It’s really tough and I can totally sympathise with her if she doesn’t feel like she can do it. But for gods sakes, don’t have kids with this man. I despise when people who know their partner is a bad person go on to have kids with them. My best friend grew up that way and resents her mum for never leaving her dad or protecting them from him. Just think if Carrie has kids with him, it’ll be out of her stupid need to catch up with Tom&Gi and satisfy herself, rather than for pure and good reasons.
^Ha, this. I’m the result of a relationship with a man that my mother always knew deep down wasn’t a good person and wasn’t right for her, but she pushed through and convinced herself it was “fine” and she could mould the whole situation into happiness by sheer force of will.
It has permanently fucked me up in ways I will truly never get over. My father is simply not a good person. He’s narcissistic and controlling and boy, has it left me with some major, deep-rooted mental health and personality issues I’m forced to deal with on a daily basis. My mom ignored red flags in him through every step by tunnel-vision focusing on all the wonderful things he did instead, and said she always felt an underlining sense of sickness and uneasiness throughout their entire marriage, but again, thought he was the best she could do and thought she could will the whole relationship into something it would never be.
People like Carrie desperately need to realize having kids is an enormous decision because you’re creating entirely new human beings that will
forever be related to the man you’ve chosen. You don’t do that
tit on a whim to make yourself feel better because you’re terrified you’re shrivelled up at 30 and desperate for anyone to lick your wounds from an unexpected breakup.
Throwing yourself into a marriage/engagement to make yourself feel good is one thing, but I hope to god someone close to Carrie speaks to her before she decides to permanently tied to this man by bringing children into the world with him who will never be able to escape having him as a father.