Ashley James #45 The Science of Parenting - won’t sleep? Won’t eat? Prolapse? Soft play!

[here4thenose4321]

I see a balance bike in the garden… incoming- “Guys, I’ve had so many DM’s about Alf’s balance bike! Here’s the Aff link for you.”
Or #Ad #Gifted

Actually, a Montessori setting may be the best thing for Alf. He’ll see all the other children modelling what to do and he will actually want to do it himself. The kids will all be praised for doing things themselves, as opposed to baby girl Ad getting all the attention at home for being a baby and needing Mummy so much. So Alf thinking he needs to be a baby so Mummy will pay him attention too.

 

[willowtree2]

Ashley James. In her bio: Voice for Women.

You can also look like me if you buy the stuff I’m promoting. ( not for the male gaze,obvs )Over £400 for a hair dryer-no problem. I’ve had ‘tweakments’- aka Botox but that doesn’t suit her ‘aging naturally ‘ narrative . Goes on about the 1950s housewife when she has an equivalent in TNB.

How she can claim she’s a ‘working’ mum after those stories is beyond me. This week she’s chatted shit for 15 minutes. Gone shopping for a bra, got a spray tan and forgot to film a get ready with me. Oh and she’s dug out her old hairdryer instead of Michael cos of the cost of living crisis she keeps banging on about like she’s suffering.
It’s so fucking INSULTING to actual working mums

 

[JarvisCockerSpaniel]

Im guessing ‘London mum life’ is going to be her next plan for content since the baby content has been exhausted. Good job it isn’t such a saturated market and she loves doing a variety of activities with her children.

Oh wait.

 

[sasbeep]

Shows her priorities though doesn’t it, happy to pay over 1.5M for a house but not 2k a month for someone to care for her child.

Childcare costs are an issue, but they aren’t for Ashley so I wish she would stop bleeting on about it. Costs are going to be higher in a HCOL area, shocking. How does she think those workers are supposed to afford to live within a reasonable commute to Battersea if she doesn’t want to pay them?

 

[willowtree2]

how carrying a baby means that some of their DNA gets implanted in you, so you will never be the same again & always carry them with you.

Only applies to babies though. When they hit 1 they leave ‘home’ and the DNA gets sold on ReLiked

 

[BusyDoinNuffin]

I’m gobsmacked. But not surprised. She’s derranged. How will those children ever know a normal loving family set up if Alf belongs to his father and Ada belongs to her mother

They won’t. I’ve seen first hand the trauma and devastating impact favouritism of children at the hands of a narcissistic mother has had. One of the children, the one who was brushed aside from as long as they could remember turned to addiction and unhealthy relationships, eventually deciding the pain was too much and they ended their life. The favourite child, utterly stifled and resentful of their mother barely has a relationship with them. The other example I have seen hasn’t ended so tragically but both children have a difficult relationship with their mother. Narcissistic mothers cause all sorts of harm and are typically tolerated by adult children later in life at best. Throw in the documenting of it all on social media and I think Ash will end up very very lonely when her children are grown. She also clearly couldn’t be bothered with dealing with Alf, still not properly potty trained, for her various photoshoots around London.

 

[willowtree2]

‘He likes weeing and pooing outside’

Is she planning rehoming him too like Snoop or???
What about when it rains? What does Lovely day do? Let him piss up the grave stones in the church yard? None of this is normal!

 

[Kooki]

You don't always enjoy things being a parent. Did I enjoy sleeping in my oldest child's bed because she was having bad dreams and needed me? No it's cramped and she's like an octopus. Did my husband enjoy spending all evening building her a trampoline in the garden so she can wake up to it? No he would probably have preferred TV and relaxing. But you do it because of the love you have for your kids.

The sheer level of entitlement and negativity she has doesn't make her as relatable as she thinks. It makes her a look like a selfish twat. It's not all about you once you're a parent! And if you didn't like it the first time, don't have a second one!

 

[JarvisCockerSpaniel]

A 14 month old picking something up that’s brightly coloured out of a drawer that’s usually shut isn’t ‘choosing her outfit’ Ash

 

[littlepup]

When you’re selling ice cream from Alf’s Smoby house at 9 but have This Morning at 10.

Misinterpreting and quoting incorrect stats again. Why do they allow her to do this!?

 

[willowtree2]

Yeah. Dickhead.

 

[SeptemberCatLady]

Tommy’s like a little house elf

someone for the love of god throw him a sock.

 

[littlepup]

How is she not signposting help and still banging this 'it gets better' drum. IN HER EXPERIENCE!
Someone is the comments is saying they googled 'Why do I hate my baby' and was hoping for SIDS. She opens this can of worms so she can post sad, crying faces and pictures of her 'achievements' and gives nothing to help but, 'Don't worry, you'll be ok'.
Fucking irresponsible, narcissistic imbecile!

 

[InTheDollsHouse]

Wanting sleep and independence is not the same thing as mental illness.

 

[Fuzzyslippers22]

But literally yesterday you sounded like you couldn’t bear Ada seeking comfort from you?!

Exactly! Now she's saying Ada just wanted comfort... but YOU (Ashley) said it was torture. How can you now spin it that it was just comfort and people shouldn't have said anything? YOU called it torture, my god, this woman

 

[Rocky Rosd]

I’m glad the clumpy kickers have come off but maybe Ada would walk better if she didn’t trip over the too long flares. Just a suggestion Ash.
I’m too fuming to mention the torture of having your child breastfeed in the night.
It’s Ada rather than Alf that is going to suffer most from having a mother like Ash. The pressure to be a strong independent woman, a high achiever who simultaneously mustn’t care what she looks like but has a mother who is obsessed with what she looks like. So many mixed messages.

 

[Jjsb]

They have a 5 bedroomed house yet TNB still has to sleep in the office on a sofa bed?? Who is up at the crack of dawn so Princess Ashley doesn't need to get up with the kids, who then goes and does a full day of work, then has to come home and then get the kids to bed and if lucky gets time off for good behaviour, but yet she is lying in a lovely king-size bed!!! TNB you absolute fool!

 

[willowtree2]

Why can’t mothers also wear the black underwear? Isn’t that all part of her narrative that motherhood shouldn’t define you and everyone should do what they feel best in? Or is she believing stereotypes about becoming a mum means becoming frumpy and no longer a sexual person?

She describes mums as frumpy. Misogyny at its best

 

[frogg]

Even if she felt that way, why she thought to record and upload it is baffling. I am actually stunned at just how much she posts, nothing is off limits and it’s probably why so many of her posts seem contradictory because she is uploading every single thought and feeling. Her experience with motherhood is like one long black mirror episode. It’s so bizarre.

 

[sasbeep]

“I would rather pay A BIT more tax and have free childcare”. I mean wouldn’t most Ashley? But your childcare costs aren’t going to be fixed under labour as they aren’t going to extend free hours past the 100k threshold. Ashley isn’t struggling and it’s patronising for her to suggest she feels it when she is choosing to pay for a more expensive house and more expensive childcare in London vs what she currently has access too. There is simply no need for her to be in London, she lives on the high speed line. She doesn’t socialise in London because she has no friends, it’s nothing to do with Essex. Funnily enough any time she goes into London in recent weeks she doesn’t meet any friends, it’s only ever Jas who was also dragged in. I can’t believe she still thinks London is going to be some sort of magic answer to her misery