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I know what you mean. Social media has a lot to answer for.As heartbreaking as it is, I am sick of daily reporting of dying celebs' conditions. I appreciate awareness and support is needed but do we need to be told intimate details of dying celebs' thoughts?! I have just seen a facebook post/article about Johnny Irwin being upset at the thought of his wife remarrying when he has passed. Yes, I'm sure that's heartbreaking, but I worry about the parasocial emotional investment the public get swept up with when a celeb's decline is documented and reported daily. I really feel for the guy but I am uncomfortable how much we are updated already about personal things. Same with Dame Deborah, and other celebs. I felt like awareness got overshadowed by constant updates.
I dunno, it just depresses me seeing daily updates in the news about these things.
Just my thoughts, no hate please
I spoke to our Building Managers (who are fantastic) and they said unfortunately there's nothing I can do. They suggested getting some additional security measures but that's not really going to fix my concerns.
I just returned from looking at a unit in another building which is better than mine. It has no garden - just a balcony - and is four levels up on one level. It has a really nice view of the port (nice when cruise ships come in, and there's always something moving over there), and most of the residents are retirees which appeals. They also have a rule that the owners have to live there - the apartments can't be rented out or leased to anyone. There aren't as many facilities as my current complex but it's newer, and the body corporate fees are lower. I'm going to seriously think about what to do on the weekend, as the agent who sold next door has been very keen to talk.
I've worked with two Brits who've come out here and returned within a short period because they couldn't settle. One lady was so, so lovely ... I urged her to give it time but she was terribly homesick and nothing seemed to go right for her. I'm in one of NZ's smallest cities so I think people who move here will find it a bit stifling, but would probably have a far better experience if they moved to Auckland, Wellington or Christchurch.
As well as all the other stuff I've mentioned, our health system is up the wazoo too ... it just feels like so much is broken that there's no clear path forward.
As heartbreaking as it is, I am sick of daily reporting of dying celebs' conditions. I appreciate awareness and support is needed but do we need to be told intimate details of dying celebs' thoughts?! I have just seen a facebook post/article about Johnny Irwin being upset at the thought of his wife remarrying when he has passed. Yes, I'm sure that's heartbreaking, but I worry about the parasocial emotional investment the public get swept up with when a celeb's decline is documented and reported daily. I really feel for the guy but I am uncomfortable how much we are updated already about personal things. Same with Dame Deborah, and other celebs. I felt like awareness got overshadowed by constant updates.
I dunno, it just depresses me seeing daily updates in the news about these things.
Just my thoughts, no hate please
Best thing I ever did was to stop watching TV (or the radio on) or reading the newspaper. life is much nicer without the media. I'm still informed but only with the important things not overloaded with things that do not matter to me personally. The media is there to depress and scare you.
My own mantra that is IMO 100% true
When you stop watching what they want you to watch, you stop thinking what they want you to think.. Then you see a world that is nothing like they tell you it is.
I have no idea who the man is you are talking about but who could be arsed when dying to give updates all the time? I would be making memories not thinking about things to guilt my partner with in the future when I'm gone.
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Sounds awful do you personally witness all these things or is it that you hear about it on the news? if it's the latter then my previous post would also be my advice ( to take or leave) to you.
I live in a tiny village near a small town and if I happen to catch the local news when in someone's car etc you would think I lived in the Bronx,
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That sounds awful x
I think the world has been fed this narrative that NZ (and to some extent Aus) is some utopian paradise with their saintly prime minister (protectioning the island from covid). The lovely adverts with all the beautiful landscapes and weather.
but watching a couple of those cop programmes on one of the freeview channels paints quite a different picture..both countries have their fair share of criminals, general wronguns and idiotic drunks just like the UK! and the dracionian covid lockdowns and restrictions for you where you couldn't leave the country when the rest of the world opened up must have been hard.
I'm annoyed at myself for being in such a rush to get home last night I didn't realise I'd left my car window open and we had a torrential downpour overnight 
I have a friend who lives in Florida he moved there in the early 90s. He kept saying how he was going to move to Canada, Australia or NZ. because of the mess that is the USA. that was until covid
Not having a go or anything but its not as simple as that. The N word isn't and never has been an offensive word in the black community. It was turned into a racial slur by white people.
So telling black people to stop using a word that white people made offensive and derogatory just smacks of white people trying to shut black people up for something that's not their issue. Why should they be gagged or forced to have that word cancelled.
Black people don't have to march to the tune of white people anymore or be condescended by them or have words they use cancelled.
I'm white by the way but have a good understanding of the culture on a very personal level so its not my opinion I state but the view of people who tell, me when this topic arises, why they they won't be shut down by white people who hijacked their word and turned it into an insult.
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Imo if the word isn’t being used in a derogatory way, ie just by singing along with lyrics or reading a book there should be no issue. You cannot put it out in the public domain in the likes of a song and then tell a whole race they cannot sing along because their ancestors were racists.Not having a go or anything but its not as simple as that. The N word isn't and never has been an offensive word in the black community. It was turned into a racial slur by white people.
So telling black people to stop using a word that white people made offensive and derogatory just smacks of white people trying to shut black people up for something that's not their issue. Why should they be gagged or forced to have that word cancelled.
Black people don't have to march to the tune of white people anymore or be condescended by them or have words they use cancelled.
I'm white by the way but have a good understanding of the culture on a very personal level so its not my opinion I state but the view of people who tell, me when this topic arises, why they they won't be shut down by white people who hijacked their word and turned it into an insult.
Peace
If it’s being used in another way then of course the sentiment stands that it is not appropriate to use at all.
The grass is always greener and all that.
I have family in America and when they first moved out there I was all 'I'd love to live here' however the more time I've spent there the more I've thought I'd wouldn't touch it with a barge pole.
People begging on tiktok. It's pathetic, go out and get a proper job instead of scrounging off your fans. Tbh these 'fans' are pathetic as well, what are you giving them money for??
They mustn't have the brains they were born with to pour money into the pockets of people who treat them with no respect whatsoever. Ungrateful and greedy the lot of them.
They mustn't have the brains they were born with to pour money into the pockets of people who treat them with no respect whatsoever. Ungrateful and greedy the lot of them.
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I'm not sure you've got the bit about white people setting the standards about telling black people what they can and can't say.
They absolutely can use their inoffensive term in a public domain and they can demand that the people who turned it into a racial slur not to use it. Black people don't have to take on white peoples opinion about it. Black people don't write music with white people in mind.
Also racism exists today, its didn't go away when the ancestors died.
Regarding the N word, I see both sides tbh. I think it massively depends on context, if a white person using it in an obviously derogatory and insulting manner, then yeah they’re just being racist. However if you’re rapping some nicki and it accidentally slips out… well clearly you weren’t actually trying to offend anyone so I don’t think you should be dragged for it.
But I’m the same sentence, white people are being told what they can’t say. There are plenty of derogatory terms peoples still use in today’s society and we cannot police it all.
As I said, if it’s in a song frankly I don’t see the issue if you happen to be singing along and sing it. It doesn’t make you an instant racist especially if it’s a child.
I never said racism died, all I said you cannot say all white people are racist therefore must be banned from using a word because it’s in a song or a book and in the public domain.
I am not saying people should use the word, but I think there needs to be context considered.
This is just ridiculous. If I’m singing along to a song I am not being racist I am just singing. If I walked up to a black person and called them a racist word then obviously I am being a dick. They are completely separate.
Black people have lived under opression from white people. White people have never experienced mass oppression, and thats what makes it different.
The oppressed are not cancelling their word because of white peoples hurt feelings on the matter. Wasn't that the original point … if we cant use it then nor should they. We shouldn't be waffing the white finger at them after centuries of white oppression.
Also I never said all white people are racist and i dont think you are either. I hope thats not coming across, it just sometimes boils down to 'white gaze'.
I agree with you, we cannnot police it but we can listen to and respect and support the newer generations so we can move forward from the past , or at least understand the link to oppression and white people using that word.
Let the black person decide on what is and isn't offensive.
I'll leave it there because my view isn't a rant as such and i don't want to upset people any further
As a white person maybe you shouldn’t dictate what you believe a black person may want.
As i said in a previous post I was portrayimg the view of those close to me who are of that culture.
Ok I’ll go and delete half my Spotify library as I wouldn’t want to offend someone while doing my housework alone in my house
Many moons ago I got pinged here by someone for posting song lyrics an influencer had used in a TikTok to highlight her behaviour. I thought she was being inconsistent. She had made another post where she said it shouldn't be used at all but then at the same time she was using it for her bathroom makeover transformation?
Oh why did I not censor it and blank it out when I copied it? I told them if the mods thought it was too much they would remove it. I was not calling anyone it and it wasn't deleted in the end.
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