It’s the way she says, ‘we’re getting a babysitter so we can ACTUALLY ENJOY [insert name of activity here].’ As if nothing involving their son is remotely enjoyable and he is ruining her holiday. Why is she continually posting stuff like this every single day? Does she genuinely not realise how she is coming across to her followers? I don’t get it. If you really did resent your child that much, surely you wouldn’t share it on social media?
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I don't think she's a bad parent for using a kids club for a couple of hours personally. They can be great for kids on holiday for socialising and making pals, but he is maybe still a bit young.
However she is a bad parent for claiming she wants to shut him in there and resenting him for not wanting to go, if you wanted to tan and play uno on holiday why did you have a baby? She's perpetually shocked at the role of a parent.
However she is a bad parent for claiming she wants to shut him in there and resenting him for not wanting to go, if you wanted to tan and play uno on holiday why did you have a baby? She's perpetually shocked at the role of a parent.
I’ve practiced attachment parenting with both my children, almost 10 years of parenting. I’m no expert and would never claim to be, but Ashley is not a gentle, responsive parent. She just wants to be (for the gram, it goes with being a lefty patriarchy fighting feminist doesn’t it?) but you can see she finds it so difficult. I have never seen anyone be so awkward and unnatural with their own child. She is not the person she wants us to believe she is.
My little one was 2.5 when we were on holiday this year. He wanted to go into the kids club as it was next to the park and he saw other kids in there. The age for ut was 4 but they said he could go anyway so we took him to do the activities but stayed with him while he was there as he was ONLY 2 and a half
It makes me laugh that she assumes he will one day beg to go to kids club all day. I went to a kids club for a couple of hours on one holiday as a child when I was about 6 and I hated every second of it and never ever went again. Holidays were spent with family and our family friends, we loved it and have so many happy memories. I would have hated being shoved in a kids club when there’s pool fun to be had with family and friends.
I’m a couple of hours late here and I have seen similar comments from others on this - the general feeling here is of complete shock and disgust at what she has written today about Alf.
I have never seen anyone speak about their child the way Ashley does, and as someone else has said if this is what she can write to a few hundred thousand people on Instagram then what is she saying/thinking behind the scenes? She is a vile, self centred and ignorant individual. So many women would give anything, ANYTHING to be a mother and yet all she wants to do to her poor, gorgeous little boy is shove him away and shut the door on him?! Just when I think she can’t sink any lower she does. She knows nothing about attachment and responsive parenting.
At this point I think she might have some significant mental health problem to feel the way she does about her own child.
I have never seen anyone speak about their child the way Ashley does, and as someone else has said if this is what she can write to a few hundred thousand people on Instagram then what is she saying/thinking behind the scenes? She is a vile, self centred and ignorant individual. So many women would give anything, ANYTHING to be a mother and yet all she wants to do to her poor, gorgeous little boy is shove him away and shut the door on him?! Just when I think she can’t sink any lower she does. She knows nothing about attachment and responsive parenting.
At this point I think she might have some significant mental health problem to feel the way she does about her own child.
But he’s napping?!! Surely they can just nap / tan / play uno whilst he naps?
I really think she must be doing tit for attention now, either cos she’s reading here or she’s learned the tactics off GBeebies.
Is it the fact that the staff are wearing masks that’s upset him Ash? Or the fact that you’re dumping him with STRANGERS in an unfamiliar place. Kid doesn’t care if it’s an air conditioned room.
Don't even get me started on “I wish I could just shove him in and shut the door”. I thought I couldn’t be shocked by her any more but she’s utterly vile and disgusting and doesn’t deserve that child
Is it the fact that the staff are wearing masks that’s upset him Ash? Or the fact that you’re dumping him with STRANGERS in an unfamiliar place. Kid doesn’t care if it’s an air conditioned room.
Don't even get me started on “I wish I could just shove him in and shut the door”. I thought I couldn’t be shocked by her any more but she’s utterly vile and disgusting and doesn’t deserve that child
actually can't believe what she said on stories today - I have no words. you wish you could *shove* your child in kids club and shut the door on him ?!?!?! newsflash Ashley if you WANT to do that then you're not a responsive parent even if you don't do that. it's your intention towards your child that matters. also note the use of quite violent language...she's telling on herself ... this is not the language of love it is the language of emotional abuse and neglect I am crying for this poor poor boy.
as someone who was also raised by an abusive narcissist it's like watching the trauma happen in real time.
as someone who was also raised by an abusive narcissist it's like watching the trauma happen in real time.
duck off is she a responsive parent 
1+1= 3 for Ashley.
responsive parenting/attachment parenting are not the same thing as attachment theory.
She’s also got some nerve talking about keeping him safe after posting a story of him naked for the world to see. But she’s “fOLLoWInG HEr INSTiNcTS”
whilst neglecting her toddler.
1+1= 3 for Ashley.
responsive parenting/attachment parenting are not the same thing as attachment theory.
She’s also got some nerve talking about keeping him safe after posting a story of him naked for the world to see. But she’s “fOLLoWInG HEr INSTiNcTS”
whilst neglecting her toddler.Yeah but let’s face it, there will be no fun to be had on any of their family holidays! It will be as this thread title suggests be ‘all about Ashley’!
and judging by her constant rants about wanting to play uno, I reckon that’s about as fun as Ashley gets! Don’t get me wrong I like a game here or 2 but is that all she does?! duck me….She’s dull!
Do we think uno is actually a code name for sex? Because otherwise why can’t they play while he naps?!
Did anyone else feel uncomfortable watching her story with the pram in the background? When she’s not storying and able to see him in the background, someone could just come along push the pram away? With Alf being asleep he wouldn’t make a sound. Although if he’s fine with strangers he wouldn’t anyway.
I’d have to be facing the pram? Maybe it’s just me!
I genuinely feel like some authority needs to step in. I’m hoping out of all those followers someone in child protection or health visiting would be able to track her down and have a word or Atleast monitor things because the public neglect is just getting too much and I genuinely think he needs safeguarding.
I’d have to be facing the pram? Maybe it’s just me!
I genuinely feel like some authority needs to step in. I’m hoping out of all those followers someone in child protection or health visiting would be able to track her down and have a word or Atleast monitor things because the public neglect is just getting too much and I genuinely think he needs safeguarding.
Early thread suggestion! Not sure how long these are allowed to be though!
‘Ashley James - no clothes for Alf as he dares to grow, shove him in a room so I can play uno’
‘Ashley James - no clothes for Alf as he dares to grow, shove him in a room so I can play uno’
100% why wouldn’t you face your sunlounger towards him? He seemed so far away from her too so you wouldn’t even hear the pram being wheeled alway… knowing little miss me me me she probably shoves headphones in too! But she’s securely attached to her child because herDid anyone else feel uncomfortable watching her story with the pram in the background? When she’s not storying and able to see him in the background, someone could just come along push the pram away? With Alf being asleep he wouldn’t make a sound. Although if he’s fine with strangers he wouldn’t anyway.
I’d have to be facing the pram? Maybe it’s just me!
I genuinely feel like some authority needs to step in. I’m hoping out of all those followers someone in child protection or health visiting would be able to track her down and have a word or Atleast monitor things because the public neglect is just getting too much and I genuinely think he needs safeguarding.
It spoke volumes, I thought. There is no way I would leave my baby out of my sight in a public place like that. I would have shaded his pram with a parasol or something next to my sunbed. Her cavalier attitude towards his safety is scary.
I think it depends on the personality of the child. I LOVED kids club. I was an extroverted child and my sister was 5 years younger than me, so although we had plenty of family time on holiday too, I really enjoyed the kids club and then after playing with the friends I made. This is probably age 5 onwards though.
She has basically spent this entire holiday waiting for Alf to be away from them or asleep. That's sad. They also don't seem to have done anything with him other then try entertain him whilst they sunbathe.
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