witchofwestbyfleet
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A woman I went to school with ended up returning to her husband, who had become violent only a couple of weeks after the wedding, because they'd have had to be married for a year to divorce and in that time he still had control over her as her legal husband. I don't think anything justifies allowing situations like that, ever. "Cooling off" periods for divorce should not be mandatory. They mainly exist for the goal of social manipulation - to please religious and conservative groups, and / or with the idea that "too many" divorces are a moral failing or will cause birth rates to fall disastrously. For this reason, China recently introduced a one month waiting period but had previously done perfectly well without one. Ideas of "but people will just do it impulsively!" are patronising - let adults make decisions for themselves.
I suppose the other main argument is what about children, but then trying to force people to stay together "for the children's sake" rarely works well nor makes the children happier or safer. Also, much of English and Welsh family law is still written with the idea that most marriages are first-time marriages of young couples who will wait till marriage to have kids (even though that's less true today), so this argument is hypocritical. And we've already got systems in place to make sure people are provided for, the UK is not like some other countries where feminists have campaigned to ban instant "triple talaq" divorces because they so often left women destitute
I suppose the other main argument is what about children, but then trying to force people to stay together "for the children's sake" rarely works well nor makes the children happier or safer. Also, much of English and Welsh family law is still written with the idea that most marriages are first-time marriages of young couples who will wait till marriage to have kids (even though that's less true today), so this argument is hypocritical. And we've already got systems in place to make sure people are provided for, the UK is not like some other countries where feminists have campaigned to ban instant "triple talaq" divorces because they so often left women destitute
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did the breakdown mention alternator or the starter motor? could be one of those.
green flag breakdown weren’t much help, just kept saying I must be leaving lights on and it’s draining the battery 
considering I’m in bed by 9 most days it’s highly unlikely
Last time I woke up at this time I was in college (meaning 7 years ago). I hate waking up late/sleeping in. 
mentioned trading in my old car, it wouldn’t start other day and had breakdown people come out (2 hours late) they jump started and says nothing wrong with battery can’t see why it wouldn’t start don’t worry about it should be fine now- I took it for a drive down motorway too, stopped and drove back seemed fine
. I empathise with every word you wrote. Too scared to sleep in case I don't wake up 
. Beyond frustrating
I mean I know I have a washing machine but don’t want to spend everyday of my annual leave doing wash loads 
Do they live with your dad? How are they feeling (mild symptoms hopefully)?