You summed it up perfectly there. I don't argue with her that breastfeeding should not be sexualised of course it shouldn't but she seems very contradictory on what she posts, probably as it's all for the dollar and she has not much else going on at the moment.Who is it that Ashley is arguing with that mothers aren’t seen as being sexual beings? She does live in 2021 not 1870 right?
I honestly don’t know what type of company Ashley keeps or why she allows the very small amount (in relative terms) of trolling private messages or the daily mail message board to believe that she needs to be on this one women crusade to shatter patriarchy by taking pictures of herself in underwear.
It’s not revolutionary or earth shattering that mums do ‘look’ sexy. It’s been 30 years since pregnant Demi Moore posed naked on the VF cover. The vast majority of the celebrities that I think of as ‘sexy’ are mums. It hasn’t seemed to hinder many celebrities as being seen as sexy after children. JLo is a mother of twins and in her fifties and yet was offered the starring role of a female stripper in Hustlers. All bar one of the Kardashians are mums and two of them have (allegedly) become billionaires after becoming a mums so it hasn’t dampened their careers. Most of the successful female rap stars are mothers too. There’s rap songs by male artists saying how sexy it is to date a mother as they are strong minded, independent and take no bullshit. My Instagram feed is awash with yummy mummies all still seemingly attractive / showing their sexiness like they did prior to having children.
Ashley’s definition of what it means to be sexy is very limited to appearance - advising her followers to buy underwear, spend a lot of time putting on make up (as she was so happy to do so today), spend money on a totally pointless sex toy that won’t give you sexual pleasure nor do anything to improve your pelvic floor as any physiotherapist would testify. And then pose on a bed (Blurgh!) wearing cheap underwired (Blurgh!) black and red underwear (double Blurgh!) made by the seedy Ann Summers just does not sit with my definition of sexy. It’s so dated and reminiscent of 90s page 3 glamour models. Yeah Ann Summers has a female chief exec but a company for female sexual freedom, empowerment and expression it ain’t!
The only person who seems to have a problem with associating sexiness with motherhood is Ashley herself otherwise she would not have this fixation to ‘prove’ how sexy she is on social media. It screams insecurity problems and really is something I hope she is having intensive therapy sessions to help with.
Moving on from this point - but in similar vein to why the heck do you do this to - Posing in underwear that you have said makes you sexy with her breast dangling out in full display bar the nipple with your son sucking on your breast is very well... concerning for the welfare of your son frankly. It’s actually a pervert with a mummy fetish’ wet dream and the constant images and videos that you show using your son as a prop to titillate your audience to validate your need to be seen as sexy is so worrying. There are men, woman and transsexuals who dress up in nappies, create role play that mummy is feeding them, write fan fiction, act it out and make porn videos around this. Ashley is actually creating content for these people to masturbate to whilst she breastfeeds her son.
Yes I agree with you Ashley, you should be free to breastfeed without being sexualised but unfortunately many people do sexualise this- particularly if your are creating content that showcases how ‘sexy’ you are.
But I couldn’t bare the thought of my child being used as material in some sick perverted weirdo fantasies and as such I wouldn’t put out that type of content on social media. I feel sorry for your son that you feel the need to do so and are happy to exploit him for profit (to pay for your fancy new house in Essex...).
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You summed it up perfectly there. I don't argue with her that breastfeeding should not be sexualised of course it shouldn't but she seems very contradictory on what she posts, probably as it's all for the dollar and she has not much else going on at the moment.
I don't think she gets that regardless of what people should or shouldn't do or think dressing up, feeding your son and posting it on the Internet will attract creeps and no amount of saying that's their problem is going to stop the weirdos banging one out over a photo of you and your son. Why give them the opportunity?
Totally agree. Breastfeeding pics are one thing but when it’s practically a glamour shot it’s wrong on so many levels. That poor baby. All that crap she posted about internet safety when he was born! I think it should be taken down for his sake but imagine telling her that...
That video of Tommy getting the baby to stand up in the park... he’s way too young to be doing that! I hope they don’t do him any damage by pushing him to stand/support himself before he is ready.
I’m surprised she didn’t go to a cafe/pub first thing in the morning and whacked her boob out to feed in public because SHES A BREASTFEEDING MOTHER!!!! 
And I’m glad she’s having a reality check regarding not having any ‘mum friends’. It’s extremely important to have friends who are going through the same stage in life. Before we moved to where I live now, I had no friends for my sons first 8 months of his life and I have never felt more alone. So when we moved, we went to every single baby group available and I have made some of my best friends for life through the groups, as has my son. I do realise during lockdown none of that is possible, but by the way she was explaining it all, just seems like she thinks she’s better than a baby group (because she’s a z list celebrity).
And Tommy holding up that poor baby to stand - nothing really surprises me anymore. Thats two parents for you who thought that putting a 3 month old in a jumperoo is a good idea.
And I’m glad she’s having a reality check regarding not having any ‘mum friends’. It’s extremely important to have friends who are going through the same stage in life. Before we moved to where I live now, I had no friends for my sons first 8 months of his life and I have never felt more alone. So when we moved, we went to every single baby group available and I have made some of my best friends for life through the groups, as has my son. I do realise during lockdown none of that is possible, but by the way she was explaining it all, just seems like she thinks she’s better than a baby group (because she’s a z list celebrity).
And Tommy holding up that poor baby to stand - nothing really surprises me anymore. Thats two parents for you who thought that putting a 3 month old in a jumperoo is a good idea.
Had to get in that ‘they were breastfeeding and I had to breastfeed’ YAWN. But anyway 3 of them were breastfeeding and no one sexualised them? Yes because in the real world ie off of Instagram people aren’t offended/don’t care about breastfeeding. I don’t agree with the male dad thing either. There are definitely different types of dads which men can acknowledge. She really likes men bashing
Yes exactly, my other half is A stay at home Dad, with no boobs shock horror!
I worry for the children of these self absorbed influencers. "I didn't want to really be a mum".... How's that going to impact on your sons mental health when they find out. Stop posting all about you and take 5 to think of your child reading this back in years to come and they may not be feeling their best the day they read it.
The constant breastfeeding chat is bizarre, she's not normalising it, she's trying to parade it like a badge of honour. (yes, it's tough and intense at the start and many people give up) The rest of us just feed our babies, and don't post about it to the Internet because it is normal, in much the way using the bathroom is and nobody posts that online
The constant breastfeeding chat is bizarre, she's not normalising it, she's trying to parade it like a badge of honour. (yes, it's tough and intense at the start and many people give up) The rest of us just feed our babies, and don't post about it to the Internet because it is normal, in much the way using the bathroom is and nobody posts that online
Good Lord, next you’ll be telling us he gets dressed everyday! Whatever next
I find it so bizarre the way she goes on and on about never wanting to be a mother and how she looked down on mothers before she was one and acts like this is a normal thing. It's not really. I don't feel like a lot of people reading her stories yesterday would find them relatable in any way. I mean looking down on mothers and motherhood by the way, not wanting to be a mother is definitely normal!
I don’t want to be a mother, but I bloody applaud anyone who chooses or becomes to be one. I’ve never looked down on someone for wanting that, nor will I.
Also, if she didn’t want to be a mother so badly I’m sure there are many ways to prevent it. Imagine her son seeing her say that out of context!
I had my first at 22, not planned that early but hey it happened and if I was compared next to her, people would judge me harder just for being younger and think I’m not ready hasn’t lived etc. I don’t know how old she is I will guess mid 30s but she is sooooo immature and just cuz she’s older and may have a high paid job it doesn’t mean tit. Again tonight going on about her boobs again! She is so obsessed with them it’s actually weird I think she’s the creep
I had my first at 22 (not planned l o l) as well and I can't believe how she goes on about motherhood. She's so childish and it definitely is not this deep like put your tits out or keep them hidden, very few people are as bother d as you think they are. There will always be trolls on social media unfortunately
I unfollowed her as i was just tired of her BS. She knows what she's doing however much she claims otherwise.
Your username is very appropriate
At the end of the day she’s so bland that she HAS to keep on with the same old debate she’s been doing consistently (men are trash, don’t look at my boobs etc) and keep on whacking out her boobs at every opportunity because all those pervs are the ones who to keep her engagement going and keep her in the Instagram algorithm
I’m pretty sure she’s aware of this. The picture she posted recently of herself stark naked got the most picture likes she’s ever had in a while
Its SO pathetic when you realise the levels these people will go to - especially when it means using your own baby as an added accessory for engagement!
I’m pretty sure she’s aware of this. The picture she posted recently of herself stark naked got the most picture likes she’s ever had in a while Its SO pathetic when you realise the levels these people will go to - especially when it means using your own baby as an added accessory for engagement!The doula cut his nails and bought her water?! Could her partner not help her with these things?
Tommy gets Alf up to bath him so that Ashley has a shower and gets ready etc every morning before he goes to work, also his parents come around most weeks so that she can get some work done...I’m surprised she needs a doula too, it’s not like she has a consuming job
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