Becky reminds me of my mother-in-law. We lived with her for 4 years and she did so much in her garden I couldn’t believe it...got rid of a double swing and replaced it with a sofa set, went through several dining and bistro sets, a new shed/summer house in a new location, built a car port and pergola, added a shed for gardening tools that wouldn’t fit in the summer house, new paved path, levelled the lawn and new turf plus new pots and plants every spring and summer. She used ‘contractors’ (her favourite word) for all of the landscaping at great expense. Some of it looks nice enough but she was never fully satisfied...still isn’t.
Becky is at least insightful enough to admit she’s impatient and needs a project. If she was a neighbour I’d be a bit like ‘Meh. Whatever makes you happy, Karen’ (sorry nice tattle Karen’s!). What I will never understand though, is splashing this all on Instagram. It’s absolutely guaranteed to attract questions and criticism which she doesn’t cope well with. My mother-in-law doesn’t either. If my husband ever commented on whether her decisions were logical or encouraged her not to rush she didn’t like it.The behaviour has a function for her; patching over bigger problems which she doesn’t want to deal with, it’s not rational so she got defensive. If Becky knows on some level that her behaviour is a bit odd why keep up the account?!
One of the worst things about the Internet is that it’s so easy to find a group of people who will validate you and you can ‘cancel‘ anyone who doesn’t. Becky is basically in an echo chamber of appreciation that normalises and praises her behaviour and probably drowns out the opinion of her own family. Very sad.
I often see people say that it’s so obvious she’s not happy and I agree, deep down she’s not. But I think she feeeels happy by doing all this stuff. looks a lot happier than I do a lot of the time
Don’t know why I’m spending my time ranting about it. Guess I got triggeredI’m enjoying an echo chamber of my own
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