messing with our biological destiny, etc. etc. etc.
I've got a job interview today (NHS) and one of the interesting things that stuck out for me on their CQC report was the fact that amongst their staff support networks/groups they have Childfree by Choice. I'll certainly be joining once if I get the job.
Another thing to add which I'm aware may make me sound horrendously cruel but I'll say it... one of the reasons I don't want children is because I have ASD and some mental health issues, I was undiagnosed for a lot of years but regardless it has caused me many issues over the course of my life - and I couldn't cope with a child being the same. A guy at work was talking the other day about how his autism had basically ruined his life but he has gone on to have 3 severely autistic children - all diagnosed very young so it's not like they didn't know. Wouldn't you just stop after the first? Or second? Or not risk it in the first place... I'm baffled.
Anecdotally, all the people I know who absolutely love being a parent, enjoy their children and would have kids all over again if their life restarted tomorrow never, ever say anything negative about me being childfree, never say anything rude or bitter and are always happy for me and supportive and completely understand I’m childfree.I am convinced it's because they are jealous. So many people have kids because they think they have to, because they got married and it's the next step, because of outside pressures. I think they get triggered thinking of the life they could have had if they had made different decisions, and people like us are a reminder of that.
I am fortunate to be able to travel a lot, and at my last job a few (miserable) parents said "you won't be able to do that when you have kids". Like who said I want to give up my life and enjoyments just to have kids, to sit in an office with other parents saying that coming to a boring job is a nice break from home life and kids?