So its you doing all the running then?.If he was that bothered about seeing you, then he would give you money for petrol if that was the issue. It sound like you are making excuses for him. I still think you are wasting your time with him.
My boyfriend does all the travelling to mine so I balance that out in other ways... I swear some people don't know what a healthy relationship is and it makes me sadSo its you doing all the running then?.If he was that bothered about seeing you, then he would give you money for petrol if that was the issue. It sound like you are making excuses for him. I still think you are wasting your time with him.
I think thats fine if it balances out in other ways. Everyones relationship is different however....My boyfriend does all the travelling to mine so I balance that out in other ways... I swear some people don't know what a healthy relationship is and it makes me sad
The OP doesn’t have a healthy relationship. That much is obvious. I think calling it a relationship is a bit of a leap actually- they are casually dating/seeing each other. They aren’t in a fullMy boyfriend does all the travelling to mine so I balance that out in other ways... I swear some people don't know what a healthy relationship is and it makes me sad
You EX sure has an awful lot of influence in your life….!- He’s never been to your home
* this is my decision because it's still jointly owned by my ex
- You always drive 90 minutes to his which based on what you’ve posted seems to be an issue for you because of the price of petrol
* he has offered to give me money towards the cost of this but I refuse to accept it
- He’s never met your children
* he has asked to meet them but I am reluctant to introduce him to them until stuff with my ex (the house) has been sorted - should be in Jan
- you don’t see eachother regularly
* we work around when my ex has the kids
- he would rather sit in and watch cars driving round a track than take you out on the rare occasion he does see you (I notice you didn’t answer the question someone asked regarding if you slept with him that night, the answer to that question would have been very telling)
* no we didn't sleep together that night
- he’s made you feel tit regarding your birthday weekend because he’s thrown back in your face that HE has organised everything etc
* yes agreed
- now he’s trying to wriggle out of said birthday weekend because he’s all of a sudden got a work conference he just had to attend
* he is no longer thinking of going and is happy to still be sticking to our original plans for the weekend
I don't feel there is anything more to discuss until the weekend itself - but thanks for your input
I love youLet’s re-cap
you’ve been “in a relationship” for 2 years but
- He’s never been to your home
- You always drive 90 minutes to his which based on what you’ve posted seems to be an issue for you because of the price of petrol
- He’s never met your children
- you don’t see eachother regularly
- he would rather sit in and watch cars driving round a track than take you out on the rare occasion he does see you (I notice you didn’t answer the question someone asked regarding if you slept with him that night, the answer to that question would have been very telling)
- he’s made you feel tit regarding your birthday weekend because he’s thrown back in your face that HE has organised everything etc
- now he’s trying to wriggle out of said birthday weekend because he’s all of a sudden got a work conference he just had to attend
Honestly this is like talking to a brick wall I fear - anything we say is just going to be met with another round of excuses and chat about the ex….If someone is really properly into you then nothing is too much trouble, they put you first and are attentive and thoughtful. They don't act in a very ignorant way. I'd say he just isn't that into you. I'd have told him to duck off a long time ago.
i'm curious as to why you refuse to accept this? you're taking time out of your day, making the effort to drive to him, can't you split fuel costs? it's equal. you both want to see each other, so why can't he pay sometimes? i don't think there's anything wrong with having money off him for this. it's for his benefit as well if he really wants to see you!! don't let him reap the benefits of not having to move an inch while you're making the long, probably tiring drive- You always drive 90 minutes to his which based on what you’ve posted seems to be an issue for you because of the price of petrol
* he has offered to give me money towards the cost of this but I refuse to accept it
Yes it’ll be like the birthday party thread where they disappeared for ages and we made our own endings to itDon' t piss the OP off too much, or we'll never know how the weekend turned out! But seriously OP, I hope you have a nice weekend.
Probably can’t go on dates or out for dinner yet mate - yknow, because of the EX. Have to wait until January that!Curious, when you do actually go on dates, who pays? Does he at least treat you to dinner or drinks?