I've been following this thread for a few days after stumbling across it recently and I'm kinda glad I did!
I'm pretty sure my mum is an alcoholic and depends on alcohol too much. Every Christmas, birthday or family event in general is always ruined by my mum drinking far too much and getting far too affectionate with my brothers (I have 4... they hate this, as does their wife/partners), she just sits and stares for ages. She becomes passive aggressive and nasty but never actually violent just emotional and attention seeking. She gets to the point where she can't walk too and just laugh it off. I've found that most times we've visited (pre covid) she drinks so much, and I think since lockdown 1.0 had started she's drinking a lot more, (she did joke that her and my step dad had bought half of Tesco's wine aisle), even "enjoying" a gin & tonic around lunch time, her gin measures are double if not triple the amount you should have at any time. She barely eats anything, and I've noticed recently (visiting as we're bubbled, she has found out she potentially has early stage cancer and my step dad is shielding due to a health issue) she has the shakes all the time, and her face swells up a lot. I've also noticed she doesn't drink anything but alcohol or the odd cup of coffee!
I've found out since, from my two oldest brothers, that the past year she has been collapsing a lot and can barely walk now as she faints/loses feeling in her legs. The past few weeks she's been hospitalised due to lack of any good nutrients - from what I assume, and has come home a few times but has barely been able to stomach a slice of apple. She barely eats anything. Her behaviour has changed too, she always seems on edge, and has become quite nasty with two of my sister-in-laws. One had a baby 9 months ago and from what I've been told my mum has blamed her for a lot of things, such as not being able to see her grandchild (when actually it's covid) but she's sent passive aggressive texts and asked not to see her with my brother and baby (bitter much).
I'm looking for some advice, does it sound like she has alcohol damage? Is this the beginning of organ failure? I can't find anything online, but I almost want to prepare myself for the worst because I have a feeling it's coming. As far as I'm aware I've lost my mum, she's not the woman I've known growing up! I'd say she's been depended on alcohol for the last 10 years and she's definitely started drinking a lot more than before!
Sorry if this isn't the right thread, I kind of needed to put this somewhere to take it out of my mind. My husband has been amazing throughout and has put up with a lot. I just need to prepare myself, because I have a toddler and a baby who need my attention and I need to stop having this take up room in my head.. too many years of seeing my mum ruin her life can take its toll on anyone.