I mean Carrie has a really bad track record with men. Alex Day is a confirmed sexual predator, I remember vague abuse allegations about Pete (feel free to correct me on that one?) and Oliver was borderline neglectful for 99% of what we saw of their relationship. I, like Carrie am curvy and a little bit odd and I see a lot of my insecurities and want to be wanted in her and I wouldn’t be surprised if that’s what’s causing her to attach herself to these questionable men.
That’s actually crazy to think about, but you’re right - Carrie has never properly been with a normal decent man. Oliver was the best of the bunch, but he was never really into Carrie. And while we’ll never know for sure, I’m convinced he only got into a serious relationship with her out of convenience. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that 4 months after landing the biggest role of his career to date and probably making decent money for the first time, he left her.
And not to be cruel, but Carrie is the common denominator in all this. The egotistical self serving way she views relationships is precisely why her love life has been so messy and erratic. She’s self absorbed and sees the world in such a childishly simplistic way. She doesn’t authentically experience her partners. They’re just an extension of herself or something to fill the void. Mix that with a hefty sense of entitlement and a pathological need to be coupled up at all costs, and it’s no wonder she stumbles from one bad situation to another.
She keeps repeating in her stupid prattle videos about how she ‘doesn’t believe that you need another person to complete you’. Which firstly, mentioning it more than once just makes me think that you absolutely do believe that but you know how pathetic it is lmao. And secondly, why couldn’t she have actually lived that ethos and taken time after Oliver? To just breathe, sit with herself and enjoy being young, unencumbered and alive? Go on a solo trip, enjoy that beautiful house you renovated for yourself.
Joel certainly wasn’t going anywhere lmao. If after a year of just living and not revolving her existence around a man, she still felt desperate for a ring and baby, she could’ve dm’ed him then. She was 29 not 39, I doubt her biological clock was ticking that loudly.
But Joel is still pretty new to this, and has far less comments and followers than Carrie does, but still never directly acknowledges any of the incredibly kind (and extremely stupid) messages they get. 
