Thank you. I think this is the point I was trying to make. She’s not the best, putting it mildly, but she’s clearly desperate for some kind of relationship with her biological family which is perfectly understandable. He just seems like a complete waste of space.I don't think you are being judgey, I think he probably uses weaponised incompetence to have her clean and cook for him. She's not an enjoyable person at all, but paying for taxis to ship them meals is just taking the piss. Her dad is an adult, well enough to be someone else's "carer", he can learn to batch cook shepherd's pie.
Family of wasters.