Are you able to pay rent on a 4 bed house yourself. In Ireland the rent for that kind of property is about 2k a month.
Do you need such a huge house. You have no mortgage, so nothing is holding you there. Downsize, get a two bedroom place so either one of the kids can stay when they want.
I know you are hurting but I think you need to start thinking practically.
I don't know if the posters case is strong enough to actually have him removed due yo abusive behaviour . I think she needs to make her own plans
Do you need such a huge house. You have no mortgage, so nothing is holding you there. Downsize, get a two bedroom place so either one of the kids can stay when they want.
I know you are hurting but I think you need to start thinking practically.
It's a hard process. My father was physically abusive constantly and was arrested many times but allowed to return to the property as he was a joint owner. My mother had to jump through hoops before she eventually got a barring order. My mother definitely wouldnt have been discussing being his forever friend and going travelling a couple of weeks before he was removed.It’s a court ordered thing - he’s abusive and she can get him removed from the house.
I don't know if the posters case is strong enough to actually have him removed due yo abusive behaviour . I think she needs to make her own plans