This is part of the problem, and that he decided after I’d spent time searching to change his mind when it was him that said to all have a trip together and all get an apartment to stay in together. If he’d said to start with “Hey we should all go to London but I’m gonna stay and my sisters and we’ll just meet up everyday” then the other friend could have decided if he had to money to spend splitting the Air Bnb 3 ways instead of 4, and we could decide if we wanted to share with 1 friend as a couple. Now it’s looking like the 2nd friend is gonna say he can’t afford it because he’s viewing the group chat and not replying and the trip isn’t gonna go ahead after we’ve sorted pet sitters and booked time off.There were 4 of them originally so it makes it more difficult as 3 if the 4th opts out.
Unless they're very cosy friends!
We can still have a trip as a couple but it’s the 3rd time I’ve spent time starting to plan a group holiday that’s come to nothing because they think you can get a full holiday in 2022 for about £200.
Yes he’s the only one that can drive but he used to be reasonable about petrol costs. I wouldn’t mind even paying the extra cause he’s driving, so we cover the full petrol costs for him being the driver so he doesn’t have to pay any petrol, but I think it’s taking the piss to have a £15 journey and expect us all to pay £15, so he’s just pocketing £30.If your friend wants to stay with his sister and travel in to London to hang out with you I don’t see why that’s a problem?? You & your boyfriend can stay in central london and your friend can come to meet you and then do whatever you were planning to do in London. Really don’t see why you’ve got an issue with that????
Is there a reason why he seems to always be the designated driver? Do you drive/have a car yourself?
No but it’s only become something we’ve noticed since about Juneish, so it’s one of those things where it’s now happened 3/4 times and you start to notice it and it pisses you off and you moan about it hoping it’ll stop before you have to say something.Hannah have you ever challenged him on it? He can't automatically expect you to make up for any income disparity. If you offer, fine, but doesn't sound like this is the case!
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