My mum died last month and the weekend after she died my friend asked me if I’d like to go shopping that day to take my mind off things, I said yeah and she just blanked me. I had bigger things going on so I just wrote it off as something weird and forgot about it.
Said friend didn’t bother with me for the next couple of weeks after that until she was off work sick and bored. She repeatedly spammed me with messages and would spam me on another app if I didn’t reply within ten minutes, even when I explained that I didn’t feel like talking due to being upset about my mum. The things she wanted to talk about weren’t important, just silly things that weren’t important to anyone and did not require me to be spammed. It lasted the two days she was off sick stressed me out quite a bit. I went to the supermarket so of course I didn’t reply to her texts, only to be met with ‘Why have you gone to the shop?’ And when i replied saying I needed food, she replied with a bad attitude. Again I just ignored it because she’s always been a very needy friend.
Then she arranges to come to see me on Saturday. I cancelled plans with my sister to see her instead and at 10am that morning she told me she’d be coming to my house at 2pm. Then it was radio silence. I saw that she was elsewhere with another friend of hers instead. But I didn’t say anything as although I was annoyed, I couldn’t be bothered to make a situation out of it.
Until later that night when she asked me to go out with her and this random friend. I said no and she once again kept spamming me trying to get me to go. Calling me a pussy, etc. And so I explained that she was taking the piss a bit when she didn’t even tell me she’d had a change of plans earlier that day. She said it slipped her mind and I didn’t respond as I couldn’t be bothered with all the palava.
Then all night I’m getting spammed with her ‘apologies’ although they really weren’t apologies. Instead she tried to ‘one-up’ my mum’s death by mentioning a situation that wasn’t at all relevant or anywhere near the same. Once again, I asked her to just stop messaging me as I didn’t have the energy to deal with it. But the spamming lasted all night and into the next day. When she sent another message to say how upset she was but there was still no real apology or acknowledgment of her own behaviour. So I snapped, I told her that I didn’t care about her feelings when she was minimising my feelings towards the loss of my mother and acting like I should be getting over things just because she wasn’t upset by my loss. It’s so frustrating as I’m a really low maintenance friend and I really wouldn’t have been bothered in either situation if she’d just text to say she had changed her mind.
I’ve constantly been there for her throughout her ‘problems’ which are never really problems and instead just stupid situations she’s put herself in. She expects your full attention whenever she demands it and is very draining but we do have a lot of good memories together too. Her victim complex is insane.
I’m particularly upset about her trying to one up my mums death. And now she’s gone full on ‘be kind’, constantly posting stories with infographics about checking in on your friends and being being kind to people, as if that isn’t the exact opposite of what she did to me. I know she’ll have twisted the situation to make me look like a bad person with out mutual friends. It’s just really frustrating, especially at a time when I’m grieving.
) and bloody simpering, vacuous Holly Willoughby’s in tonight’s episode. 
