We watch the videos from 6,7 years ago till today....and at the end of the day it really reinforces the fact that Val didn't do her job as a mother of an autistic child , a nurse who is suppose to help others of this autism expert she claims to be sitting on some board back in the day.
I have access to the same information, outreaches, government aids and programs etc...pretty much just like Val. ( she probably had more because of being a single parent ) yet we all see Jessica's decline over the years...and hear from Val herself how independent Jessica use to be with taking the bus alone, staying home alone while Val worked, showering herself etc....which in all honesty I don't believe.
I do however believe Jessica did do better while in school with professionals all day...but the problem lies in the fact that Val.NEVER continued the things Jessica learned when she came home.....There was no crossover, no consistency , no Val working WITH the teachers.
Where I live we parents get together and work with our teachers, instructors, therapist ABA, etc... Often...sometimes once a month. Together we communicate our child's strengths,weaknesses and goals we are working on BOTH at home and school.... Like hand washing, clearing your dishes after eating, saying please and thank you, sharing taking turns, etc... That's the home side...then the teachers communicate what they are working on in addition to what's going on at home...like standing in line waiting your turn or being patient, putting their lunch time things away back in the bag after lunch, etc...
We share this info because we want our child to be successful and learn these things...there's no point in learning to wash hands at home then be told you don't need to at school.
CONSISTANCY is the only way. It's work, it's tiring , frustrating but so worth it down the road.
My daughter can pump soap on her hands and wash her hands properly.....the only reason Jessica can't is because Val never bothered to be consistent and teach her. It's really that simple.
Looking at Vals kitchens...whether it 6 years ago or yesterday again....zero consistency . Everything's cluttered, nothing is in the same place, Jessica is constantly handed a different utensil or wooden spoon or spatula to stir.... Sometimes it's in the drawer, or the dishwasher or just magically appears.
Jessica should always have access to the same spot using the set of cooking utensils ( like the ones she received a couple weeks ago) she needs consistency ....routine.
She stands there confused not sure where to get her spoon... Because it could be in the drawer, dishwasher, sink, on the counter...
Autistic people are teachable ...especially Jessica who is extremely verbal and mobile and definitely has ideas and opinions with no problem telling them to others.
But with Val removing all her programs, teachers, professionals and isolating Jessica with zero rules, zero consistency , no REAL goals ....pretending Jessica will move out is cruel. Val has no intention of helping Jessica be successful and really independent....she can't even wash or dry her own hands at36. Which is incredibly sad....especially if Val Santiago believe Jessica is toilet trained ..how does she wash her hands AFTER using the toilet??? She clearly doesn't ...but then again you can see Jessica obsessing adult diapers. Because if she was using the bathroom on her own 8 times a day every day clearly she would of learned a long time ago how to soap her hands wash and DRY them!!
Val has her money maker right where she needs her..fully dependant on her.while Val plays the martyr and plays the tireless victim.
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Amy over on Facebook, brings up all the great autism services, outreach programs, various therapies etc... In the area that are available for families with autism.
The reason why Val isn't involved with any of these professionals or programs is the simple fact Jessica's primary diagnosis is not autism.
When a parent wants to enrol their autistic child into any of these programs they have to provide updated doctors information which outlines the illness of the child .
There are qualifications that must be met to ensure each child is placed in the best program to help them.
Jessica's autism diagnosis is decades old, it's outdated. Val refuses to get an updated assessment of Jessica especially after a teacher who specializes in autism suggested to Val that Jessica showed many signs of schizophrenia. (Val pulled Jessica from that school)
If Jessica was re-evaluated she would not qualify for some of these programs and if schizophrenia was found She would be required to be properly treated and medicated to qualify.
It's a catch 22 for Val....and she knows it.
Another qualification for many adult programs is toileting. Jessica wouldn't qualify because she's in adult diapers ...and the insurance for a program to have to pay in order to touch /handle a bio-hazardous situation is astronomical not to mention it requires a certain criteria be met by staff in order to accommodate changing an adult diaper.
Jessica isn't wearing a catheter, she's mobile , she is perfectly capable of going to the bathroom ...Val hasn't worked on this area properly and again if Jessica went to a program with professionals they would absolutely hold Val responsible for Jessicas short commings. She may even be reported to APS...by professionals .
Val keeps Jessica hidden at home with only friend ( Marlow) and family so Val can call the shots, and no one is seeing how unfit of a mother she is, how neglectful ....how abusive.
We see you Val.
girl. She is built like a man. He probably swings both ways just like she does and he seems like a wimpy guy. She definitely wears the pants in that marriage.
