Sorry this is a long rant. Just need to get it out!
My OH. We have a 6 week old baby, I do everything related to baby (bottles, clothes, restocking nappy caddies, ordering things he needs, doctors appointments (we’ve had a few!) & checking medications / ordering more.
I also am usually up with him from 2/3am everyday and he then sleeps on my chest or next to me in bed & if next to me I might doze off every now and then but I can never fully sleep.
Today I could’ve slept until 8.30 to give him 30mins before work (he works from home) to do whatever he needed to, instead he woke me up early to “take him so I can have breakfast”- how does he think I eat when he’s at work? I eat holding him (he has severe reflux) or in the sling!
That pissed me off & then I asked him this morning to make sure the night time bottles were washed & we had some sterilised for the day. It was met with “I need to have breakfast!! I start work soon”
as if it takes 45minutes to shove a slice of toast in?
I am in so much pain with the hormone that fucks with your joints & ligaments which isn’t helping.
What the fuck does he think I do? So I don’t get breakfast & I should be the one doing it all?
I’m at the point now where no amount of talking to him gets it in his head.
I’m going to ask him to start sleeping in the spare room and I’ll do all the night feeds (he does the last late one about midnight then from that point until morning it’s me).
We’re currently living with my parents whilst house searching (let’s all laugh together!) and honestly I wish people behaved like this before and understood the responsibilities of being a parent.
I’ve worked with babies for years and I can never give him tips / reminders that he shouldn’t go 6hours between naps because I’m apparently telling him he’s a bad parent.
I don’t know what else to do.