I honestly feel like Carrie is only seeing the things Joel does and the way he treats her in relation to Oliver. It’s like she’s taken all the negatives of her relationship with Oliver, and the things she wanted from him, seen how Joel willingly and enthusiastically fills those gaps (outwardly supporting her, piling on praise, posting her all over social media, showering her with gifts, actually wanting to marry her and talk about a future with her etc.) and just gone, wow, he is everything I ever wanted!!
![Smiling face with heart-eyes :heart_eyes: 😍](https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/gh/joypixels/emoji-assets@5.0/png/64/1f60d.png)
Without realising that, sure, Joel fills the holes she felt in her relationship with Oliver, but this is
an entirely different relationship. She wanted those those things from Oliver, not just from
anyone. Joel might not have any of the red flags Oliver had but he also doesn’t have any of the green flags (you know, like, Carrie actually loving him and wanting to shag him), and then obviously has entirely his own new ones which she just chooses to ignore.