Bryony Farmer #3 the know-it-all that knows nothing.

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I always washed our clothes together. The only thing I washed separately was cloth nappies.

Her videos are mostly a response to Tattle commentary, always trying to prove the opposite of what she previously showed. She makes me sick taking foster money and neglecting their needs to prioritise herself. Ignoring babies needs, particularly vulnerable ones with attachment trauma, would further increase their trauma responses and cause lifelong health, personal and social difficulties. Early years are incredibly important for developing a healthy internal working model. This is the time that babies learn to understand their emotions, to trust themselves and others based off their communication being listened to and acted upon. Ignoring their needs tells them they can't trust themselves or others. Their neural development during these prolonged periods of neglect are setting them up for physiological trauma patterns and physical illness.

Her fake kissing him for the camera is as repulsive as her crusty wet eyes and hairy mole. Sorry, not sorry. I'll be completely immature when it comes to snarking on neglectful, lazy, manipulative child exploiters.

We might not see his face anymore (thankfully) but we certainly don't need to hear about every detail of his behaviour and how it inconveniences her. Repeatedly he cries because she ignores his attempts to communicate, in favor of watching her laptop and putting in earphones and leaving the room.

Can you believe this is someone obsessed with babies who paid to solo parent?! The beaming smiles when she talks about mum friends and other people's younger babies, but never her own child, are disturbing. She bought friends and an income stream and ignores the child that got her there.
 
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Is anyone else really shocked that as a person who is supposedly informed about attachment styles that she uses the cry it out sleep training method?
This is really sad. The NHS don't recommend letting your baby cry for more than 10 minutes max and for most people that feels like a LONG time. I'd expect her to know that as a foster carer. There are so many other more gentle ways of sleep training that don't involve CIO.
 
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Is anyone else really shocked that as a person who is supposedly informed about attachment styles that she uses the cry it out sleep training method?
Sorry am I reading correctly that she let a 4 month old cry it out for 45 minutes? She claims that was only the first night but even half that time is long to me. Knowing that Oryn has had issues with poor weight gain I don't think any amount of cio is appropriate personally.

To be fair to her though - and I rarely give her credit for anything - she has been fairly transparent about finances on her stories this morning. Her parents ‘helped’ her onto the property ladder by buying her flat outright and she paid them back 1/3 of the cost in monthly instalments, finishing before Oryn was born. CBA to do the maths but it would be maybe £100k over 5+ years… I have a feeling there’s other details she’s missing out but she has never clarified that before and she even used the word privilege (?! Hi Bryony).
I'm still sceptical that she's paid them back 1/3 of the cost. Even if she was bought the flat at 18 that's 8 years to pay off circa £100k? If I'm calculating right that's about £1k a month she would have been paying, as a single person with other bills and only a small business as income. I guess it's not totally out of the realms of possibility when Precious Stars was doing well but we know the reusable menstrual product market has been oversaturated for a few years now. Imo she's not being totally honest and is just trying to make herself seem relatable.
 
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This is really sad. The NHS don't recommend letting your baby cry for more than 10 minutes max and for most people that feels like a LONG time. I'd expect her to know that as a foster carer. There are so many other more gentle ways of sleep training that don't involve CIO.
From what I’ve read the NHS don’t recommend CIO at all, and the places that do provide info about it online recommend 10 mins max.

The reason they don’t cry much after the first night isn’t because they’ve learnt to self soothe. They’ve given up as they learnt that no one was coming to help them 🙁. It proves now that all the stuff she said about attachment and trauma focused parenting was just info she was regurgitating, not things she actually understands, believes in and uses.
 
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From what I’ve read the NHS don’t recommend CIO at all, and the places that do provide info about it online recommend 10 mins max.
Oh absolutely, sorry I just meant they don't recommend letting your baby cry for that long as a general thing.

CIO always seems so cruel.
 
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Sorry am I reading correctly that she let a 4 month old cry it out for 45 minutes? She claims that was only the first night but even half that time is long to me. Knowing that Oryn has had issues with poor weight gain I don't think any amount of cio is appropriate personally.


I'm still sceptical that she's paid them back 1/3 of the cost. Even if she was bought the flat at 18 that's 8 years to pay off circa £100k? If I'm calculating right that's about £1k a month she would have been paying, as a single person with other bills and only a small business as income. I guess it's not totally out of the realms of possibility when Precious Stars was doing well but we know the reusable menstrual product market has been oversaturated for a few years now. Imo she's not being totally honest and is just trying to make herself seem relatable.
To be fair I remember her doing a monthly budget video not long after she moved into her flat, and she listed her “mortgage” as £1000 - I remember wondering how on earth she qualified for that amount at the time, but this makes more sense.
 
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I swear she has said a lot of times that she 'owns her own home' like no you don't, you live in your parents second property and pay them some of the money towards it.
 
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So she was playing at being an adult with a mortgage. Sounds just like something she'd do.
 
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Embarrassing to be talking online about your 'mortgage' when you've never even had to have a single meeting with a solicitor or a bank to get approved for one - what she had is a standing order of money each month going to her parents.
 
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I’m admittedly a gate keeper because as a lesbian it boils my piss when asexuality is equated to other marginalised sexual identities at the best of times - but in particular when it’s by Bryony who says herself she is a straight woman.

It’s telling that the asexual political agenda points she’s reposting on her story today don’t express any real world issues or consequences that asexual people face… because not fancying people isn’t a socially or legally penalised identity 😅.

She has mentioned before that she attends ‘queer family’ groups. Being a single virgin doesn’t make you ‘queer’ Bryony. Im not out here facing daily harassment just for some ugly straight girl to weasel her way into my community.
 
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She has mentioned before that she attends ‘queer family’ groups. Being a single virgin doesn’t make you ‘queer’ Bryony. Im not out here facing daily harassment just for some ugly straight girl to weasel her way into my community.
This! She needs to feel special in some way. She wants to be vulnerable, to get attention and have an excuse to have another community to join and feel part of something. Gross that people in those groups look up to her as an example.
 
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I’d wonder how does she not reread the things she’s typed out and think it sounds so awful to post that publicly but it’s just always got to be all about her so she just doesn’t give a crap does she 🫠

The second my son was born all my needs didn’t matter anymore, always him first. If she knew that she would be so selfish / would suffer on little sleep it doesn’t sound like she was really ready to have a baby or child. How many times was he ignored in the early months when hungry or sad just because she needed more sleep or to do something she wanted.

Maybe it’s a good thing he goes to nursery to gets a proper meal and some attention.
 
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Bryony seems to love YouTube shorts now she’s figured out how quickly and easily she can make complaining about her child into content.
It’s a nice dress but god forbid she forget that she’s the mum of a toddler now!
 
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Bryony seems to love YouTube shorts now she’s figured out how quickly and easily she can make complaining about her child into content.
It’s a nice dress but god forbid she forget that she’s the mum of a toddler now!
Her toddler posts make me so uncomfortable. He’s barely 1 yet all she had done is make negative comments about “toddlers” when he’s still a baby. 1 to 2 years is one of my favourite ages, they’re still so cute and it’s so fun to see their personalities come out, they start to be able to communicate with you and have clear interests/preferences, there’s a lot more activities to do together, the list goes on. But all she has done is complain about him and essentially say she’s shocked she still likes him now he’s not a baby. It’s only going to get worse as he gets older.
 
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Going by her latest IG post her followers are just as privileged as she is. Figures.
 
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"i wanna show people who dont have finical support from family getting on the property ladder just how much support some people get" WTF???? snobby arrogant cow!! and then going "you're not doing worse!! just starting down much lower on the ladder". Don't even want to watch the rest of it. PLUS she doesn't even specialise in buying houses/have a career in properties etc , why is she even giving advice? F OFF!!! Ur a mid twenties women with no life experience and never had a proper job. This has really rubbed me the wrong way 😡
 
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Yeah I didn't get it either, like 'look here's a series of people saying how much money their parents could afford to give them' like as if people who can't afford to buy a property right now aren't already aware that some people get help or inheritances? Everyone already knows this, it just comes across as rubbing it in people's faces, justifying that what she did is normal
 
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